The Ultimate Guide to Mindfulness

 

Negative thoughts and emotions can interfere with our day to day lives. It’s important to try not to let these get to you. But if you don’t know how to properly identify all of your negative thought patterns, they will begin to get in the way of living a happy life.
I can’t say that I live a 100% 24/7 mindful life, But overtime I have learned how to quickly get my thoughts under control, and to live in the present without many worries. It would be unrealistic to expect yourself to be mindful all the time, it’s just not possible, and that’s okay.

Today I will be sharing a guide that I use to be mindful and live in the moment! What is mindfulness anyway?

 

 

By definition, mindfulness is “the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.” To put that in a more simply way, you could call mindfulness “Living in the moment.” When hearing such a simple definition, you may think that it’s easy being mindful, but with thoughts and worries getting in the way of just trying to live in the moment, it can get very hard. Especially if your super busy with home life, work life, family life and so on.

So where do you begin?

This can be a tough question, because you start right now, in fifteen minutes, tomorrow, or a whole year from now. You can be mindful literally anywhere at anytime. My favorite method is doing a 21 day challenge. It takes about 21 days to start a new habit, so I believe if you spend 21 days trying to be mindful throughout the day, it may begin to come easier afterwards. My 21 day challenge for mindfulness involves spending 10 minutes at each location you go to during the day trying to be mindful.

For example: After you wake up, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at home, if you go to work, out to run errands, etc, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at each of those locations. What I love about doing this is that you can adjust the time to more or less than 10 minutes if needed, and it’s easy and doesn’t take up to much time. After those 21 days you can reflect on how you felt when being mindful and you can choose to continue doing so with more time added on.

Other Mindfulness Activities-

Meditation- Taking a couple minutes to just sit in silence and listen to all the sounds that surround you is one of my favorite ways to relax. When meditating you begin to notice things about how your breathing, feeling and sounds that you never pay any mind to at any other time. Just spending a small amount of time doing nothing is super beneficial.

Doing one thing at a time, and spending a long time doing- This may be annoying at first to those who are always busy with a lot on their plates. You might be thinking “There’s no way I’ll get anything done” But when you actually spend your time on one thing and doing it slowly and deliberately your time will not go to waste. This will help you learn to do things with quality and not quantity. It will take practice at first but in the long run may help your working life.

Stop worrying about the future- This is hard, because we all feel like there is something to worry about. But it’s always most important to focus on what’s happening now rather than what’s going to happen in the future. The future doesn’t exist yet, and you are what makes the future. This can be a hard thing to grasp, but focusing on the now will lead to better future. So every time you feel yourself worrying, try to get your mind back in mindful mode.

The benefits-

There are so many benefits of being mindful that I can list, but here are just a few:
– Less anxiety
– Feeling more accomplished with life
– Less worrying and feel overwhelmed
– Lowering blood pressure and improving memory

Those are a just a few things that will come when being mindful. It’s important to remember that mindfulness is not always easy but it is always beneficial. Practice makes perfect!

I hope you found this simple guide helpful! Please feel free to let me know any comments, questions or concerns that you may have!

Much love

Rosie xoxo

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Top 10 Best Tips for Goal Setting

goal settingHello everyone! I mentioned on twitter a few days ago that i was planning on writing a post on goal setting, and here it is!

Many people set goals and for some reason never get around to completing them. I have experienced this as well, and I know how bad it feels when I can’t get a goal done. It might make you feel lazy or unsuccessful. I’m pretty sure most of you know the feeling.

There are many reasons why you may not be able to complete your goals. This is why its crucial to know how to set your goals to make them as achievable as possible.

Why is goal setting important?goal is important
  • Completing goals makes you feel good and its a boost of self esteem.
  • Getting what you want in life.
  • Completing smaller goals can lead to completing a larger goal.

There are ways to complete your goals and settings them, and its faster than you thought was possible! Here are those tips-

1. Making sure there achievable-
Many of us have issues with accidentally setting achievable goals. A goal that may be too hard or may not fit into your schedule might not be achievable at this time. But don’t let this discourage you, it’s always important to start with baby steps.
2. Start small-
Lets say you want to redesign your whole bedroom, you should start with the smaller stuff first such as, “Pick out color scheme”, “Figure out budget”, “Pick out furniture design” and as you complete those goals, you can slowly work your way up to completing the official goal.
3. Be specific-
Using our previous example, you wouldn’t simply say “redesign bedroom”, you have to be specific and go into the details about how to redesign your bedroom.
4. Clearing your head before hand-
It may be hard to figure out what goals you want to complete if your mind is all over the place. A quick five to ten minute meditation might help you clear your head so you can get your priorities straight to set your goals.
5. Stop doubting yourself-
Don’t doubt yourself when setting your goals, that only sets you up for failure! Do not let yourself down!
6. Learn and do your research-
Go online and look up how other people have completed goals that are similar to yours!  Do your research on goal setting and how others have completed their goals.
7. Always have a deadline-
Have a deadline that will motivate you to complete the goal on time. This deadline can help hold you accountable for getting the goal completed!
8. Plan of action-
Along with making your goals, you should come up with a plan on how you are going to complete them people sometimes miss this step when goal setting. I believe this is crucial for actual being able to get goals done.
9. Remember the “SMART” theory- 
What is the smart theory? Making sure your goals have these key points:
S- Specific 
M- Measurable 
A- Attainable 
R- Realistic 
T- Time bounded 
Always follow these points!
10. Stick to them!-
This is important! (Of course!) sticking to goals is hard but it feels great to complete them! Be persistent and do not give up when things are hard! Don’t let yourself down!

Goal qoutesI hope you all are able to use these tips in your life with goal setting! Let me know how you guys liked these tips, and how you used them in life.

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Love,

Rosie

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Thinking Outside of the Box!

thinking outside of the box 1“You can’t force creatives into a box. If you try, they’ll no longer be creative. And no one will want your box.”

― Ryan Lilly

Every has heard the phrase “Think outside of the box!” before. It seems somewhat simple when you just hear of the idea. It’s just trying to think of ways that are new and different to your usual thinking patterns.

Of course it isn’t as easy as it sounds though.

We’re always told from our childhood to now that if we start thinking outside of the box, we can do anything we think of. Where do you begin though?

When you are feeling stuck in some place in your mind, that’s when it becomes time to start thinking outside of the box. It does not have to be challenging either.

It’s time to play a new role,

– Take a step back first.

Are stuck some where? In an argument, or having some sort of brain lapse? That’s when it’s time to take a step back and review the situation with a new perspective before continuing to push forward.

Well, where do I find this new perceptive?

This is whats amazing about the internet. You don’t need to look at through tons of bookstores to find out how others have handled situations similar to yours. A personal favorite place of mine find a new outlook is TED talks. They have all sorts of stories that are shared on there, some are quite humbling and some can give you that extra perspective you need.

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I am currently writing a book that has a character who is struggling with psychological issues.

When you are writing a book and creating a whole new person to be a character in it you really have to think outside of the box. You have to put yourself in the role of a new person that in reality, you’ve never even met before.

I have been told that I have to put myself in my characters shoes. And that’s what I’ve began doing.

With everything I do, I will sometimes ask myself in my head “What would my character be doing in this situation?” This has helped me learn more about my characters, and has helped me greatly with writing.

But I never thought I could of this as being something I could use in other situations in life, such as when I’m having a conflict with another person, or when having to make a tough decision. When I began to use these ideas in my life to tackle other issues I realized how thinking outside of the box could help me and everyone around me.

For Example-

When I am arguing with someone, I have started to instantly put myself in their shoes and figure out their side of the story. This has always helped my resolve issues and also realize when I could possibly be wrong.

Other examples and ways to start thinking outside the box-

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Asking questions and not accepting everything-

There are so many layers to literally everything. Not everything is as basic as it seems. There details to everything. We all think in simple routines. We get so stuck in thinking patterns that we stop thinking outside of the box. When you begin to break those thinking habits, you unlock a creative part of your mind and that can help with anything.

I have also felt that doing a lot of reading has changed my thinking for the better. A lot of books have changed me and shaped me into who I am.  Reading is a huge motivator for the mind!

I want you all to challenge yourselves everyday to think outside of the box, and hopefully you all will receive the same benefits that I receive from it! Never doubt yourself, or the fact that you have the ability to do anything you put your mind too!

Thank you all so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this article. Please feel free to leave feedback or Contact me here!

Much love,

Rosie

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101 Reasons to be Happy

Hi everyone!

happy on dockWe all love to be happy, it’s always great to keep track of everything that makes you happy. So I created a list for everyone to brighten your day! You can always look back on this list in the future if you are feeling down!

101 Reasons to be happy
  1.  Someone loves you!
  2. You have the ability to smile!
  3. You are alive and breathing.
  4. The stars in the sky.
  5. If you are happy, you set the example for others to be happy.
  6. Pets! All kinds of pets, cats, dogs, rats, spiders, fish, All of them!

  7. You have a bed to sleep in and food to eat.
  8. You made it through school, and for those who are still in school, you will make it through!
  9. Walking on a sandy beach.
  10. Giving and receiving gifts on Christmas!
  11. You have the power to be mindful, and live in the moment.
  12. Nice, hot bubble baths!
  13. You have the internet!
  14. There’s a lot of people who spread love in this world!
  15. Everyday is a day to start anew.
  16. Cuddling exists.
  17. Walking through some soft grass without shoes.
  18. Great desserts! (Especially cakes and ice cream!)
  19. You have family members in this world.
  20. You have the ability to love.
  21. Nice warm weather.
  22. Watching the clouds and making shapes out of them.
  23. You get to wear comfy clothes whenever possible.
  24. Listening to your favorite music to cheer yourself up.
  25. Seeing a baby giggle.
  26. Cuddling a purring kitten.
  27. Petting a happy dog.be happy be bright
  28. Seeing old couples who still have a spark.
  29. Books and bookstores exist.
  30. Changing into dry warm clothes after shoveling snow outside.
  31. Getting good news!
  32. Drinking cold water after a dehydrating run.
  33. Having great friends.
  34. Going out for a long drive.
  35. Being in good health
  36. Remembering you have leftovers to eat from a great meal the night before.
  37. Wrapping gifts for a friend on a special occasion
  38. Waking up and having a great breakfast.
  39. People who care about you are out there.
  40. Freshly shaved legs/face.
  41. Being able to do volunteer work.
  42. Getting a winning lottery ticket. (Even if it’s for only 5 dollars!)
  43. Giving and receiving hugs and kisses.
  44. Binge watching a great show.
  45. Having a good cry and letting it all out.
  46. Pulling a warm blanket out of the dryer.
  47. You made a difference in this world by being here.
  48. You are so much smarter than you believe
  49. Falling in love.
  50. You are safe.happy in grass
  51. If you are unhappy, you are wasting your time and energy doing so.
  52. Dressing up in costumes and getting candy on Halloween.
  53. Looking back on great memories.
  54. Having the ability to go back to school.
  55. Being able to develop a new hobby!
  56. If you happy, you’re more likely to be kind.
  57. Having the ability to read.
  58. Having all five senses.
  59. Watching good movies with good people.
  60. Watching the stars at night.
  61. There are people who want you to be happy.
  62. Having a roof over your head.
  63. Taking a refreshing nap.
  64. Going out for walks in the woods.
  65. That new car smell. (And that old car smell too!)
  66. You impacted someones life in some way.
  67. You have goals to complete!
  68. Trust me, You look so much better smiling!
  69. You learned from your past mistakes.
  70. Everyday has the chance to be the best day of your life.
  71. Seeing a shooting star.
  72. Someone smiles at you everyday.
  73. You have someone in your life who supports you.
  74. You are a good person.
  75. Putting your foot down and saying no.
  76. Stretching out your back after sitting for a long time.
  77. Hearing different accents.
  78. Being able to learn a new language.
  79. Paying all your bills on time.
  80. You deserve to be happy.
  81. Lazy rivers at water parks.
  82. You will never to be alone.
  83. Counting your blessings!
  84. Humans have walked on the moon!
  85. Opening fortune cookies!
  86. You’ve made it through your struggles.
  87. Everything you’re going through now will pass.
  88. Cooking a recipe perfectly.
  89. You are doing the right thing.
  90. Being able to laugh!may you always be happy
  91. Clean sheets.
  92. Watching thunder and lightening storms.
  93. Giving forgiveness.
  94. and being forgiveness.
  95. Helping others.
  96. Finding your passion.
  97. Finding your soul mate.
  98. Feeling confident when looking in the mirror.
  99. Watching the sun set/Sun rise.
  100. Filling up a whole journal.
  101. You are you! <3

Feel free to continue to add to his list in the comments with what makes you happy! Its always important to remind yourself of what makes you happy, and to never let go of it!

Never give up on trying to be happy. You all are amazing people who deserve to be happy!

Sending out all my love to you all,

Rosie xo

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The Toxic Internet: How the internet turned me into something I’m not

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How the internet made me into something I’m not and How I got out of it.

This is a weird topic to talk about, isn’t it? Since here I am, on the internet, talking about the internet being toxic. The internet has everything from funny cat videos, to cool stuff, all the way to being able to make new friends. But where do things start heading south?

I started using the internet on regular basis at a young age. I was around middle school age and social media and the internet where still somewhat new to everyone. Online I learned a lot, but with all the freedom I had, and no supervision, I made a lot of mistakes.

 

Now you must be asking: How can you really make that much mistakes on the internet?

 

It all started with “Cat-fishing”, Cat-fishing is when you go onto a social media account and pretend to be someone you aren’t by using fake names, pictures and information.

I was young, and my best friend told me to just make a Facebook/Myspace account with a fake name and photos because we where too young to have our own information on our accounts. Looking back on this, I wondered why I even made an account at all. At the end of the day, I was too young and this was an awful idea.

With the fake name and the pictures of a pretty girl on my profile, my friends list started growing rapidly. This made me feel wanted and all the extra attention made me happy at the time. Writing about this honestly makes feel so embarrassed cause I wonder why I did any of this.

 

Talking to these people online started to create problems. People thought I was older, and lived a completely different life than I actually did.

People would want to meet up, or video chat and for some reason they would get so angry if I said no. Some people were honestly a bit insane and over the top. Someone even called the police on me! But being around 11-12 and a total immature, naive catfish, I had no idea how to handle these situations.

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This would continue to get worse as I began to dislike myself even more. Everyone only like the fake me, fake pictures and fake life, but no one cared for the real me. I started to feel awful about myself and every time I looked in the mirror, I hoped I would see someone different than me.

Every morning I’d hope to open my eyes to some great life that was just anything but what I was actually living. I wanted to be perfect.

The internet gave me this ability to become someone I’m not. There was so many influences across the web that told it was okay to continue what I was doing.

 

So whats the lesson in all this?

I learned how easy the internet makes  it to play a role, and a lot of people do it. Not everyone uses fake pictures and catfish accounts either. Some celebrities edit their photos and make it out to seem like their life is picture perfect. We all want to show the world how interesting and amazing our life is, so we try our hardest. It’s bout amazing and terrifying to see how far we have come with both technology and the internet.

Now that I am much older,

I know how to use the internet in a more positive manner such as my blog and trying to spread positivity with writing. Through my blog I want to continue spreading this positivity. Teaching others how to use the internet as more of a happy place for them has made me happy.

I finally deleted my catfish accounts around age of 13-14,when I started high school and started making real friends. I also realized if anyone actually found these catfish accounts it wouldn’t make me look that good. Doing this made me feel better over time, because I started to feel more like myself and work more on myself.

I realized how something as little has photo shopping your photos can change how you look at yourself. And that Pretending to be someone else can begin to turn you into someone else.

The most important thing to take from this is that not everything online is as perfect as it seems. All the celebrities you know are human just like you and me and their lives are not perfect. Don’t use the internet for attention either, you might just end up even more lonely than you where to begin with.

Be yourself and love yourself. Do things for you not for others. Use the Internet to look for positive role models and happiness.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Successes and Fails and Dealing with them

Talking about both successes and fails can be kind of a vague topic, but I’m going to try to dive deep and see what’s behind both my successes and my fails. Is it motivation? my mood? Or just pure luck?

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Honestly I’m not sure, but I’d like to share to try to motivate everyone out there

I think my biggest success was actually getting out there and starting this blog. I never thought I’d become a writer for a blog, or of any kind for that matter. But here I am writing this post. My 2 biggest fears with starting a blog were, simply failing, or getting judged. I think in my short time blogging, I’ve experienced both, but only on the side of motivation, happiness, and support. Of course I’ve tried writing a post and completely couldn’t do it, or someone has said to me “You have a blog?….why..?”

I’m hesitant to share my posts sometimes, I’m afraid that I’ll be judged. Overtime I’ve learned that most people, if they are true friends of yours, will support you and cheer you on through your journey as a blogger, whether that be big or small.

Another success of mine is learning to be myself. I’ve always have some trouble with this throughout my life. I was bullied as a child, at school and at home. This basically taught me to contain myself in a bottle without causing a bother to anyone around me.

I didn’t learn to express myself until recently. At the time I was fed up and finally moving into a new environment with new people, so I let loose. I went a little crazy at first but soon I got myself together and I found out who I really was inside and what I wanted to make of myself.

If I put all my successes to the side, then I have my fails.

Which honestly are all very little things that somehow manage to bother me throughout the day. Such as saying something embarrassing, or writing a not so great blog post. They aren’t super serious issues but I feel like they add up.

Dealing with the little things can be hard. I’ve learned how to overcome little embarrassments.

The best advice I’ve given myself, which I’ve mentioned in past posts, was that what happens today won’t matter in 10 years. Or possibly even in 2 weeks. I pretty much live by this advice. I seem to embarrass myself quite a lot at times or mess up in tiny ways at work and such. Once I began to realize how after some time these things didn’t matter, I saw an improvement.

I’m proud of myself, how I’ve grown and where I’m going. The biggest thing I’ve realized through my fails and successes was that everything is a learning experience.

I know that we only live once and everything I’ve done, I have learned something. I wouldn’t trad that for anything

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Much love,

Rosie

Don’t let anyone ruin your day!

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to see is the fact that you have the choice to not let others ruin your day. It’s different to ignore the negative minds of others, especially when they are someone who you are close too.

We all know people who are like this. They simply are just negative and they put all of their bad thoughts onto other people. Sometimes on purpose, and other times they don’t even realize what they are doing. They could just be having a bad day, so they are acting out on their emotions.

But you could be having a great day. And all those little negative comments could slowly ruin your day, to the point where you are miserable. Why does this happen? How can we prevent situations like this?

When you are feeling like someone is bringing you down,

  • You can just tell them kindly something along the lines of: “I’m sorry you feel this way, But I disagree.”
  • you can just walk away.
  • If they are a friend of yours, or someone who you really care about, you could ask them whats wrong and see if you could help. That would be a win-win for both of you!!

But if they do not deserve your time, then don’t give it to them.

Remember if you feel someone negatively affecting you, stop and think about it. Think about whether or not its even worth getting upset over. And remember how you felt before they made any comments. You should never let someone else ruin your mood. Always make yourself your number one priority. download

These people are having their own issues that they have to deal with. You do not deserve to carry their burdens. They arent going to become your problem if you don’t let them become your problem.

Life has it’s up’s and downs. There will be many days and many people like this that you will come across. Once you get into the habit of not letting others bring you down, and you take full control of all your emotions. You will feel so much greater. Your days will be fabulous!

Right now, you should make a promise to yourself to not let any negative people ruin your day. Start off your days with this mindset and things will get better. It can be hard at first, but the effort is always worth it.

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.”
Joel Osteen

If  you guys want to read an article on negative thoughts, which kind of goes hand in hand with this post, check it out HERE!!

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Thank you! Love,
Rosie

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Why you Should Read for Happiness

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“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”

– Dr. Suess

In middle school, I hated class, so I’d always keep a book under my desk to secretly read. I’d even be reading during lunch. No one would talk to me, when they did they weren’t always nice. Reading was an escape for me, a time to put my self in the narrators shoes and get lost in a book.

Reading has a strong positive effect on people. You can learn so much in such a short period of time. They are different from text books too, text books teach you stuff in the most boring ways possible. When you read a book for entertainment, you never expect to be so captivating in learning. But when you’re done reading, you feel accomplished and refreshed. I’ve been taught a lot of wisdom by many books. When reading you learn more about the world, you learn about others and improve your creativity and imagination.

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Fredrick Backman, My favorite author.

My favorite author is Fredik Backman. I’ve read 4 books of his, they are beautiful and they truly teach you a lot. His book “A man called Ove” is about a grumpy old man who on the inside has a big heart. The book slowly progresses as you learn more about Ove and why he is the way he is. You also get to follow along with his neighbors who force themselves on him and treat him with compassion even though he can be so grumpy. It was one of the best books I’ve ever read and it taught me so much about compassion.

There are so much different options for what to read about, you can read fiction or non-fiction, fantasy, romance, or realistic fiction. If you don’t enjoy reading, trust me I guarantee that somewhere there is at least one book you will enjoy. For anyone struggling with any kind of situation or mental illness, I always will suggest reading as an amazing coping strategy.

There is also books relating to mental health that give wonderful advice. Such as The Happiness Animal by Will Jelbert. Which I will link in this article!! You can also find great books relating to mental health through amazons best sellers. I highly recommend checking them out!

Next time you find yourself feeling down and unsure what to do, go to a public library. You can read for free there, and the quiet space there is a bonus. It’s a great place to escape reality for a little while and feel good again. A library card is free as well, you can rent books whenever you please, as long as you bring them back on time!

The overall perks of reading:
– Less stress
– It can be Free!
– Fun!
– Helps you sleep
– Learning new things.
– A fun escape to a whole new world!

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young. “

-Henry Ford

Start reading today, you will find some peace in doing so.

Love,

Rosie

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