Handling Rude People and Bullies

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Hello everyone!

Today I’ll be talking about rude people and the bullies you find in both your work like and your school life. Especially because now that school is starting and summer is over, school and work is now more of focus. Because of this we may have to deal with rude people more often unfortunately.

When we deal with rude people, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves and want to attack the person whose being rude and attacking you, it’s hard not to at times.

It’s sometimes best to just learn to walk away and not take it personally. If you are much younger and still in school it may be easier to just get an adult that you trust to help handle the situations with the bully. You should never have to deal with bullies alone.

basic tips on handling rude peopleSome Basic Tips-
Don’t take it personally

People who tend to be mean to other often are typically unhappy with themselves, they are sometimes immature and often dealing with their own personal issues in their life. There are some people who don’t have control in their lives, so they tend to look for things that they can control.

Don’t contribute to it

If someone’s being unkind and straight up rude to you, it may be easy to add fuel to the fire, but doing so might make the problem bigger. Remember that two wrongs don’t make a right.

It’s sometimes best to just be kind

If you regularly work with this person who is rude, try to be nice to them throughout the time you are with them. There was a woman at my work who was rude at times to many people throughout her shift. She could be controlling as well. But when she came to work with a pretty dress or something else I like. I would let her know that I like them. Sometimes if I wanted to start-up a friendly conversation, I would even ask her where the got the article of clothing that I like. It would often brighten her mood and start the shift on a good note.

Walking away

It might be hard but sometimes it’s easier on everyone else in situation to just walk away. It might even let the person whose upset and being unkind calm down and think about why they’re upset.

 If you can help, try

They might be being rude because of something frustrating them, if you know how to help, you can try. But know if it’s not worth it, sometimes because are just rude just to be rude and attempting to help them won’t change anything.

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Always remember these tips and that every person you deal with is different and some people are rude because maybe it’s a habit, or maybe their insecure, or because their having a bad day. Sometimes it’s not worth bothering with them and it’s best to not try to change their behavior and just change on how you can handle it to make yourself feel better. Remember to never take it personally and handle it the best way you can.

For students in school-

If there is a bully at your school, it might be hard to handle, especially if it’s constant. You don’t have to handle it alone. Try to talk to your parents, or parents of the bully, or a teacher you trust or a school counselor.

You can also use some of the tips I mentioned before for some occasional bullies, but for constant bullying you might be better off finding an adult to help you out.
You can also find tips for handling bullies on www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/ and www.stopbullying.gov

Final Notes-

Remember to never let anyone else bring you down and to stay strong no matter what anyone says to you. You are your own person and no one should be allowed to hurt you or bring you down.

Also never become the bully simply because you are being bullied. You should never go down to someone else’s level. Stay above them and stay strong!

“If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them.”

I hope you all are doing well, and enjoyed this post, sending all my love!,

Rosie x

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How to Handle Past Trauma

how to deal with past traumaSymptoms of Trauma:

  • Shock
  • Mood Swings
  • Depressions
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling Numb
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Withdrawal
  • Nightmares
So what is trauma anyway?

Trauma, by googles definition is a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Trauma can be cause by any emotional, stressful event. Such as abuse, bullying, an accident, a lose of a loved one, etc.

Any event can lead to trauma, especially when it happens in situation where you have no power to do anything about it, causing you to feel hopelessness.  For example, a car accident or childhood abuse, where you are too young or someone else is involved causing you to be unable to do anything about it.

Childhood trauma can increase the risk of future trauma. If you experience trauma in your childhood, it may cause you to be more of sensitive adult. Which can lead to being a lot more  vulnerable for trauma as an adult. Everyone’s trauma is different as well, we all experience and react to our environment differently. One person may experience a traumatic event and not be as affected as someone else who experienced something very similar. And that’s okay.

experience with traumaMy personal experience-

As a child I struggled with bullying and a terrible home life. At home my dad had serious anger issues, he was regularly emotionally and verbally abusive.  I never had a safe space. When going to school and was bullied, then I went home and was bullied. I was constantly in fear. I never knew if I was going to have a good day, decent day or an absolutely horrible day. Sometimes I was in fear for my life.

All these incidents have followed me into adulthood. I have had many moments and times where I was taken back to these moments through nightmares, similar situations and anxiety. Over time I have learned from my struggle. And I’m still learning everyday.

How and what I learned-
  • I realized I was more than the issues I’ve dealt with, I am more than my flaws. The trauma I experience does make the person I am.
  • Learning to find closure by letting go even though it’s hard, and I still struggle some times.
  • Connecting with others, this is important. Finding people with similar situations and experiences, such as group therapy programs, etc. You can find out new ways to cope with your trauma from other people and share your methods with them as well.
  • Psychical Activity- this can go with any kind of issue. I always recommend it. You can use any physical activity you enjoy as well. Weight lifting, running, walking, dancing, hiking, anything you enjoy that will get you moving!
  • Finding happiness in the little things, such as taking gratitude everyday for everything you have been in this life. Every week I try to write ten things I’m grateful for that happened throughout my week. Finding happiness in the little things has helped so much.

 

Developing this coping skills and adding them to your routine may be hard at first. It may take a lot of time as well. Sometimes I still have moments where the issues from my past get to me. I know it’s never going to be 100 percent perfect, and I know that’s okay. I still work hard on bettering myself as person and coping with my trauma.
I’m grateful to have gone this far in life, I’m still growing as well, we all are!

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
― Camille Paglia

Hope you all enjoyed this and benefited from reading! I apologize for my short absence. Unfortunately I was dealing with problems with my computer and I had to take it into the shop! I have it back now and I’m so happy to be back on my blog!

Thank you for reading! Please leave comments and feedback if you have any! It’s very much appreciated!

Much love,
Rosie

Thinking Outside of the Box!

thinking outside of the box 1“You can’t force creatives into a box. If you try, they’ll no longer be creative. And no one will want your box.”

― Ryan Lilly

Every has heard the phrase “Think outside of the box!” before. It seems somewhat simple when you just hear of the idea. It’s just trying to think of ways that are new and different to your usual thinking patterns.

Of course it isn’t as easy as it sounds though.

We’re always told from our childhood to now that if we start thinking outside of the box, we can do anything we think of. Where do you begin though?

When you are feeling stuck in some place in your mind, that’s when it becomes time to start thinking outside of the box. It does not have to be challenging either.

It’s time to play a new role,

– Take a step back first.

Are stuck some where? In an argument, or having some sort of brain lapse? That’s when it’s time to take a step back and review the situation with a new perspective before continuing to push forward.

Well, where do I find this new perceptive?

This is whats amazing about the internet. You don’t need to look at through tons of bookstores to find out how others have handled situations similar to yours. A personal favorite place of mine find a new outlook is TED talks. They have all sorts of stories that are shared on there, some are quite humbling and some can give you that extra perspective you need.

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I am currently writing a book that has a character who is struggling with psychological issues.

When you are writing a book and creating a whole new person to be a character in it you really have to think outside of the box. You have to put yourself in the role of a new person that in reality, you’ve never even met before.

I have been told that I have to put myself in my characters shoes. And that’s what I’ve began doing.

With everything I do, I will sometimes ask myself in my head “What would my character be doing in this situation?” This has helped me learn more about my characters, and has helped me greatly with writing.

But I never thought I could of this as being something I could use in other situations in life, such as when I’m having a conflict with another person, or when having to make a tough decision. When I began to use these ideas in my life to tackle other issues I realized how thinking outside of the box could help me and everyone around me.

For Example-

When I am arguing with someone, I have started to instantly put myself in their shoes and figure out their side of the story. This has always helped my resolve issues and also realize when I could possibly be wrong.

Other examples and ways to start thinking outside the box-

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Asking questions and not accepting everything-

There are so many layers to literally everything. Not everything is as basic as it seems. There details to everything. We all think in simple routines. We get so stuck in thinking patterns that we stop thinking outside of the box. When you begin to break those thinking habits, you unlock a creative part of your mind and that can help with anything.

I have also felt that doing a lot of reading has changed my thinking for the better. A lot of books have changed me and shaped me into who I am.  Reading is a huge motivator for the mind!

I want you all to challenge yourselves everyday to think outside of the box, and hopefully you all will receive the same benefits that I receive from it! Never doubt yourself, or the fact that you have the ability to do anything you put your mind too!

Thank you all so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this article. Please feel free to leave feedback or Contact me here!

Much love,

Rosie

Short announcement: Unfortunately, I am no longer doing Journal prompts on Tuesdays due to their lack of popularity. If you do want me to cover a certain journal prompt or topic, please let me know! Sorry for any inconvenience.

Learning how to practice Self Love

This can be a tricky topic to go over. Everyone has there own Ideas of self love and how to practice it. And everyone struggles with finding self love at some point in their lives.

Self love, by definition, is

“Regard for one’s well-being and happiness.”

Which is accurate. But you add your own definitions to self-love as well. I would all define it as having both patience and comfort in yourself as a human being. Having comfort in myself is important to me because I believe that we aren’t always going to be 100% happy with ourselves, but we can be content with ourselves.

 

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http://theoptimistsdigest.com/2017/07/25/experience-body-dysmorphia/

Self love is something I’ve had issues with in the past, and I still work out practicing it today. I’ve talked about my experience with not loving  my body and with body dysmorphic disorder.  Read about My Experience with Body Dysmorphia.  But I’m here to tell you about how I’m working with struggles and give helpful advice.

Since I’ve already talked about issues with my body. I’m going to focus a little bit more on the insecurities I’ve had with coming to love my personality, and myself when it comes down to how I am academically, socially, Etc.

I’ve always been a shy kid, at school, at work, events, everywhere! I literally got demoted from a job to a position where I didn’t have to interact with costumers as much because I’m just too quiet. I’m also kind of “monotone”. Not super monotone, not like I don’t show any emotions (I actually think I show too much emotion!) I just have a somewhat bland voice, which didn’t work very well for in the costumer service industry.

I hated how I couldn’t talk to people though, I knew what I wanted to say, but the words wouldn’t come out. Blaming my childhood for it to didn’t help, I was just doing so because I wasn’t able to understand myself. It made it worse that I just couldn’t find anyone with a similar issue to mine either.

Learning to love the parts about myself that seemed like they were my weaknesses was hard. I had to learn to understand myself first.

What I began to do-

  • I began to give up on judging myself, comparing myself to others and being afraid of what others think. This took a lot of practice, and it probably with for you as well, but its worth it.
  • I started to actually try to figure out why I was a “quiet” person. I realized that there is nothing wrong with being shy. It doesn’t make you “antisocial” either. I’m a quiet person but I’m a good listener. I love having long conversation with people, and learning about them and just listening to their stories. I also think that me being quieter has made me think and analyze situations and people a lot more instead of just jumping right into it. I’ve realized how being quiet can be a strength instead of a weakness.
  • I’ve realized that every situation that I have been in that my shyness has gotten in the way or has made me embarrassed, that  so many other people have been in similar situations. And they made it through just fine. I’m not alone with any issue or insecurity that I may have. The same goes for all of you reading this. Whatever your issue you may think you have,
    self love you matterYou are not alone!

    I’ve found comfort in myself and in who I am. Valuing myself as a human being has been a huge milestone for me. And with all this, I’ve started to do more for myself and take for my myself to practice self love and self-care.
    For Example

  • Taking a hot bubble bath, and dressing in nice warm clothes afterwards
  • Doing one of my favorite hobbies for at least thirty minutes a day, such as reading.
  • Planning a relaxation day every once and a while.
  • Counting my blessing.

I’ve began to do these things more because I value myself and my time more. These are all things that you can do to practice self love and self-care. You can also add some of your own things to do that you make you feel good!

 “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball 

If you guys what to check out my blog post on self love with your body, I’ll link it again Here!

You can also contact me here!

Love,
Rosie <3

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101 Reasons to be Happy

Hi everyone!

happy on dockWe all love to be happy, it’s always great to keep track of everything that makes you happy. So I created a list for everyone to brighten your day! You can always look back on this list in the future if you are feeling down!

101 Reasons to be happy
  1.  Someone loves you!
  2. You have the ability to smile!
  3. You are alive and breathing.
  4. The stars in the sky.
  5. If you are happy, you set the example for others to be happy.
  6. Pets! All kinds of pets, cats, dogs, rats, spiders, fish, All of them!

  7. You have a bed to sleep in and food to eat.
  8. You made it through school, and for those who are still in school, you will make it through!
  9. Walking on a sandy beach.
  10. Giving and receiving gifts on Christmas!
  11. You have the power to be mindful, and live in the moment.
  12. Nice, hot bubble baths!
  13. You have the internet!
  14. There’s a lot of people who spread love in this world!
  15. Everyday is a day to start anew.
  16. Cuddling exists.
  17. Walking through some soft grass without shoes.
  18. Great desserts! (Especially cakes and ice cream!)
  19. You have family members in this world.
  20. You have the ability to love.
  21. Nice warm weather.
  22. Watching the clouds and making shapes out of them.
  23. You get to wear comfy clothes whenever possible.
  24. Listening to your favorite music to cheer yourself up.
  25. Seeing a baby giggle.
  26. Cuddling a purring kitten.
  27. Petting a happy dog.be happy be bright
  28. Seeing old couples who still have a spark.
  29. Books and bookstores exist.
  30. Changing into dry warm clothes after shoveling snow outside.
  31. Getting good news!
  32. Drinking cold water after a dehydrating run.
  33. Having great friends.
  34. Going out for a long drive.
  35. Being in good health
  36. Remembering you have leftovers to eat from a great meal the night before.
  37. Wrapping gifts for a friend on a special occasion
  38. Waking up and having a great breakfast.
  39. People who care about you are out there.
  40. Freshly shaved legs/face.
  41. Being able to do volunteer work.
  42. Getting a winning lottery ticket. (Even if it’s for only 5 dollars!)
  43. Giving and receiving hugs and kisses.
  44. Binge watching a great show.
  45. Having a good cry and letting it all out.
  46. Pulling a warm blanket out of the dryer.
  47. You made a difference in this world by being here.
  48. You are so much smarter than you believe
  49. Falling in love.
  50. You are safe.happy in grass
  51. If you are unhappy, you are wasting your time and energy doing so.
  52. Dressing up in costumes and getting candy on Halloween.
  53. Looking back on great memories.
  54. Having the ability to go back to school.
  55. Being able to develop a new hobby!
  56. If you happy, you’re more likely to be kind.
  57. Having the ability to read.
  58. Having all five senses.
  59. Watching good movies with good people.
  60. Watching the stars at night.
  61. There are people who want you to be happy.
  62. Having a roof over your head.
  63. Taking a refreshing nap.
  64. Going out for walks in the woods.
  65. That new car smell. (And that old car smell too!)
  66. You impacted someones life in some way.
  67. You have goals to complete!
  68. Trust me, You look so much better smiling!
  69. You learned from your past mistakes.
  70. Everyday has the chance to be the best day of your life.
  71. Seeing a shooting star.
  72. Someone smiles at you everyday.
  73. You have someone in your life who supports you.
  74. You are a good person.
  75. Putting your foot down and saying no.
  76. Stretching out your back after sitting for a long time.
  77. Hearing different accents.
  78. Being able to learn a new language.
  79. Paying all your bills on time.
  80. You deserve to be happy.
  81. Lazy rivers at water parks.
  82. You will never to be alone.
  83. Counting your blessings!
  84. Humans have walked on the moon!
  85. Opening fortune cookies!
  86. You’ve made it through your struggles.
  87. Everything you’re going through now will pass.
  88. Cooking a recipe perfectly.
  89. You are doing the right thing.
  90. Being able to laugh!may you always be happy
  91. Clean sheets.
  92. Watching thunder and lightening storms.
  93. Giving forgiveness.
  94. and being forgiveness.
  95. Helping others.
  96. Finding your passion.
  97. Finding your soul mate.
  98. Feeling confident when looking in the mirror.
  99. Watching the sun set/Sun rise.
  100. Filling up a whole journal.
  101. You are you! <3

Feel free to continue to add to his list in the comments with what makes you happy! Its always important to remind yourself of what makes you happy, and to never let go of it!

Never give up on trying to be happy. You all are amazing people who deserve to be happy!

Sending out all my love to you all,

Rosie xo

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How Family Therapy Can Help – My Experience

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Family therapy can help any family. Even with small problems. One of the biggest conceptions on family therapy is that only the most dysfunctional will benefit from therapy, but any family can.

My family was dysfunctional in quite a few ways. The communication was awful at home. When I was at one of the lowest points in my life, my therapist told my mom and I that I needed to seek a family therapist because my home life being so crazy was strongly contributing to my problems in a negative way.

Many people can seek family therapy for other things such as if a child is dealing with issues and needs support from their family.

I originally started family therapy with my mom. This was basically us venting about out time at home and with my dad. Progress wasn’t being made until my dad joined us in therapy. Since communication was the worst between my parents.

Progress wasn’t made immediately, but overtime things got better. Family therapy gave us a safe space and time to talk about problems at home. We each had a chance to voice our own side of each story and talk out a solution.

Everyone in a family unit is different and has their own side to every thing. When one person is a family is dealing with a mental illness or some sort of problem, the whole family will be affected by this.

It’s hard to remember this sometimes. It’s easier to only focus on the stress of yourself or the one person without realize how everyone else is affected. Even if they aren’t saying so.

I needed to be given the opportunity to voice how I felt to my dad is a safe space.

Growing up my dad had severe anger issues. He would lash out at everything and anything. Big and small. Things at home became harder and harder. My dad would scream, call names, and even punch holes in walls. I actually ended up scared for the safety of me and my family.

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My dad never laid a hand on any of us, but I still would walk away with the emotional scars and damage from this time in my life.

My dads issues started getting better when I became severely depressed and had to go to the hospital for my first suicide attempt. He realized what he was doing was actually causing me damage. Things calmed down a bit, but there still was no communication and I need got any closure I needed from my childhood.

My parents continued to regularly argue even though my dad wasn’t as angry. They never got along and they still have some trouble to this day. An argument would  be started about literally everything. From dinner to what grocery shopping to how I was doing at school. It was a never-ending circle of events.

This made this hard for me. I was never able to focus and there always was negative energy around the house. My dad and I didn’t get along very well either. We lived together almost like college room mates, he never said anything to me. He wouldn’t even say I love you, so I stopped saying it as well.

I wanted this issues to get better, I was sick of feeling trapped in my own home. I had so much weight on my shoulders, and not a single bit of closure on why my dad treated everyone the way he did when I was a child.

family 1Obviously things aren’t perfect now, but they are definitely better. I have been able to close doors to some parts of my life and stop carrying the burdens of the past on my shoulders.

I’m still working on bringing closure to my past, this is something I struggle with since I am unable to get all the answers I need. But despite this, the progress that my family and I have made has been something to be grateful for. My dad and I’s relationship has improved as well. This is something I can’t replace. I wouldn’t have come this far without family therapy.

“The only mistake you can made is not asking for help” – Sandeep Jauher

Never be afraid to reach out for help, whether the problem is big or small.

Love,
Rosie <3

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My Experience with Body Dysmorphia

self love bodyBody dysmorphic disorder is when you become obsess with a possible imperfection that you may have and flaws in your appearance. Sometimes these flaws are not even there, there in your head. This is something I struggled with for quite some time. I want to share how I’ve started to care more about my body and also share how important self love is.

The negative thoughts towards my body started at an extremely young age. I was in the first grade and I thought I was “fat”. Looking back on this, I obviously wasn’t fat. It’s confusing to look back and wonder why I was feeling this way at such a young age. My main focus on my body was my legs. I hated them and for some reason I just thought that they where too big. I was also bullied a lot and didn’t have a good home life. These where definitely huge contributions to my low self esteem.

When looking back at pictures from when I was a child, I was not fat. I looked like an average child,

but when looking at these pictures I sometimes can’t help but analyze every aspect of my body, especially the way my legs look in the photo.

 

The worst part about of all this was that I was to young explain or understand what I was feeling. You can’t start working on an issue until you know what the issue actually is. Being so young I wasn’t able to understand this.

Middle school was especially rough. Everyone in middle school feels a bit insecure. It’s hard, your body and mind start to change and this becomes very emotional. I experimented a lot with dieting, diet pills and lots of exercises, specifically leg exercises. My good friend was in a very similar situation to me and would support me, but wouldn’t always support me in the right ways. We where negative influences to each other.

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Something huge I noticed in many people with body dysmorphic disorder is how much you begin to compare little things about others to yourself. You might notice things about others that you wish you had on yourself.

This is something I did often. I would stare at others, comparing little things about them to little things about myself.

What started this comparing is girls that are displayed in the media. I wanted my body to be like theirs, as most young girls do. It can be scary to see how there are so many brands such as ‘Victoria’s secret’ that only display ‘picture perfect’ bodies. This was a huge influence on me and many other girls I knew in middle school. We all would look at a Victoria’s secret catalog and strongly admire these girls.

I realized I had to stop looking to other people/ models and stop comparing myself to others to begin to love myself.

“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes to every one else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick

Another huge insecurity I had growing up besides my legs, was my hair. Everyone would bully me for hair being to messy and too greasy. Something I did to cope with my insecurity on my hair is scalp is I began to pick and peel at the skin on my scalp. Ew, right?

I didn’t get this habit under control until about a year and a half ago. It became a serious addictive habit at the time.

I never talked about any of my body insecurities or skin picking to anyone….

Until I started a program at a hospital. I was in CBT in the past but never an actual hospital program, so I took advantage of this opportunity to get better.

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They put me on new medications that I’ve never tried in the past and these actually helped more than I thought they could. The medication was only half of the battle though, I still had to work on and develop the coping skills to help me with my issues.

I made it a point to stop comparing myself to others and whenever I felt myself doing so, I would tell my self that I don’t know what goes behind the scenes for them and that they may have there own insecurities as well.

This was a long battle I had with myself. I’ve made it so far by practicing self love and taking good care of my body by regularly staying active. I’m not giving up.

I want you all to know that help is out there. If you can’t find your way now, you’ll find it someday, never let your insecurities win. Do what makes you feel happy and love yourself.

There is only one you, you only have one body, show yourself the love everyone deserves.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Hotlines:

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Eating Disorders
630-577-1330

National Mental Health Association Hotline
800-273-TALK (8255)

Crisis Call Center
800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863

 

The Toxic Internet: How the internet turned me into something I’m not

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How the internet made me into something I’m not and How I got out of it.

This is a weird topic to talk about, isn’t it? Since here I am, on the internet, talking about the internet being toxic. The internet has everything from funny cat videos, to cool stuff, all the way to being able to make new friends. But where do things start heading south?

I started using the internet on regular basis at a young age. I was around middle school age and social media and the internet where still somewhat new to everyone. Online I learned a lot, but with all the freedom I had, and no supervision, I made a lot of mistakes.

 

Now you must be asking: How can you really make that much mistakes on the internet?

 

It all started with “Cat-fishing”, Cat-fishing is when you go onto a social media account and pretend to be someone you aren’t by using fake names, pictures and information.

I was young, and my best friend told me to just make a Facebook/Myspace account with a fake name and photos because we where too young to have our own information on our accounts. Looking back on this, I wondered why I even made an account at all. At the end of the day, I was too young and this was an awful idea.

With the fake name and the pictures of a pretty girl on my profile, my friends list started growing rapidly. This made me feel wanted and all the extra attention made me happy at the time. Writing about this honestly makes feel so embarrassed cause I wonder why I did any of this.

 

Talking to these people online started to create problems. People thought I was older, and lived a completely different life than I actually did.

People would want to meet up, or video chat and for some reason they would get so angry if I said no. Some people were honestly a bit insane and over the top. Someone even called the police on me! But being around 11-12 and a total immature, naive catfish, I had no idea how to handle these situations.

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This would continue to get worse as I began to dislike myself even more. Everyone only like the fake me, fake pictures and fake life, but no one cared for the real me. I started to feel awful about myself and every time I looked in the mirror, I hoped I would see someone different than me.

Every morning I’d hope to open my eyes to some great life that was just anything but what I was actually living. I wanted to be perfect.

The internet gave me this ability to become someone I’m not. There was so many influences across the web that told it was okay to continue what I was doing.

 

So whats the lesson in all this?

I learned how easy the internet makes  it to play a role, and a lot of people do it. Not everyone uses fake pictures and catfish accounts either. Some celebrities edit their photos and make it out to seem like their life is picture perfect. We all want to show the world how interesting and amazing our life is, so we try our hardest. It’s bout amazing and terrifying to see how far we have come with both technology and the internet.

Now that I am much older,

I know how to use the internet in a more positive manner such as my blog and trying to spread positivity with writing. Through my blog I want to continue spreading this positivity. Teaching others how to use the internet as more of a happy place for them has made me happy.

I finally deleted my catfish accounts around age of 13-14,when I started high school and started making real friends. I also realized if anyone actually found these catfish accounts it wouldn’t make me look that good. Doing this made me feel better over time, because I started to feel more like myself and work more on myself.

I realized how something as little has photo shopping your photos can change how you look at yourself. And that Pretending to be someone else can begin to turn you into someone else.

The most important thing to take from this is that not everything online is as perfect as it seems. All the celebrities you know are human just like you and me and their lives are not perfect. Don’t use the internet for attention either, you might just end up even more lonely than you where to begin with.

Be yourself and love yourself. Do things for you not for others. Use the Internet to look for positive role models and happiness.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Healthy Eating for Happiness

Healthy eating can be hard but it’s crazy how much it can affect your mood. Foods like chocolate, cake, and chips, tend to give you temporary happiness but since they contain no real nutrients and simple are not good for you, they make you feel crappy in the long run.

Studies have actually shown that unhealthy diets contribute to depression.

Sugar can actually cause you stress. Since when you are stressed out, your body looks for sugary food. A lot of people who start addictive binge eating begin eating when stressed out and depressed.

Emotional eating is definitely not the way to go when feeling down. You are not eating because you are hungry, but because you are looking for a temporary way to relieve your stress.

It’s important to eat enough as well. It is not just eating junk foods and sugars that can cause issues with mental health. If you are eating enough as you should be or not eating at the right times, this can cause some issues.

If you are feeling tired, light headed and your stomach is feeling empty then it’s important to eat. Never starve yourself for any reason, always remember you are beautiful and both you and your body deserve the best treatment.

The most important meal of day- Breakfast!! You all have probably heard this many times before. But it’s true! Starting your day off with a nice big meal full of nutrients will leave you feeling happy and satisfied!

For me personally, I feel so much better when I eat healthy with an occasional treat every once and a while. My favorite treat is a giant bowl ice cream!! 😉 Since I started regularly eating healthy, I have also felt so much more confident with my body. I think this is because I’m taking good care of  my body so I feel so much happy with my body.

The most important thing out of all this is to do what makes you feel happy, confident, and satisfied. Everyone deserves to love themselves and be happy and the best way to get started us by eating healthy and taking care of your body!

Much love,

Rosie

The Lowest Point in my Life

The lowest point in my life: A journal prompt

I’m doing a bit of a heavy prompt today. I’m going to be talking about one the lowest points in my life yet.

It all started when I first began high school. I never had many friends before this point and I was confused and trying to find myself. While doing so I ended up mixing up within the wrong crowd.

I met my first best friend there within the first few days. At first I was excited, I never thought I could have so much in common with someone. This made me so happy. And because I never had many friends, I got ahead of myself very quickly.

Soon after meeting her, I found out a lot. She was living in a rough situation, emotionally abusive parents, she also self harmed and did quite a bit of drugs.

At this time, I did whatever I could to fit in with her. She continued to introduce me to people who were a lot like her. I fell right into all of their bad habits.

They convinced me to not care about myself or simply anything because “fuck the world”. (Sorry for cursing.) I became irritable all the time and treated my parents horribly. I stopped doing most of my school work and ditched school often.

At this time, I also started regular self harm around this time as well. I was very depressed and I was treating myself through drugs, influences, and self harm. I didn’t know any other way of coping.

At this time I was getting help as well, hospitalization was also considered at times. But I had a lot of trouble accepting this help.

Towards the end of the school year thing slowly began to improve in my life.

I started to realize what was happening to me. I also made some good friends, who are still my friends today. These friends told me that I was hanging out with the wrong crowd and that I deserved to be happy. They actually made me feel loved and cared about.Randomly, my friend who was the bad influence stopped talking to me. This was after she started dating a girl who didn’t like me very much. I remember being depressed and feeling betrayed over this. For a while I thought she was a true friend. I tried to talk to her several times, only to be ignored.

My friends started showing me screenshots of her talking behind my back. That was the deal breaker for me. I realized how awful my friends were to me at times. Then I realized I deserved better.

I dumped all my bad friends and bad habits and started working on myself to get better. 

From there my growth was slow but now my life is so much better than what it was. I’m grateful for the friends and the family that have helped me grow and change.

I just want to say I’m in much better place now. And the friend who I originally met in my freshman year is also in a much better place. I’m so grateful to be where I am right now. I also want to thank everyone reading for the support you all have given.

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Much love,

Rosie