The Ultimate Guide to Mindfulness

 

Negative thoughts and emotions can interfere with our day to day lives. It’s important to try not to let these get to you. But if you don’t know how to properly identify all of your negative thought patterns, they will begin to get in the way of living a happy life.
I can’t say that I live a 100% 24/7 mindful life, But overtime I have learned how to quickly get my thoughts under control, and to live in the present without many worries. It would be unrealistic to expect yourself to be mindful all the time, it’s just not possible, and that’s okay.

Today I will be sharing a guide that I use to be mindful and live in the moment! What is mindfulness anyway?

 

 

By definition, mindfulness is “the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.” To put that in a more simply way, you could call mindfulness “Living in the moment.” When hearing such a simple definition, you may think that it’s easy being mindful, but with thoughts and worries getting in the way of just trying to live in the moment, it can get very hard. Especially if your super busy with home life, work life, family life and so on.

So where do you begin?

This can be a tough question, because you start right now, in fifteen minutes, tomorrow, or a whole year from now. You can be mindful literally anywhere at anytime. My favorite method is doing a 21 day challenge. It takes about 21 days to start a new habit, so I believe if you spend 21 days trying to be mindful throughout the day, it may begin to come easier afterwards. My 21 day challenge for mindfulness involves spending 10 minutes at each location you go to during the day trying to be mindful.

For example: After you wake up, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at home, if you go to work, out to run errands, etc, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at each of those locations. What I love about doing this is that you can adjust the time to more or less than 10 minutes if needed, and it’s easy and doesn’t take up to much time. After those 21 days you can reflect on how you felt when being mindful and you can choose to continue doing so with more time added on.

Other Mindfulness Activities-

Meditation- Taking a couple minutes to just sit in silence and listen to all the sounds that surround you is one of my favorite ways to relax. When meditating you begin to notice things about how your breathing, feeling and sounds that you never pay any mind to at any other time. Just spending a small amount of time doing nothing is super beneficial.

Doing one thing at a time, and spending a long time doing- This may be annoying at first to those who are always busy with a lot on their plates. You might be thinking “There’s no way I’ll get anything done” But when you actually spend your time on one thing and doing it slowly and deliberately your time will not go to waste. This will help you learn to do things with quality and not quantity. It will take practice at first but in the long run may help your working life.

Stop worrying about the future- This is hard, because we all feel like there is something to worry about. But it’s always most important to focus on what’s happening now rather than what’s going to happen in the future. The future doesn’t exist yet, and you are what makes the future. This can be a hard thing to grasp, but focusing on the now will lead to better future. So every time you feel yourself worrying, try to get your mind back in mindful mode.

The benefits-

There are so many benefits of being mindful that I can list, but here are just a few:
– Less anxiety
– Feeling more accomplished with life
– Less worrying and feel overwhelmed
– Lowering blood pressure and improving memory

Those are a just a few things that will come when being mindful. It’s important to remember that mindfulness is not always easy but it is always beneficial. Practice makes perfect!

I hope you found this simple guide helpful! Please feel free to let me know any comments, questions or concerns that you may have!

Much love

Rosie xoxo

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Top 10 Best Tips for Goal Setting

goal settingHello everyone! I mentioned on twitter a few days ago that i was planning on writing a post on goal setting, and here it is!

Many people set goals and for some reason never get around to completing them. I have experienced this as well, and I know how bad it feels when I can’t get a goal done. It might make you feel lazy or unsuccessful. I’m pretty sure most of you know the feeling.

There are many reasons why you may not be able to complete your goals. This is why its crucial to know how to set your goals to make them as achievable as possible.

Why is goal setting important?goal is important
  • Completing goals makes you feel good and its a boost of self esteem.
  • Getting what you want in life.
  • Completing smaller goals can lead to completing a larger goal.

There are ways to complete your goals and settings them, and its faster than you thought was possible! Here are those tips-

1. Making sure there achievable-
Many of us have issues with accidentally setting achievable goals. A goal that may be too hard or may not fit into your schedule might not be achievable at this time. But don’t let this discourage you, it’s always important to start with baby steps.
2. Start small-
Lets say you want to redesign your whole bedroom, you should start with the smaller stuff first such as, “Pick out color scheme”, “Figure out budget”, “Pick out furniture design” and as you complete those goals, you can slowly work your way up to completing the official goal.
3. Be specific-
Using our previous example, you wouldn’t simply say “redesign bedroom”, you have to be specific and go into the details about how to redesign your bedroom.
4. Clearing your head before hand-
It may be hard to figure out what goals you want to complete if your mind is all over the place. A quick five to ten minute meditation might help you clear your head so you can get your priorities straight to set your goals.
5. Stop doubting yourself-
Don’t doubt yourself when setting your goals, that only sets you up for failure! Do not let yourself down!
6. Learn and do your research-
Go online and look up how other people have completed goals that are similar to yours!  Do your research on goal setting and how others have completed their goals.
7. Always have a deadline-
Have a deadline that will motivate you to complete the goal on time. This deadline can help hold you accountable for getting the goal completed!
8. Plan of action-
Along with making your goals, you should come up with a plan on how you are going to complete them people sometimes miss this step when goal setting. I believe this is crucial for actual being able to get goals done.
9. Remember the “SMART” theory- 
What is the smart theory? Making sure your goals have these key points:
S- Specific 
M- Measurable 
A- Attainable 
R- Realistic 
T- Time bounded 
Always follow these points!
10. Stick to them!-
This is important! (Of course!) sticking to goals is hard but it feels great to complete them! Be persistent and do not give up when things are hard! Don’t let yourself down!

Goal qoutesI hope you all are able to use these tips in your life with goal setting! Let me know how you guys liked these tips, and how you used them in life.

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Love,

Rosie

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60 Day Happiness Challenge

60 day happiness challengeHello everyone! I hope your week has been well, I’m starting a 60 day self care/ Happiness challenge! This comes with a FREE printable PDF to use and follow along with in this challenge!

60 days is a lot to some people so I have separated the challenge into two 30 day challenges. You can choose to do 10 days, 30 days or all 60! Whatever makes you feel more comfortable and helps you out best!

Basically, I will be give a challenge everyday for the next SIXTY days! There are no rules and you can follow along whatever way you’d like! You can also use any of these self-care tips to create your own happiness challenge/routine. You can do these happiness and self care tips with any one as well, friends, family and I always recommend doing this kind of stuff with your children to teach them coping skills to use as grow older!

Here it goes!:

Day 1- Make your bed when you wake up! (Seems simple but it makes your room look so much more put together!)
Day 2- Cook yourself your favorite meal! (This can be something fancy or just a TV dinner, whatever makes you happiest!)
Day 3- Start a new book!
Day 4- Watch one of your favorite childhood movies! (Here comes the nostalgia!)
Day 5- Visit a library! (Get some peace and quiet!)
Day 6- Bubble bath time! (Find a DIY bath bomb recipe or hit up Lush if you’d like!)
Day 7- Go on a nature walk!
Day 8- Complete a small goal! (Legit anything from vacuuming your house to simply getting out of the house!)
Day 9- Smile at everyone you see! (I’ve always done this, brightens everyone’s day!)
Day 10- Meditate for at least 15 minutes!
Day 11- Create a positive music playlist!
Day 12- Watch a feel good movie!
Day 13- Declutter something in your home! (I should probably declutter my desk after this!)
Day 14- Create a bucket list!
Day 15- One day without social media!
Day 16- Create a vision board!
Day 17- Create a list of everything your grateful for! (Count those blessings)
Day 18- Do some stretching and some yoga!
Day 19- Watch an inspiring ted talk!
Day 20- Spend time with a pet! (If you don’t have a pet, find a friend or families pet!)
Day 21- Journal your thoughts throughout the day!
Day 22- Plan your dream trip!
Day 23- Stay in your pajamas as much as possible today! (Or just wear comfortable clothes!)
Day 24- Wear your favorite outfit! (I know that both guys and girls have that favorite outfit that makes them feel confident!)
Day 25- Eat healthy all day!
Day 26- Take yourself out on a date!
Day 27- Do something creative! (Make a collage, poetry, drawing, painting, etc!)
Day 28- Rearrange your wardrobe!
Day 29- Buy yourself a new outfit! (I love this!
Day 30- Go on a picnic with yourself or with some one you love!
Day 31- Avoid checking your phone today! (Focus on whats in front of you and being mindful!)
Day 32- Bike ride! (If you don’t have bike, borrow a friends, or just go out for a walk or run on a bike trail!)
Day 33- Play a board game!
Day 34- Use a self care product! (Face mask, stress relieving lotions, etc!)
Day 35- Random act of kindness!
Day 36- Write a letter to future you!
Day 37- Write a letter to past you!
Day 38- Long and thoughtful shower!
Day 39- Take a nap today!
Day 40- Donate old and unused clothes/items to goodwill!
Day 41- Go to your favorite place! (Park, restaurant, anything you love!)
Day 42- Order takeout!
Day 43- Go out for ice cream!
Day 44- Dance to your favorite feel good song!
Day 45- Write a letter forgiving yourself for any past guilt or shame you may have.
Day 46- Sit in the sun!
Day 47- Find something to be thankful for about today!
Day 48- Start a small daily habit!
Day 49- Plan an evening of chill!
Day 50- Every time you look in the mirror give yourself a compliment!
Day 51- Get an early start to the day!
Day 52- Create a list of daily goals!
Day 53- Clean out your email inbox!
Day 54- Organize your desk!
Day 55- Write down 10 things you love about yourself!
Day 56- Write a letter to someone you love (best friends, family member, S.O) thanking them for being by your side!
Day 57- Get yourself a coloring book!
Day 58- Binge watch a favorite show or movie series!
Day 59- Drink enough water throughout the day!
Day 60- Pick out your favorites from this list to create your own self-care routine! (Most important!)

Here are the PDF’s that you can print and cross out as you go:

1st 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!
2nd 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!

I hope you enjoy these free printable’s!  Please let me know how you do on this challenge, would love to hear some feedback. You can let me know in the comments or contact me Here!

(: BTW- You can rearrange the days on this list to match your own personal schedule as well!

Much love,

Rosie

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How to Handle Past Trauma

how to deal with past traumaSymptoms of Trauma:

  • Shock
  • Mood Swings
  • Depressions
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling Numb
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Withdrawal
  • Nightmares
So what is trauma anyway?

Trauma, by googles definition is a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Trauma can be cause by any emotional, stressful event. Such as abuse, bullying, an accident, a lose of a loved one, etc.

Any event can lead to trauma, especially when it happens in situation where you have no power to do anything about it, causing you to feel hopelessness.  For example, a car accident or childhood abuse, where you are too young or someone else is involved causing you to be unable to do anything about it.

Childhood trauma can increase the risk of future trauma. If you experience trauma in your childhood, it may cause you to be more of sensitive adult. Which can lead to being a lot more  vulnerable for trauma as an adult. Everyone’s trauma is different as well, we all experience and react to our environment differently. One person may experience a traumatic event and not be as affected as someone else who experienced something very similar. And that’s okay.

experience with traumaMy personal experience-

As a child I struggled with bullying and a terrible home life. At home my dad had serious anger issues, he was regularly emotionally and verbally abusive.  I never had a safe space. When going to school and was bullied, then I went home and was bullied. I was constantly in fear. I never knew if I was going to have a good day, decent day or an absolutely horrible day. Sometimes I was in fear for my life.

All these incidents have followed me into adulthood. I have had many moments and times where I was taken back to these moments through nightmares, similar situations and anxiety. Over time I have learned from my struggle. And I’m still learning everyday.

How and what I learned-
  • I realized I was more than the issues I’ve dealt with, I am more than my flaws. The trauma I experience does make the person I am.
  • Learning to find closure by letting go even though it’s hard, and I still struggle some times.
  • Connecting with others, this is important. Finding people with similar situations and experiences, such as group therapy programs, etc. You can find out new ways to cope with your trauma from other people and share your methods with them as well.
  • Psychical Activity- this can go with any kind of issue. I always recommend it. You can use any physical activity you enjoy as well. Weight lifting, running, walking, dancing, hiking, anything you enjoy that will get you moving!
  • Finding happiness in the little things, such as taking gratitude everyday for everything you have been in this life. Every week I try to write ten things I’m grateful for that happened throughout my week. Finding happiness in the little things has helped so much.

 

Developing this coping skills and adding them to your routine may be hard at first. It may take a lot of time as well. Sometimes I still have moments where the issues from my past get to me. I know it’s never going to be 100 percent perfect, and I know that’s okay. I still work hard on bettering myself as person and coping with my trauma.
I’m grateful to have gone this far in life, I’m still growing as well, we all are!

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
― Camille Paglia

Hope you all enjoyed this and benefited from reading! I apologize for my short absence. Unfortunately I was dealing with problems with my computer and I had to take it into the shop! I have it back now and I’m so happy to be back on my blog!

Thank you for reading! Please leave comments and feedback if you have any! It’s very much appreciated!

Much love,
Rosie

Thinking Outside of the Box!

thinking outside of the box 1“You can’t force creatives into a box. If you try, they’ll no longer be creative. And no one will want your box.”

― Ryan Lilly

Every has heard the phrase “Think outside of the box!” before. It seems somewhat simple when you just hear of the idea. It’s just trying to think of ways that are new and different to your usual thinking patterns.

Of course it isn’t as easy as it sounds though.

We’re always told from our childhood to now that if we start thinking outside of the box, we can do anything we think of. Where do you begin though?

When you are feeling stuck in some place in your mind, that’s when it becomes time to start thinking outside of the box. It does not have to be challenging either.

It’s time to play a new role,

– Take a step back first.

Are stuck some where? In an argument, or having some sort of brain lapse? That’s when it’s time to take a step back and review the situation with a new perspective before continuing to push forward.

Well, where do I find this new perceptive?

This is whats amazing about the internet. You don’t need to look at through tons of bookstores to find out how others have handled situations similar to yours. A personal favorite place of mine find a new outlook is TED talks. They have all sorts of stories that are shared on there, some are quite humbling and some can give you that extra perspective you need.

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I am currently writing a book that has a character who is struggling with psychological issues.

When you are writing a book and creating a whole new person to be a character in it you really have to think outside of the box. You have to put yourself in the role of a new person that in reality, you’ve never even met before.

I have been told that I have to put myself in my characters shoes. And that’s what I’ve began doing.

With everything I do, I will sometimes ask myself in my head “What would my character be doing in this situation?” This has helped me learn more about my characters, and has helped me greatly with writing.

But I never thought I could of this as being something I could use in other situations in life, such as when I’m having a conflict with another person, or when having to make a tough decision. When I began to use these ideas in my life to tackle other issues I realized how thinking outside of the box could help me and everyone around me.

For Example-

When I am arguing with someone, I have started to instantly put myself in their shoes and figure out their side of the story. This has always helped my resolve issues and also realize when I could possibly be wrong.

Other examples and ways to start thinking outside the box-

thinking outside of the box
Asking questions and not accepting everything-

There are so many layers to literally everything. Not everything is as basic as it seems. There details to everything. We all think in simple routines. We get so stuck in thinking patterns that we stop thinking outside of the box. When you begin to break those thinking habits, you unlock a creative part of your mind and that can help with anything.

I have also felt that doing a lot of reading has changed my thinking for the better. A lot of books have changed me and shaped me into who I am.  Reading is a huge motivator for the mind!

I want you all to challenge yourselves everyday to think outside of the box, and hopefully you all will receive the same benefits that I receive from it! Never doubt yourself, or the fact that you have the ability to do anything you put your mind too!

Thank you all so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this article. Please feel free to leave feedback or Contact me here!

Much love,

Rosie

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Learning how to practice Self Love

This can be a tricky topic to go over. Everyone has there own Ideas of self love and how to practice it. And everyone struggles with finding self love at some point in their lives.

Self love, by definition, is

“Regard for one’s well-being and happiness.”

Which is accurate. But you add your own definitions to self-love as well. I would all define it as having both patience and comfort in yourself as a human being. Having comfort in myself is important to me because I believe that we aren’t always going to be 100% happy with ourselves, but we can be content with ourselves.

 

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Self love is something I’ve had issues with in the past, and I still work out practicing it today. I’ve talked about my experience with not loving  my body and with body dysmorphic disorder.  Read about My Experience with Body Dysmorphia.  But I’m here to tell you about how I’m working with struggles and give helpful advice.

Since I’ve already talked about issues with my body. I’m going to focus a little bit more on the insecurities I’ve had with coming to love my personality, and myself when it comes down to how I am academically, socially, Etc.

I’ve always been a shy kid, at school, at work, events, everywhere! I literally got demoted from a job to a position where I didn’t have to interact with costumers as much because I’m just too quiet. I’m also kind of “monotone”. Not super monotone, not like I don’t show any emotions (I actually think I show too much emotion!) I just have a somewhat bland voice, which didn’t work very well for in the costumer service industry.

I hated how I couldn’t talk to people though, I knew what I wanted to say, but the words wouldn’t come out. Blaming my childhood for it to didn’t help, I was just doing so because I wasn’t able to understand myself. It made it worse that I just couldn’t find anyone with a similar issue to mine either.

Learning to love the parts about myself that seemed like they were my weaknesses was hard. I had to learn to understand myself first.

What I began to do-

  • I began to give up on judging myself, comparing myself to others and being afraid of what others think. This took a lot of practice, and it probably with for you as well, but its worth it.
  • I started to actually try to figure out why I was a “quiet” person. I realized that there is nothing wrong with being shy. It doesn’t make you “antisocial” either. I’m a quiet person but I’m a good listener. I love having long conversation with people, and learning about them and just listening to their stories. I also think that me being quieter has made me think and analyze situations and people a lot more instead of just jumping right into it. I’ve realized how being quiet can be a strength instead of a weakness.
  • I’ve realized that every situation that I have been in that my shyness has gotten in the way or has made me embarrassed, that  so many other people have been in similar situations. And they made it through just fine. I’m not alone with any issue or insecurity that I may have. The same goes for all of you reading this. Whatever your issue you may think you have,
    self love you matterYou are not alone!

    I’ve found comfort in myself and in who I am. Valuing myself as a human being has been a huge milestone for me. And with all this, I’ve started to do more for myself and take for my myself to practice self love and self-care.
    For Example

  • Taking a hot bubble bath, and dressing in nice warm clothes afterwards
  • Doing one of my favorite hobbies for at least thirty minutes a day, such as reading.
  • Planning a relaxation day every once and a while.
  • Counting my blessing.

I’ve began to do these things more because I value myself and my time more. These are all things that you can do to practice self love and self-care. You can also add some of your own things to do that you make you feel good!

 “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball 

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Love,
Rosie <3

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How Family Therapy Can Help – My Experience

family therapy

Family therapy can help any family. Even with small problems. One of the biggest conceptions on family therapy is that only the most dysfunctional will benefit from therapy, but any family can.

My family was dysfunctional in quite a few ways. The communication was awful at home. When I was at one of the lowest points in my life, my therapist told my mom and I that I needed to seek a family therapist because my home life being so crazy was strongly contributing to my problems in a negative way.

Many people can seek family therapy for other things such as if a child is dealing with issues and needs support from their family.

I originally started family therapy with my mom. This was basically us venting about out time at home and with my dad. Progress wasn’t being made until my dad joined us in therapy. Since communication was the worst between my parents.

Progress wasn’t made immediately, but overtime things got better. Family therapy gave us a safe space and time to talk about problems at home. We each had a chance to voice our own side of each story and talk out a solution.

Everyone in a family unit is different and has their own side to every thing. When one person is a family is dealing with a mental illness or some sort of problem, the whole family will be affected by this.

It’s hard to remember this sometimes. It’s easier to only focus on the stress of yourself or the one person without realize how everyone else is affected. Even if they aren’t saying so.

I needed to be given the opportunity to voice how I felt to my dad is a safe space.

Growing up my dad had severe anger issues. He would lash out at everything and anything. Big and small. Things at home became harder and harder. My dad would scream, call names, and even punch holes in walls. I actually ended up scared for the safety of me and my family.

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My dad never laid a hand on any of us, but I still would walk away with the emotional scars and damage from this time in my life.

My dads issues started getting better when I became severely depressed and had to go to the hospital for my first suicide attempt. He realized what he was doing was actually causing me damage. Things calmed down a bit, but there still was no communication and I need got any closure I needed from my childhood.

My parents continued to regularly argue even though my dad wasn’t as angry. They never got along and they still have some trouble to this day. An argument would  be started about literally everything. From dinner to what grocery shopping to how I was doing at school. It was a never-ending circle of events.

This made this hard for me. I was never able to focus and there always was negative energy around the house. My dad and I didn’t get along very well either. We lived together almost like college room mates, he never said anything to me. He wouldn’t even say I love you, so I stopped saying it as well.

I wanted this issues to get better, I was sick of feeling trapped in my own home. I had so much weight on my shoulders, and not a single bit of closure on why my dad treated everyone the way he did when I was a child.

family 1Obviously things aren’t perfect now, but they are definitely better. I have been able to close doors to some parts of my life and stop carrying the burdens of the past on my shoulders.

I’m still working on bringing closure to my past, this is something I struggle with since I am unable to get all the answers I need. But despite this, the progress that my family and I have made has been something to be grateful for. My dad and I’s relationship has improved as well. This is something I can’t replace. I wouldn’t have come this far without family therapy.

“The only mistake you can made is not asking for help” – Sandeep Jauher

Never be afraid to reach out for help, whether the problem is big or small.

Love,
Rosie <3

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The Toxic Internet: How the internet turned me into something I’m not

toxic internet

How the internet made me into something I’m not and How I got out of it.

This is a weird topic to talk about, isn’t it? Since here I am, on the internet, talking about the internet being toxic. The internet has everything from funny cat videos, to cool stuff, all the way to being able to make new friends. But where do things start heading south?

I started using the internet on regular basis at a young age. I was around middle school age and social media and the internet where still somewhat new to everyone. Online I learned a lot, but with all the freedom I had, and no supervision, I made a lot of mistakes.

 

Now you must be asking: How can you really make that much mistakes on the internet?

 

It all started with “Cat-fishing”, Cat-fishing is when you go onto a social media account and pretend to be someone you aren’t by using fake names, pictures and information.

I was young, and my best friend told me to just make a Facebook/Myspace account with a fake name and photos because we where too young to have our own information on our accounts. Looking back on this, I wondered why I even made an account at all. At the end of the day, I was too young and this was an awful idea.

With the fake name and the pictures of a pretty girl on my profile, my friends list started growing rapidly. This made me feel wanted and all the extra attention made me happy at the time. Writing about this honestly makes feel so embarrassed cause I wonder why I did any of this.

 

Talking to these people online started to create problems. People thought I was older, and lived a completely different life than I actually did.

People would want to meet up, or video chat and for some reason they would get so angry if I said no. Some people were honestly a bit insane and over the top. Someone even called the police on me! But being around 11-12 and a total immature, naive catfish, I had no idea how to handle these situations.

internet

 

This would continue to get worse as I began to dislike myself even more. Everyone only like the fake me, fake pictures and fake life, but no one cared for the real me. I started to feel awful about myself and every time I looked in the mirror, I hoped I would see someone different than me.

Every morning I’d hope to open my eyes to some great life that was just anything but what I was actually living. I wanted to be perfect.

The internet gave me this ability to become someone I’m not. There was so many influences across the web that told it was okay to continue what I was doing.

 

So whats the lesson in all this?

I learned how easy the internet makes  it to play a role, and a lot of people do it. Not everyone uses fake pictures and catfish accounts either. Some celebrities edit their photos and make it out to seem like their life is picture perfect. We all want to show the world how interesting and amazing our life is, so we try our hardest. It’s bout amazing and terrifying to see how far we have come with both technology and the internet.

Now that I am much older,

I know how to use the internet in a more positive manner such as my blog and trying to spread positivity with writing. Through my blog I want to continue spreading this positivity. Teaching others how to use the internet as more of a happy place for them has made me happy.

I finally deleted my catfish accounts around age of 13-14,when I started high school and started making real friends. I also realized if anyone actually found these catfish accounts it wouldn’t make me look that good. Doing this made me feel better over time, because I started to feel more like myself and work more on myself.

I realized how something as little has photo shopping your photos can change how you look at yourself. And that Pretending to be someone else can begin to turn you into someone else.

The most important thing to take from this is that not everything online is as perfect as it seems. All the celebrities you know are human just like you and me and their lives are not perfect. Don’t use the internet for attention either, you might just end up even more lonely than you where to begin with.

Be yourself and love yourself. Do things for you not for others. Use the Internet to look for positive role models and happiness.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Healthy Eating for Happiness

Healthy eating can be hard but it’s crazy how much it can affect your mood. Foods like chocolate, cake, and chips, tend to give you temporary happiness but since they contain no real nutrients and simple are not good for you, they make you feel crappy in the long run.

Studies have actually shown that unhealthy diets contribute to depression.

Sugar can actually cause you stress. Since when you are stressed out, your body looks for sugary food. A lot of people who start addictive binge eating begin eating when stressed out and depressed.

Emotional eating is definitely not the way to go when feeling down. You are not eating because you are hungry, but because you are looking for a temporary way to relieve your stress.

It’s important to eat enough as well. It is not just eating junk foods and sugars that can cause issues with mental health. If you are eating enough as you should be or not eating at the right times, this can cause some issues.

If you are feeling tired, light headed and your stomach is feeling empty then it’s important to eat. Never starve yourself for any reason, always remember you are beautiful and both you and your body deserve the best treatment.

The most important meal of day- Breakfast!! You all have probably heard this many times before. But it’s true! Starting your day off with a nice big meal full of nutrients will leave you feeling happy and satisfied!

For me personally, I feel so much better when I eat healthy with an occasional treat every once and a while. My favorite treat is a giant bowl ice cream!! 😉 Since I started regularly eating healthy, I have also felt so much more confident with my body. I think this is because I’m taking good care of  my body so I feel so much happy with my body.

The most important thing out of all this is to do what makes you feel happy, confident, and satisfied. Everyone deserves to love themselves and be happy and the best way to get started us by eating healthy and taking care of your body!

Much love,

Rosie

The Lowest Point in my Life

The lowest point in my life: A journal prompt

I’m doing a bit of a heavy prompt today. I’m going to be talking about one the lowest points in my life yet.

It all started when I first began high school. I never had many friends before this point and I was confused and trying to find myself. While doing so I ended up mixing up within the wrong crowd.

I met my first best friend there within the first few days. At first I was excited, I never thought I could have so much in common with someone. This made me so happy. And because I never had many friends, I got ahead of myself very quickly.

Soon after meeting her, I found out a lot. She was living in a rough situation, emotionally abusive parents, she also self harmed and did quite a bit of drugs.

At this time, I did whatever I could to fit in with her. She continued to introduce me to people who were a lot like her. I fell right into all of their bad habits.

They convinced me to not care about myself or simply anything because “fuck the world”. (Sorry for cursing.) I became irritable all the time and treated my parents horribly. I stopped doing most of my school work and ditched school often.

At this time, I also started regular self harm around this time as well. I was very depressed and I was treating myself through drugs, influences, and self harm. I didn’t know any other way of coping.

At this time I was getting help as well, hospitalization was also considered at times. But I had a lot of trouble accepting this help.

Towards the end of the school year thing slowly began to improve in my life.

I started to realize what was happening to me. I also made some good friends, who are still my friends today. These friends told me that I was hanging out with the wrong crowd and that I deserved to be happy. They actually made me feel loved and cared about.Randomly, my friend who was the bad influence stopped talking to me. This was after she started dating a girl who didn’t like me very much. I remember being depressed and feeling betrayed over this. For a while I thought she was a true friend. I tried to talk to her several times, only to be ignored.

My friends started showing me screenshots of her talking behind my back. That was the deal breaker for me. I realized how awful my friends were to me at times. Then I realized I deserved better.

I dumped all my bad friends and bad habits and started working on myself to get better. 

From there my growth was slow but now my life is so much better than what it was. I’m grateful for the friends and the family that have helped me grow and change.

I just want to say I’m in much better place now. And the friend who I originally met in my freshman year is also in a much better place. I’m so grateful to be where I am right now. I also want to thank everyone reading for the support you all have given.

Contact me here if you having any feedback or questions. You can also leave a comment if you’d like 🙂

Much love,

Rosie