The Ultimate Guide to Mindfulness

 

Negative thoughts and emotions can interfere with our day to day lives. It’s important to try not to let these get to you. But if you don’t know how to properly identify all of your negative thought patterns, they will begin to get in the way of living a happy life.
I can’t say that I live a 100% 24/7 mindful life, But overtime I have learned how to quickly get my thoughts under control, and to live in the present without many worries. It would be unrealistic to expect yourself to be mindful all the time, it’s just not possible, and that’s okay.

Today I will be sharing a guide that I use to be mindful and live in the moment! What is mindfulness anyway?

 

 

By definition, mindfulness is “the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.” To put that in a more simply way, you could call mindfulness “Living in the moment.” When hearing such a simple definition, you may think that it’s easy being mindful, but with thoughts and worries getting in the way of just trying to live in the moment, it can get very hard. Especially if your super busy with home life, work life, family life and so on.

So where do you begin?

This can be a tough question, because you start right now, in fifteen minutes, tomorrow, or a whole year from now. You can be mindful literally anywhere at anytime. My favorite method is doing a 21 day challenge. It takes about 21 days to start a new habit, so I believe if you spend 21 days trying to be mindful throughout the day, it may begin to come easier afterwards. My 21 day challenge for mindfulness involves spending 10 minutes at each location you go to during the day trying to be mindful.

For example: After you wake up, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at home, if you go to work, out to run errands, etc, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at each of those locations. What I love about doing this is that you can adjust the time to more or less than 10 minutes if needed, and it’s easy and doesn’t take up to much time. After those 21 days you can reflect on how you felt when being mindful and you can choose to continue doing so with more time added on.

Other Mindfulness Activities-

Meditation- Taking a couple minutes to just sit in silence and listen to all the sounds that surround you is one of my favorite ways to relax. When meditating you begin to notice things about how your breathing, feeling and sounds that you never pay any mind to at any other time. Just spending a small amount of time doing nothing is super beneficial.

Doing one thing at a time, and spending a long time doing- This may be annoying at first to those who are always busy with a lot on their plates. You might be thinking “There’s no way I’ll get anything done” But when you actually spend your time on one thing and doing it slowly and deliberately your time will not go to waste. This will help you learn to do things with quality and not quantity. It will take practice at first but in the long run may help your working life.

Stop worrying about the future- This is hard, because we all feel like there is something to worry about. But it’s always most important to focus on what’s happening now rather than what’s going to happen in the future. The future doesn’t exist yet, and you are what makes the future. This can be a hard thing to grasp, but focusing on the now will lead to better future. So every time you feel yourself worrying, try to get your mind back in mindful mode.

The benefits-

There are so many benefits of being mindful that I can list, but here are just a few:
– Less anxiety
– Feeling more accomplished with life
– Less worrying and feel overwhelmed
– Lowering blood pressure and improving memory

Those are a just a few things that will come when being mindful. It’s important to remember that mindfulness is not always easy but it is always beneficial. Practice makes perfect!

I hope you found this simple guide helpful! Please feel free to let me know any comments, questions or concerns that you may have!

Much love

Rosie xoxo

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Top 10 Best Tips for Goal Setting

goal settingHello everyone! I mentioned on twitter a few days ago that i was planning on writing a post on goal setting, and here it is!

Many people set goals and for some reason never get around to completing them. I have experienced this as well, and I know how bad it feels when I can’t get a goal done. It might make you feel lazy or unsuccessful. I’m pretty sure most of you know the feeling.

There are many reasons why you may not be able to complete your goals. This is why its crucial to know how to set your goals to make them as achievable as possible.

Why is goal setting important?goal is important
  • Completing goals makes you feel good and its a boost of self esteem.
  • Getting what you want in life.
  • Completing smaller goals can lead to completing a larger goal.

There are ways to complete your goals and settings them, and its faster than you thought was possible! Here are those tips-

1. Making sure there achievable-
Many of us have issues with accidentally setting achievable goals. A goal that may be too hard or may not fit into your schedule might not be achievable at this time. But don’t let this discourage you, it’s always important to start with baby steps.
2. Start small-
Lets say you want to redesign your whole bedroom, you should start with the smaller stuff first such as, “Pick out color scheme”, “Figure out budget”, “Pick out furniture design” and as you complete those goals, you can slowly work your way up to completing the official goal.
3. Be specific-
Using our previous example, you wouldn’t simply say “redesign bedroom”, you have to be specific and go into the details about how to redesign your bedroom.
4. Clearing your head before hand-
It may be hard to figure out what goals you want to complete if your mind is all over the place. A quick five to ten minute meditation might help you clear your head so you can get your priorities straight to set your goals.
5. Stop doubting yourself-
Don’t doubt yourself when setting your goals, that only sets you up for failure! Do not let yourself down!
6. Learn and do your research-
Go online and look up how other people have completed goals that are similar to yours!  Do your research on goal setting and how others have completed their goals.
7. Always have a deadline-
Have a deadline that will motivate you to complete the goal on time. This deadline can help hold you accountable for getting the goal completed!
8. Plan of action-
Along with making your goals, you should come up with a plan on how you are going to complete them people sometimes miss this step when goal setting. I believe this is crucial for actual being able to get goals done.
9. Remember the “SMART” theory- 
What is the smart theory? Making sure your goals have these key points:
S- Specific 
M- Measurable 
A- Attainable 
R- Realistic 
T- Time bounded 
Always follow these points!
10. Stick to them!-
This is important! (Of course!) sticking to goals is hard but it feels great to complete them! Be persistent and do not give up when things are hard! Don’t let yourself down!

Goal qoutesI hope you all are able to use these tips in your life with goal setting! Let me know how you guys liked these tips, and how you used them in life.

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Love,

Rosie

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Handling Rude People and Bullies

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Hello everyone!

Today I’ll be talking about rude people and the bullies you find in both your work like and your school life. Especially because now that school is starting and summer is over, school and work is now more of focus. Because of this we may have to deal with rude people more often unfortunately.

When we deal with rude people, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves and want to attack the person whose being rude and attacking you, it’s hard not to at times.

It’s sometimes best to just learn to walk away and not take it personally. If you are much younger and still in school it may be easier to just get an adult that you trust to help handle the situations with the bully. You should never have to deal with bullies alone.

basic tips on handling rude peopleSome Basic Tips-
Don’t take it personally

People who tend to be mean to other often are typically unhappy with themselves, they are sometimes immature and often dealing with their own personal issues in their life. There are some people who don’t have control in their lives, so they tend to look for things that they can control.

Don’t contribute to it

If someone’s being unkind and straight up rude to you, it may be easy to add fuel to the fire, but doing so might make the problem bigger. Remember that two wrongs don’t make a right.

It’s sometimes best to just be kind

If you regularly work with this person who is rude, try to be nice to them throughout the time you are with them. There was a woman at my work who was rude at times to many people throughout her shift. She could be controlling as well. But when she came to work with a pretty dress or something else I like. I would let her know that I like them. Sometimes if I wanted to start-up a friendly conversation, I would even ask her where the got the article of clothing that I like. It would often brighten her mood and start the shift on a good note.

Walking away

It might be hard but sometimes it’s easier on everyone else in situation to just walk away. It might even let the person whose upset and being unkind calm down and think about why they’re upset.

 If you can help, try

They might be being rude because of something frustrating them, if you know how to help, you can try. But know if it’s not worth it, sometimes because are just rude just to be rude and attempting to help them won’t change anything.

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Always remember these tips and that every person you deal with is different and some people are rude because maybe it’s a habit, or maybe their insecure, or because their having a bad day. Sometimes it’s not worth bothering with them and it’s best to not try to change their behavior and just change on how you can handle it to make yourself feel better. Remember to never take it personally and handle it the best way you can.

For students in school-

If there is a bully at your school, it might be hard to handle, especially if it’s constant. You don’t have to handle it alone. Try to talk to your parents, or parents of the bully, or a teacher you trust or a school counselor.

You can also use some of the tips I mentioned before for some occasional bullies, but for constant bullying you might be better off finding an adult to help you out.
You can also find tips for handling bullies on www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/ and www.stopbullying.gov

Final Notes-

Remember to never let anyone else bring you down and to stay strong no matter what anyone says to you. You are your own person and no one should be allowed to hurt you or bring you down.

Also never become the bully simply because you are being bullied. You should never go down to someone else’s level. Stay above them and stay strong!

“If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them.”

I hope you all are doing well, and enjoyed this post, sending all my love!,

Rosie x

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60 Day Happiness Challenge

60 day happiness challengeHello everyone! I hope your week has been well, I’m starting a 60 day self care/ Happiness challenge! This comes with a FREE printable PDF to use and follow along with in this challenge!

60 days is a lot to some people so I have separated the challenge into two 30 day challenges. You can choose to do 10 days, 30 days or all 60! Whatever makes you feel more comfortable and helps you out best!

Basically, I will be give a challenge everyday for the next SIXTY days! There are no rules and you can follow along whatever way you’d like! You can also use any of these self-care tips to create your own happiness challenge/routine. You can do these happiness and self care tips with any one as well, friends, family and I always recommend doing this kind of stuff with your children to teach them coping skills to use as grow older!

Here it goes!:

Day 1- Make your bed when you wake up! (Seems simple but it makes your room look so much more put together!)
Day 2- Cook yourself your favorite meal! (This can be something fancy or just a TV dinner, whatever makes you happiest!)
Day 3- Start a new book!
Day 4- Watch one of your favorite childhood movies! (Here comes the nostalgia!)
Day 5- Visit a library! (Get some peace and quiet!)
Day 6- Bubble bath time! (Find a DIY bath bomb recipe or hit up Lush if you’d like!)
Day 7- Go on a nature walk!
Day 8- Complete a small goal! (Legit anything from vacuuming your house to simply getting out of the house!)
Day 9- Smile at everyone you see! (I’ve always done this, brightens everyone’s day!)
Day 10- Meditate for at least 15 minutes!
Day 11- Create a positive music playlist!
Day 12- Watch a feel good movie!
Day 13- Declutter something in your home! (I should probably declutter my desk after this!)
Day 14- Create a bucket list!
Day 15- One day without social media!
Day 16- Create a vision board!
Day 17- Create a list of everything your grateful for! (Count those blessings)
Day 18- Do some stretching and some yoga!
Day 19- Watch an inspiring ted talk!
Day 20- Spend time with a pet! (If you don’t have a pet, find a friend or families pet!)
Day 21- Journal your thoughts throughout the day!
Day 22- Plan your dream trip!
Day 23- Stay in your pajamas as much as possible today! (Or just wear comfortable clothes!)
Day 24- Wear your favorite outfit! (I know that both guys and girls have that favorite outfit that makes them feel confident!)
Day 25- Eat healthy all day!
Day 26- Take yourself out on a date!
Day 27- Do something creative! (Make a collage, poetry, drawing, painting, etc!)
Day 28- Rearrange your wardrobe!
Day 29- Buy yourself a new outfit! (I love this!
Day 30- Go on a picnic with yourself or with some one you love!
Day 31- Avoid checking your phone today! (Focus on whats in front of you and being mindful!)
Day 32- Bike ride! (If you don’t have bike, borrow a friends, or just go out for a walk or run on a bike trail!)
Day 33- Play a board game!
Day 34- Use a self care product! (Face mask, stress relieving lotions, etc!)
Day 35- Random act of kindness!
Day 36- Write a letter to future you!
Day 37- Write a letter to past you!
Day 38- Long and thoughtful shower!
Day 39- Take a nap today!
Day 40- Donate old and unused clothes/items to goodwill!
Day 41- Go to your favorite place! (Park, restaurant, anything you love!)
Day 42- Order takeout!
Day 43- Go out for ice cream!
Day 44- Dance to your favorite feel good song!
Day 45- Write a letter forgiving yourself for any past guilt or shame you may have.
Day 46- Sit in the sun!
Day 47- Find something to be thankful for about today!
Day 48- Start a small daily habit!
Day 49- Plan an evening of chill!
Day 50- Every time you look in the mirror give yourself a compliment!
Day 51- Get an early start to the day!
Day 52- Create a list of daily goals!
Day 53- Clean out your email inbox!
Day 54- Organize your desk!
Day 55- Write down 10 things you love about yourself!
Day 56- Write a letter to someone you love (best friends, family member, S.O) thanking them for being by your side!
Day 57- Get yourself a coloring book!
Day 58- Binge watch a favorite show or movie series!
Day 59- Drink enough water throughout the day!
Day 60- Pick out your favorites from this list to create your own self-care routine! (Most important!)

Here are the PDF’s that you can print and cross out as you go:

1st 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!
2nd 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!

I hope you enjoy these free printable’s!  Please let me know how you do on this challenge, would love to hear some feedback. You can let me know in the comments or contact me Here!

(: BTW- You can rearrange the days on this list to match your own personal schedule as well!

Much love,

Rosie

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How to Handle Past Trauma

how to deal with past traumaSymptoms of Trauma:

  • Shock
  • Mood Swings
  • Depressions
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling Numb
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Withdrawal
  • Nightmares
So what is trauma anyway?

Trauma, by googles definition is a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Trauma can be cause by any emotional, stressful event. Such as abuse, bullying, an accident, a lose of a loved one, etc.

Any event can lead to trauma, especially when it happens in situation where you have no power to do anything about it, causing you to feel hopelessness.  For example, a car accident or childhood abuse, where you are too young or someone else is involved causing you to be unable to do anything about it.

Childhood trauma can increase the risk of future trauma. If you experience trauma in your childhood, it may cause you to be more of sensitive adult. Which can lead to being a lot more  vulnerable for trauma as an adult. Everyone’s trauma is different as well, we all experience and react to our environment differently. One person may experience a traumatic event and not be as affected as someone else who experienced something very similar. And that’s okay.

experience with traumaMy personal experience-

As a child I struggled with bullying and a terrible home life. At home my dad had serious anger issues, he was regularly emotionally and verbally abusive.  I never had a safe space. When going to school and was bullied, then I went home and was bullied. I was constantly in fear. I never knew if I was going to have a good day, decent day or an absolutely horrible day. Sometimes I was in fear for my life.

All these incidents have followed me into adulthood. I have had many moments and times where I was taken back to these moments through nightmares, similar situations and anxiety. Over time I have learned from my struggle. And I’m still learning everyday.

How and what I learned-
  • I realized I was more than the issues I’ve dealt with, I am more than my flaws. The trauma I experience does make the person I am.
  • Learning to find closure by letting go even though it’s hard, and I still struggle some times.
  • Connecting with others, this is important. Finding people with similar situations and experiences, such as group therapy programs, etc. You can find out new ways to cope with your trauma from other people and share your methods with them as well.
  • Psychical Activity- this can go with any kind of issue. I always recommend it. You can use any physical activity you enjoy as well. Weight lifting, running, walking, dancing, hiking, anything you enjoy that will get you moving!
  • Finding happiness in the little things, such as taking gratitude everyday for everything you have been in this life. Every week I try to write ten things I’m grateful for that happened throughout my week. Finding happiness in the little things has helped so much.

 

Developing this coping skills and adding them to your routine may be hard at first. It may take a lot of time as well. Sometimes I still have moments where the issues from my past get to me. I know it’s never going to be 100 percent perfect, and I know that’s okay. I still work hard on bettering myself as person and coping with my trauma.
I’m grateful to have gone this far in life, I’m still growing as well, we all are!

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
― Camille Paglia

Hope you all enjoyed this and benefited from reading! I apologize for my short absence. Unfortunately I was dealing with problems with my computer and I had to take it into the shop! I have it back now and I’m so happy to be back on my blog!

Thank you for reading! Please leave comments and feedback if you have any! It’s very much appreciated!

Much love,
Rosie

Thinking Outside of the Box!

thinking outside of the box 1“You can’t force creatives into a box. If you try, they’ll no longer be creative. And no one will want your box.”

― Ryan Lilly

Every has heard the phrase “Think outside of the box!” before. It seems somewhat simple when you just hear of the idea. It’s just trying to think of ways that are new and different to your usual thinking patterns.

Of course it isn’t as easy as it sounds though.

We’re always told from our childhood to now that if we start thinking outside of the box, we can do anything we think of. Where do you begin though?

When you are feeling stuck in some place in your mind, that’s when it becomes time to start thinking outside of the box. It does not have to be challenging either.

It’s time to play a new role,

– Take a step back first.

Are stuck some where? In an argument, or having some sort of brain lapse? That’s when it’s time to take a step back and review the situation with a new perspective before continuing to push forward.

Well, where do I find this new perceptive?

This is whats amazing about the internet. You don’t need to look at through tons of bookstores to find out how others have handled situations similar to yours. A personal favorite place of mine find a new outlook is TED talks. They have all sorts of stories that are shared on there, some are quite humbling and some can give you that extra perspective you need.

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I am currently writing a book that has a character who is struggling with psychological issues.

When you are writing a book and creating a whole new person to be a character in it you really have to think outside of the box. You have to put yourself in the role of a new person that in reality, you’ve never even met before.

I have been told that I have to put myself in my characters shoes. And that’s what I’ve began doing.

With everything I do, I will sometimes ask myself in my head “What would my character be doing in this situation?” This has helped me learn more about my characters, and has helped me greatly with writing.

But I never thought I could of this as being something I could use in other situations in life, such as when I’m having a conflict with another person, or when having to make a tough decision. When I began to use these ideas in my life to tackle other issues I realized how thinking outside of the box could help me and everyone around me.

For Example-

When I am arguing with someone, I have started to instantly put myself in their shoes and figure out their side of the story. This has always helped my resolve issues and also realize when I could possibly be wrong.

Other examples and ways to start thinking outside the box-

thinking outside of the box
Asking questions and not accepting everything-

There are so many layers to literally everything. Not everything is as basic as it seems. There details to everything. We all think in simple routines. We get so stuck in thinking patterns that we stop thinking outside of the box. When you begin to break those thinking habits, you unlock a creative part of your mind and that can help with anything.

I have also felt that doing a lot of reading has changed my thinking for the better. A lot of books have changed me and shaped me into who I am.  Reading is a huge motivator for the mind!

I want you all to challenge yourselves everyday to think outside of the box, and hopefully you all will receive the same benefits that I receive from it! Never doubt yourself, or the fact that you have the ability to do anything you put your mind too!

Thank you all so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this article. Please feel free to leave feedback or Contact me here!

Much love,

Rosie

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Learning how to practice Self Love

This can be a tricky topic to go over. Everyone has there own Ideas of self love and how to practice it. And everyone struggles with finding self love at some point in their lives.

Self love, by definition, is

“Regard for one’s well-being and happiness.”

Which is accurate. But you add your own definitions to self-love as well. I would all define it as having both patience and comfort in yourself as a human being. Having comfort in myself is important to me because I believe that we aren’t always going to be 100% happy with ourselves, but we can be content with ourselves.

 

self love body dysmorhpia
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Self love is something I’ve had issues with in the past, and I still work out practicing it today. I’ve talked about my experience with not loving  my body and with body dysmorphic disorder.  Read about My Experience with Body Dysmorphia.  But I’m here to tell you about how I’m working with struggles and give helpful advice.

Since I’ve already talked about issues with my body. I’m going to focus a little bit more on the insecurities I’ve had with coming to love my personality, and myself when it comes down to how I am academically, socially, Etc.

I’ve always been a shy kid, at school, at work, events, everywhere! I literally got demoted from a job to a position where I didn’t have to interact with costumers as much because I’m just too quiet. I’m also kind of “monotone”. Not super monotone, not like I don’t show any emotions (I actually think I show too much emotion!) I just have a somewhat bland voice, which didn’t work very well for in the costumer service industry.

I hated how I couldn’t talk to people though, I knew what I wanted to say, but the words wouldn’t come out. Blaming my childhood for it to didn’t help, I was just doing so because I wasn’t able to understand myself. It made it worse that I just couldn’t find anyone with a similar issue to mine either.

Learning to love the parts about myself that seemed like they were my weaknesses was hard. I had to learn to understand myself first.

What I began to do-

  • I began to give up on judging myself, comparing myself to others and being afraid of what others think. This took a lot of practice, and it probably with for you as well, but its worth it.
  • I started to actually try to figure out why I was a “quiet” person. I realized that there is nothing wrong with being shy. It doesn’t make you “antisocial” either. I’m a quiet person but I’m a good listener. I love having long conversation with people, and learning about them and just listening to their stories. I also think that me being quieter has made me think and analyze situations and people a lot more instead of just jumping right into it. I’ve realized how being quiet can be a strength instead of a weakness.
  • I’ve realized that every situation that I have been in that my shyness has gotten in the way or has made me embarrassed, that  so many other people have been in similar situations. And they made it through just fine. I’m not alone with any issue or insecurity that I may have. The same goes for all of you reading this. Whatever your issue you may think you have,
    self love you matterYou are not alone!

    I’ve found comfort in myself and in who I am. Valuing myself as a human being has been a huge milestone for me. And with all this, I’ve started to do more for myself and take for my myself to practice self love and self-care.
    For Example

  • Taking a hot bubble bath, and dressing in nice warm clothes afterwards
  • Doing one of my favorite hobbies for at least thirty minutes a day, such as reading.
  • Planning a relaxation day every once and a while.
  • Counting my blessing.

I’ve began to do these things more because I value myself and my time more. These are all things that you can do to practice self love and self-care. You can also add some of your own things to do that you make you feel good!

 “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball 

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Love,
Rosie <3

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101 Reasons to be Happy

Hi everyone!

happy on dockWe all love to be happy, it’s always great to keep track of everything that makes you happy. So I created a list for everyone to brighten your day! You can always look back on this list in the future if you are feeling down!

101 Reasons to be happy
  1.  Someone loves you!
  2. You have the ability to smile!
  3. You are alive and breathing.
  4. The stars in the sky.
  5. If you are happy, you set the example for others to be happy.
  6. Pets! All kinds of pets, cats, dogs, rats, spiders, fish, All of them!

  7. You have a bed to sleep in and food to eat.
  8. You made it through school, and for those who are still in school, you will make it through!
  9. Walking on a sandy beach.
  10. Giving and receiving gifts on Christmas!
  11. You have the power to be mindful, and live in the moment.
  12. Nice, hot bubble baths!
  13. You have the internet!
  14. There’s a lot of people who spread love in this world!
  15. Everyday is a day to start anew.
  16. Cuddling exists.
  17. Walking through some soft grass without shoes.
  18. Great desserts! (Especially cakes and ice cream!)
  19. You have family members in this world.
  20. You have the ability to love.
  21. Nice warm weather.
  22. Watching the clouds and making shapes out of them.
  23. You get to wear comfy clothes whenever possible.
  24. Listening to your favorite music to cheer yourself up.
  25. Seeing a baby giggle.
  26. Cuddling a purring kitten.
  27. Petting a happy dog.be happy be bright
  28. Seeing old couples who still have a spark.
  29. Books and bookstores exist.
  30. Changing into dry warm clothes after shoveling snow outside.
  31. Getting good news!
  32. Drinking cold water after a dehydrating run.
  33. Having great friends.
  34. Going out for a long drive.
  35. Being in good health
  36. Remembering you have leftovers to eat from a great meal the night before.
  37. Wrapping gifts for a friend on a special occasion
  38. Waking up and having a great breakfast.
  39. People who care about you are out there.
  40. Freshly shaved legs/face.
  41. Being able to do volunteer work.
  42. Getting a winning lottery ticket. (Even if it’s for only 5 dollars!)
  43. Giving and receiving hugs and kisses.
  44. Binge watching a great show.
  45. Having a good cry and letting it all out.
  46. Pulling a warm blanket out of the dryer.
  47. You made a difference in this world by being here.
  48. You are so much smarter than you believe
  49. Falling in love.
  50. You are safe.happy in grass
  51. If you are unhappy, you are wasting your time and energy doing so.
  52. Dressing up in costumes and getting candy on Halloween.
  53. Looking back on great memories.
  54. Having the ability to go back to school.
  55. Being able to develop a new hobby!
  56. If you happy, you’re more likely to be kind.
  57. Having the ability to read.
  58. Having all five senses.
  59. Watching good movies with good people.
  60. Watching the stars at night.
  61. There are people who want you to be happy.
  62. Having a roof over your head.
  63. Taking a refreshing nap.
  64. Going out for walks in the woods.
  65. That new car smell. (And that old car smell too!)
  66. You impacted someones life in some way.
  67. You have goals to complete!
  68. Trust me, You look so much better smiling!
  69. You learned from your past mistakes.
  70. Everyday has the chance to be the best day of your life.
  71. Seeing a shooting star.
  72. Someone smiles at you everyday.
  73. You have someone in your life who supports you.
  74. You are a good person.
  75. Putting your foot down and saying no.
  76. Stretching out your back after sitting for a long time.
  77. Hearing different accents.
  78. Being able to learn a new language.
  79. Paying all your bills on time.
  80. You deserve to be happy.
  81. Lazy rivers at water parks.
  82. You will never to be alone.
  83. Counting your blessings!
  84. Humans have walked on the moon!
  85. Opening fortune cookies!
  86. You’ve made it through your struggles.
  87. Everything you’re going through now will pass.
  88. Cooking a recipe perfectly.
  89. You are doing the right thing.
  90. Being able to laugh!may you always be happy
  91. Clean sheets.
  92. Watching thunder and lightening storms.
  93. Giving forgiveness.
  94. and being forgiveness.
  95. Helping others.
  96. Finding your passion.
  97. Finding your soul mate.
  98. Feeling confident when looking in the mirror.
  99. Watching the sun set/Sun rise.
  100. Filling up a whole journal.
  101. You are you! <3

Feel free to continue to add to his list in the comments with what makes you happy! Its always important to remind yourself of what makes you happy, and to never let go of it!

Never give up on trying to be happy. You all are amazing people who deserve to be happy!

Sending out all my love to you all,

Rosie xo

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How Family Therapy Can Help – My Experience

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Family therapy can help any family. Even with small problems. One of the biggest conceptions on family therapy is that only the most dysfunctional will benefit from therapy, but any family can.

My family was dysfunctional in quite a few ways. The communication was awful at home. When I was at one of the lowest points in my life, my therapist told my mom and I that I needed to seek a family therapist because my home life being so crazy was strongly contributing to my problems in a negative way.

Many people can seek family therapy for other things such as if a child is dealing with issues and needs support from their family.

I originally started family therapy with my mom. This was basically us venting about out time at home and with my dad. Progress wasn’t being made until my dad joined us in therapy. Since communication was the worst between my parents.

Progress wasn’t made immediately, but overtime things got better. Family therapy gave us a safe space and time to talk about problems at home. We each had a chance to voice our own side of each story and talk out a solution.

Everyone in a family unit is different and has their own side to every thing. When one person is a family is dealing with a mental illness or some sort of problem, the whole family will be affected by this.

It’s hard to remember this sometimes. It’s easier to only focus on the stress of yourself or the one person without realize how everyone else is affected. Even if they aren’t saying so.

I needed to be given the opportunity to voice how I felt to my dad is a safe space.

Growing up my dad had severe anger issues. He would lash out at everything and anything. Big and small. Things at home became harder and harder. My dad would scream, call names, and even punch holes in walls. I actually ended up scared for the safety of me and my family.

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My dad never laid a hand on any of us, but I still would walk away with the emotional scars and damage from this time in my life.

My dads issues started getting better when I became severely depressed and had to go to the hospital for my first suicide attempt. He realized what he was doing was actually causing me damage. Things calmed down a bit, but there still was no communication and I need got any closure I needed from my childhood.

My parents continued to regularly argue even though my dad wasn’t as angry. They never got along and they still have some trouble to this day. An argument would  be started about literally everything. From dinner to what grocery shopping to how I was doing at school. It was a never-ending circle of events.

This made this hard for me. I was never able to focus and there always was negative energy around the house. My dad and I didn’t get along very well either. We lived together almost like college room mates, he never said anything to me. He wouldn’t even say I love you, so I stopped saying it as well.

I wanted this issues to get better, I was sick of feeling trapped in my own home. I had so much weight on my shoulders, and not a single bit of closure on why my dad treated everyone the way he did when I was a child.

family 1Obviously things aren’t perfect now, but they are definitely better. I have been able to close doors to some parts of my life and stop carrying the burdens of the past on my shoulders.

I’m still working on bringing closure to my past, this is something I struggle with since I am unable to get all the answers I need. But despite this, the progress that my family and I have made has been something to be grateful for. My dad and I’s relationship has improved as well. This is something I can’t replace. I wouldn’t have come this far without family therapy.

“The only mistake you can made is not asking for help” – Sandeep Jauher

Never be afraid to reach out for help, whether the problem is big or small.

Love,
Rosie <3

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My Experience with Body Dysmorphia

self love bodyBody dysmorphic disorder is when you become obsess with a possible imperfection that you may have and flaws in your appearance. Sometimes these flaws are not even there, there in your head. This is something I struggled with for quite some time. I want to share how I’ve started to care more about my body and also share how important self love is.

The negative thoughts towards my body started at an extremely young age. I was in the first grade and I thought I was “fat”. Looking back on this, I obviously wasn’t fat. It’s confusing to look back and wonder why I was feeling this way at such a young age. My main focus on my body was my legs. I hated them and for some reason I just thought that they where too big. I was also bullied a lot and didn’t have a good home life. These where definitely huge contributions to my low self esteem.

When looking back at pictures from when I was a child, I was not fat. I looked like an average child,

but when looking at these pictures I sometimes can’t help but analyze every aspect of my body, especially the way my legs look in the photo.

 

The worst part about of all this was that I was to young explain or understand what I was feeling. You can’t start working on an issue until you know what the issue actually is. Being so young I wasn’t able to understand this.

Middle school was especially rough. Everyone in middle school feels a bit insecure. It’s hard, your body and mind start to change and this becomes very emotional. I experimented a lot with dieting, diet pills and lots of exercises, specifically leg exercises. My good friend was in a very similar situation to me and would support me, but wouldn’t always support me in the right ways. We where negative influences to each other.

trapped in body

Something huge I noticed in many people with body dysmorphic disorder is how much you begin to compare little things about others to yourself. You might notice things about others that you wish you had on yourself.

This is something I did often. I would stare at others, comparing little things about them to little things about myself.

What started this comparing is girls that are displayed in the media. I wanted my body to be like theirs, as most young girls do. It can be scary to see how there are so many brands such as ‘Victoria’s secret’ that only display ‘picture perfect’ bodies. This was a huge influence on me and many other girls I knew in middle school. We all would look at a Victoria’s secret catalog and strongly admire these girls.

I realized I had to stop looking to other people/ models and stop comparing myself to others to begin to love myself.

“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes to every one else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick

Another huge insecurity I had growing up besides my legs, was my hair. Everyone would bully me for hair being to messy and too greasy. Something I did to cope with my insecurity on my hair is scalp is I began to pick and peel at the skin on my scalp. Ew, right?

I didn’t get this habit under control until about a year and a half ago. It became a serious addictive habit at the time.

I never talked about any of my body insecurities or skin picking to anyone….

Until I started a program at a hospital. I was in CBT in the past but never an actual hospital program, so I took advantage of this opportunity to get better.

happy self love body

They put me on new medications that I’ve never tried in the past and these actually helped more than I thought they could. The medication was only half of the battle though, I still had to work on and develop the coping skills to help me with my issues.

I made it a point to stop comparing myself to others and whenever I felt myself doing so, I would tell my self that I don’t know what goes behind the scenes for them and that they may have there own insecurities as well.

This was a long battle I had with myself. I’ve made it so far by practicing self love and taking good care of my body by regularly staying active. I’m not giving up.

I want you all to know that help is out there. If you can’t find your way now, you’ll find it someday, never let your insecurities win. Do what makes you feel happy and love yourself.

There is only one you, you only have one body, show yourself the love everyone deserves.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Hotlines:

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Eating Disorders
630-577-1330

National Mental Health Association Hotline
800-273-TALK (8255)

Crisis Call Center
800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863