The Ultimate Guide to Mindfulness

 

Negative thoughts and emotions can interfere with our day to day lives. It’s important to try not to let these get to you. But if you don’t know how to properly identify all of your negative thought patterns, they will begin to get in the way of living a happy life.
I can’t say that I live a 100% 24/7 mindful life, But overtime I have learned how to quickly get my thoughts under control, and to live in the present without many worries. It would be unrealistic to expect yourself to be mindful all the time, it’s just not possible, and that’s okay.

Today I will be sharing a guide that I use to be mindful and live in the moment! What is mindfulness anyway?

 

 

By definition, mindfulness is “the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.” To put that in a more simply way, you could call mindfulness “Living in the moment.” When hearing such a simple definition, you may think that it’s easy being mindful, but with thoughts and worries getting in the way of just trying to live in the moment, it can get very hard. Especially if your super busy with home life, work life, family life and so on.

So where do you begin?

This can be a tough question, because you start right now, in fifteen minutes, tomorrow, or a whole year from now. You can be mindful literally anywhere at anytime. My favorite method is doing a 21 day challenge. It takes about 21 days to start a new habit, so I believe if you spend 21 days trying to be mindful throughout the day, it may begin to come easier afterwards. My 21 day challenge for mindfulness involves spending 10 minutes at each location you go to during the day trying to be mindful.

For example: After you wake up, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at home, if you go to work, out to run errands, etc, try to spend 10 minutes being mindful at each of those locations. What I love about doing this is that you can adjust the time to more or less than 10 minutes if needed, and it’s easy and doesn’t take up to much time. After those 21 days you can reflect on how you felt when being mindful and you can choose to continue doing so with more time added on.

Other Mindfulness Activities-

Meditation- Taking a couple minutes to just sit in silence and listen to all the sounds that surround you is one of my favorite ways to relax. When meditating you begin to notice things about how your breathing, feeling and sounds that you never pay any mind to at any other time. Just spending a small amount of time doing nothing is super beneficial.

Doing one thing at a time, and spending a long time doing- This may be annoying at first to those who are always busy with a lot on their plates. You might be thinking “There’s no way I’ll get anything done” But when you actually spend your time on one thing and doing it slowly and deliberately your time will not go to waste. This will help you learn to do things with quality and not quantity. It will take practice at first but in the long run may help your working life.

Stop worrying about the future- This is hard, because we all feel like there is something to worry about. But it’s always most important to focus on what’s happening now rather than what’s going to happen in the future. The future doesn’t exist yet, and you are what makes the future. This can be a hard thing to grasp, but focusing on the now will lead to better future. So every time you feel yourself worrying, try to get your mind back in mindful mode.

The benefits-

There are so many benefits of being mindful that I can list, but here are just a few:
– Less anxiety
– Feeling more accomplished with life
– Less worrying and feel overwhelmed
– Lowering blood pressure and improving memory

Those are a just a few things that will come when being mindful. It’s important to remember that mindfulness is not always easy but it is always beneficial. Practice makes perfect!

I hope you found this simple guide helpful! Please feel free to let me know any comments, questions or concerns that you may have!

Much love

Rosie xoxo

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5 Great Tips for Creating the Perfect Bucket List!

creating a bucket listHello everyone!

I recently talked about setting goals Here! And I decided to stay on the topic and talk about creating a bucket list! So if you enjoy this article and want tips on setting regular goals check out that link!

Everyone wants to live the life of there dreams, we all have our ideas of a ‘bucket list’ There are a few things that many get in the way of creating or completing a bucket list, such as money or time. But don’t give up on yourself!

Sometimes you have to just jump in and do it.

Stop waiting, life will only continue to pass you by, life won’t wait for you! Set those goals and just start getting stuff done. You obviously don’t have to complete everything right away, but you have to start somewhere. You have only one life to live, so live it up!

5 Tips for creating a great bucket list-
What is your budget?-

This is important, of course. But don’t let it hold you back, if you want to travel across the globe, you’re going to have plan out how much money that you need to save so you can finally complete that goal. When creating your budget, the most important thing to consider is how much money you make, and how much you want to save, and when you want to complete your goal. My favorite place for budgeting ideas is pinterest!!

What makes you happy?

I know, this is a no-brainer. But sometimes to figure this out, you have to actually sit down and do some serious deep thinking about it. You know know what makes you happy, such as movies, good food, and cats, but how can those be made into some serious goals that are worth adding to your bucket list?

Think of your childhood!bucket list dreams

I say this for finding inspiration for literally everything. When you are a child, you are full of the biggest dreams and motivations. I found my passion by thinking about what where my favorite things to do when I was a child. I loved animals as a kid, and as I got older I began to forget about that, but I did end up working with animals again and I realized how much I loved it. It was something I loved all along, but I completely forgot about it. So always look to your childhood and see what happens!

Find inspiration.

Take time to actually find inspiration, go for a walk, meditate, read an inspiring book. Starting a bucket list may sound like an easy thing to do but sometimes it can be hard, especially when you have no clue where to start or you have no motivation to complete the goals you have or even write any down.

Remember, it’s all about you!

This is about you, not anyone else, you can of course involve others in the goals on your bucket list, but they have to be the goals that you want. Do this to fulfill your lives dreams, not anyone else’s. When you sit down to write the goals for your bucket list, think of exactly what you want and exactly what will work for you, not about any one else!

Don’t forget- Start today, don’t hold back!

I hope that you all enjoyed reading this and find all these tips useful! Please feel free to leave feedback in the comments or Contact me Here!

Stop holding back on your dreams!

Love,

Rosie xo

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60 Day Happiness Challenge

60 day happiness challengeHello everyone! I hope your week has been well, I’m starting a 60 day self care/ Happiness challenge! This comes with a FREE printable PDF to use and follow along with in this challenge!

60 days is a lot to some people so I have separated the challenge into two 30 day challenges. You can choose to do 10 days, 30 days or all 60! Whatever makes you feel more comfortable and helps you out best!

Basically, I will be give a challenge everyday for the next SIXTY days! There are no rules and you can follow along whatever way you’d like! You can also use any of these self-care tips to create your own happiness challenge/routine. You can do these happiness and self care tips with any one as well, friends, family and I always recommend doing this kind of stuff with your children to teach them coping skills to use as grow older!

Here it goes!:

Day 1- Make your bed when you wake up! (Seems simple but it makes your room look so much more put together!)
Day 2- Cook yourself your favorite meal! (This can be something fancy or just a TV dinner, whatever makes you happiest!)
Day 3- Start a new book!
Day 4- Watch one of your favorite childhood movies! (Here comes the nostalgia!)
Day 5- Visit a library! (Get some peace and quiet!)
Day 6- Bubble bath time! (Find a DIY bath bomb recipe or hit up Lush if you’d like!)
Day 7- Go on a nature walk!
Day 8- Complete a small goal! (Legit anything from vacuuming your house to simply getting out of the house!)
Day 9- Smile at everyone you see! (I’ve always done this, brightens everyone’s day!)
Day 10- Meditate for at least 15 minutes!
Day 11- Create a positive music playlist!
Day 12- Watch a feel good movie!
Day 13- Declutter something in your home! (I should probably declutter my desk after this!)
Day 14- Create a bucket list!
Day 15- One day without social media!
Day 16- Create a vision board!
Day 17- Create a list of everything your grateful for! (Count those blessings)
Day 18- Do some stretching and some yoga!
Day 19- Watch an inspiring ted talk!
Day 20- Spend time with a pet! (If you don’t have a pet, find a friend or families pet!)
Day 21- Journal your thoughts throughout the day!
Day 22- Plan your dream trip!
Day 23- Stay in your pajamas as much as possible today! (Or just wear comfortable clothes!)
Day 24- Wear your favorite outfit! (I know that both guys and girls have that favorite outfit that makes them feel confident!)
Day 25- Eat healthy all day!
Day 26- Take yourself out on a date!
Day 27- Do something creative! (Make a collage, poetry, drawing, painting, etc!)
Day 28- Rearrange your wardrobe!
Day 29- Buy yourself a new outfit! (I love this!
Day 30- Go on a picnic with yourself or with some one you love!
Day 31- Avoid checking your phone today! (Focus on whats in front of you and being mindful!)
Day 32- Bike ride! (If you don’t have bike, borrow a friends, or just go out for a walk or run on a bike trail!)
Day 33- Play a board game!
Day 34- Use a self care product! (Face mask, stress relieving lotions, etc!)
Day 35- Random act of kindness!
Day 36- Write a letter to future you!
Day 37- Write a letter to past you!
Day 38- Long and thoughtful shower!
Day 39- Take a nap today!
Day 40- Donate old and unused clothes/items to goodwill!
Day 41- Go to your favorite place! (Park, restaurant, anything you love!)
Day 42- Order takeout!
Day 43- Go out for ice cream!
Day 44- Dance to your favorite feel good song!
Day 45- Write a letter forgiving yourself for any past guilt or shame you may have.
Day 46- Sit in the sun!
Day 47- Find something to be thankful for about today!
Day 48- Start a small daily habit!
Day 49- Plan an evening of chill!
Day 50- Every time you look in the mirror give yourself a compliment!
Day 51- Get an early start to the day!
Day 52- Create a list of daily goals!
Day 53- Clean out your email inbox!
Day 54- Organize your desk!
Day 55- Write down 10 things you love about yourself!
Day 56- Write a letter to someone you love (best friends, family member, S.O) thanking them for being by your side!
Day 57- Get yourself a coloring book!
Day 58- Binge watch a favorite show or movie series!
Day 59- Drink enough water throughout the day!
Day 60- Pick out your favorites from this list to create your own self-care routine! (Most important!)

Here are the PDF’s that you can print and cross out as you go:

1st 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!
2nd 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!

I hope you enjoy these free printable’s!  Please let me know how you do on this challenge, would love to hear some feedback. You can let me know in the comments or contact me Here!

(: BTW- You can rearrange the days on this list to match your own personal schedule as well!

Much love,

Rosie

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How to Handle Past Trauma

how to deal with past traumaSymptoms of Trauma:

  • Shock
  • Mood Swings
  • Depressions
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling Numb
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Withdrawal
  • Nightmares
So what is trauma anyway?

Trauma, by googles definition is a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Trauma can be cause by any emotional, stressful event. Such as abuse, bullying, an accident, a lose of a loved one, etc.

Any event can lead to trauma, especially when it happens in situation where you have no power to do anything about it, causing you to feel hopelessness.  For example, a car accident or childhood abuse, where you are too young or someone else is involved causing you to be unable to do anything about it.

Childhood trauma can increase the risk of future trauma. If you experience trauma in your childhood, it may cause you to be more of sensitive adult. Which can lead to being a lot more  vulnerable for trauma as an adult. Everyone’s trauma is different as well, we all experience and react to our environment differently. One person may experience a traumatic event and not be as affected as someone else who experienced something very similar. And that’s okay.

experience with traumaMy personal experience-

As a child I struggled with bullying and a terrible home life. At home my dad had serious anger issues, he was regularly emotionally and verbally abusive.  I never had a safe space. When going to school and was bullied, then I went home and was bullied. I was constantly in fear. I never knew if I was going to have a good day, decent day or an absolutely horrible day. Sometimes I was in fear for my life.

All these incidents have followed me into adulthood. I have had many moments and times where I was taken back to these moments through nightmares, similar situations and anxiety. Over time I have learned from my struggle. And I’m still learning everyday.

How and what I learned-
  • I realized I was more than the issues I’ve dealt with, I am more than my flaws. The trauma I experience does make the person I am.
  • Learning to find closure by letting go even though it’s hard, and I still struggle some times.
  • Connecting with others, this is important. Finding people with similar situations and experiences, such as group therapy programs, etc. You can find out new ways to cope with your trauma from other people and share your methods with them as well.
  • Psychical Activity- this can go with any kind of issue. I always recommend it. You can use any physical activity you enjoy as well. Weight lifting, running, walking, dancing, hiking, anything you enjoy that will get you moving!
  • Finding happiness in the little things, such as taking gratitude everyday for everything you have been in this life. Every week I try to write ten things I’m grateful for that happened throughout my week. Finding happiness in the little things has helped so much.

 

Developing this coping skills and adding them to your routine may be hard at first. It may take a lot of time as well. Sometimes I still have moments where the issues from my past get to me. I know it’s never going to be 100 percent perfect, and I know that’s okay. I still work hard on bettering myself as person and coping with my trauma.
I’m grateful to have gone this far in life, I’m still growing as well, we all are!

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
― Camille Paglia

Hope you all enjoyed this and benefited from reading! I apologize for my short absence. Unfortunately I was dealing with problems with my computer and I had to take it into the shop! I have it back now and I’m so happy to be back on my blog!

Thank you for reading! Please leave comments and feedback if you have any! It’s very much appreciated!

Much love,
Rosie

Daily Habits you should Develop and Why

I’m excited for today’s journal prompt. I’m going to be talking about daily habits that I’m looking for develop! You guys might want to develop these habits into your daily life as well!

There are few daily habits I would like to develop,

but why are keeping habits so important?

Keep good habits starts with a change in your life style, for example: Most articles talking about the importance of a healthy diet, mention that to have a healthy diet, you need to change your life style into a healthy life style.

Your everyday habits and your life style is a huge part of who you are. People who have healthy habits tend to be healthier and happier people all around. And people who have bad habits tend to not be very happy. Your habits are what shape you as a person.

Habits will lead to goals as well. Such as if you have a goal to lose weight, you need to make a habit to eat healthier.

Habits that I am looking to develop are:

  1. Making my bed everyday.
  2. Eating healthy and work out regularly.
  3. Writing everyday.

Making my bed everyday may sound silly. But it can really brighten things up in your morning routine.

If I make my bed in the morning, I am less likely to end up climbing back into bed. Especially if I am feeling depressed, and I wish to stay in bed all day even though it won’t help me in the long run. When I make my bed, I am more likely to stay out of it, get ready, and start my day fresh. This goal is definitely a keeper.

Healthy eating and exercise This one is kind of no brainer. Everyone wants to look and feel their best! And these are definite ways to get there!

Writing everyday is for my blog and a book I’m working out. At the moment, I write to the best of my abilities but I know I could always get better. I’m working hard on my content and also simply writing about my daily life in  my own personal diaries. I love to look back on writings that I’ve made years ago so I’ve owned private journals for some time now. Writing will always be a habit to work on and grow into something more!

All of these habits I’ve listed have end goals that I wish to reach someday. The plus side of developing these is that if they become so ingrained in your life then the goals become much easier to meet.

Don’t give up! 

Don’t give up on your habits, even if you fall off the wagon for one day, it doesn’t mean that you should give up. You can always start any day. Start today and everyday you will feel a difference and soon enough you will see the difference. You won’t regret it either! Take care of yourself, love yourself and create a life style around self-love and happiness.

Love,
Rosie

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How Family Therapy Can Help – My Experience

family therapy

Family therapy can help any family. Even with small problems. One of the biggest conceptions on family therapy is that only the most dysfunctional will benefit from therapy, but any family can.

My family was dysfunctional in quite a few ways. The communication was awful at home. When I was at one of the lowest points in my life, my therapist told my mom and I that I needed to seek a family therapist because my home life being so crazy was strongly contributing to my problems in a negative way.

Many people can seek family therapy for other things such as if a child is dealing with issues and needs support from their family.

I originally started family therapy with my mom. This was basically us venting about out time at home and with my dad. Progress wasn’t being made until my dad joined us in therapy. Since communication was the worst between my parents.

Progress wasn’t made immediately, but overtime things got better. Family therapy gave us a safe space and time to talk about problems at home. We each had a chance to voice our own side of each story and talk out a solution.

Everyone in a family unit is different and has their own side to every thing. When one person is a family is dealing with a mental illness or some sort of problem, the whole family will be affected by this.

It’s hard to remember this sometimes. It’s easier to only focus on the stress of yourself or the one person without realize how everyone else is affected. Even if they aren’t saying so.

I needed to be given the opportunity to voice how I felt to my dad is a safe space.

Growing up my dad had severe anger issues. He would lash out at everything and anything. Big and small. Things at home became harder and harder. My dad would scream, call names, and even punch holes in walls. I actually ended up scared for the safety of me and my family.

family

My dad never laid a hand on any of us, but I still would walk away with the emotional scars and damage from this time in my life.

My dads issues started getting better when I became severely depressed and had to go to the hospital for my first suicide attempt. He realized what he was doing was actually causing me damage. Things calmed down a bit, but there still was no communication and I need got any closure I needed from my childhood.

My parents continued to regularly argue even though my dad wasn’t as angry. They never got along and they still have some trouble to this day. An argument would  be started about literally everything. From dinner to what grocery shopping to how I was doing at school. It was a never-ending circle of events.

This made this hard for me. I was never able to focus and there always was negative energy around the house. My dad and I didn’t get along very well either. We lived together almost like college room mates, he never said anything to me. He wouldn’t even say I love you, so I stopped saying it as well.

I wanted this issues to get better, I was sick of feeling trapped in my own home. I had so much weight on my shoulders, and not a single bit of closure on why my dad treated everyone the way he did when I was a child.

family 1Obviously things aren’t perfect now, but they are definitely better. I have been able to close doors to some parts of my life and stop carrying the burdens of the past on my shoulders.

I’m still working on bringing closure to my past, this is something I struggle with since I am unable to get all the answers I need. But despite this, the progress that my family and I have made has been something to be grateful for. My dad and I’s relationship has improved as well. This is something I can’t replace. I wouldn’t have come this far without family therapy.

“The only mistake you can made is not asking for help” – Sandeep Jauher

Never be afraid to reach out for help, whether the problem is big or small.

Love,
Rosie <3

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My Experience with Body Dysmorphia

self love bodyBody dysmorphic disorder is when you become obsess with a possible imperfection that you may have and flaws in your appearance. Sometimes these flaws are not even there, there in your head. This is something I struggled with for quite some time. I want to share how I’ve started to care more about my body and also share how important self love is.

The negative thoughts towards my body started at an extremely young age. I was in the first grade and I thought I was “fat”. Looking back on this, I obviously wasn’t fat. It’s confusing to look back and wonder why I was feeling this way at such a young age. My main focus on my body was my legs. I hated them and for some reason I just thought that they where too big. I was also bullied a lot and didn’t have a good home life. These where definitely huge contributions to my low self esteem.

When looking back at pictures from when I was a child, I was not fat. I looked like an average child,

but when looking at these pictures I sometimes can’t help but analyze every aspect of my body, especially the way my legs look in the photo.

 

The worst part about of all this was that I was to young explain or understand what I was feeling. You can’t start working on an issue until you know what the issue actually is. Being so young I wasn’t able to understand this.

Middle school was especially rough. Everyone in middle school feels a bit insecure. It’s hard, your body and mind start to change and this becomes very emotional. I experimented a lot with dieting, diet pills and lots of exercises, specifically leg exercises. My good friend was in a very similar situation to me and would support me, but wouldn’t always support me in the right ways. We where negative influences to each other.

trapped in body

Something huge I noticed in many people with body dysmorphic disorder is how much you begin to compare little things about others to yourself. You might notice things about others that you wish you had on yourself.

This is something I did often. I would stare at others, comparing little things about them to little things about myself.

What started this comparing is girls that are displayed in the media. I wanted my body to be like theirs, as most young girls do. It can be scary to see how there are so many brands such as ‘Victoria’s secret’ that only display ‘picture perfect’ bodies. This was a huge influence on me and many other girls I knew in middle school. We all would look at a Victoria’s secret catalog and strongly admire these girls.

I realized I had to stop looking to other people/ models and stop comparing myself to others to begin to love myself.

“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes to every one else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick

Another huge insecurity I had growing up besides my legs, was my hair. Everyone would bully me for hair being to messy and too greasy. Something I did to cope with my insecurity on my hair is scalp is I began to pick and peel at the skin on my scalp. Ew, right?

I didn’t get this habit under control until about a year and a half ago. It became a serious addictive habit at the time.

I never talked about any of my body insecurities or skin picking to anyone….

Until I started a program at a hospital. I was in CBT in the past but never an actual hospital program, so I took advantage of this opportunity to get better.

happy self love body

They put me on new medications that I’ve never tried in the past and these actually helped more than I thought they could. The medication was only half of the battle though, I still had to work on and develop the coping skills to help me with my issues.

I made it a point to stop comparing myself to others and whenever I felt myself doing so, I would tell my self that I don’t know what goes behind the scenes for them and that they may have there own insecurities as well.

This was a long battle I had with myself. I’ve made it so far by practicing self love and taking good care of my body by regularly staying active. I’m not giving up.

I want you all to know that help is out there. If you can’t find your way now, you’ll find it someday, never let your insecurities win. Do what makes you feel happy and love yourself.

There is only one you, you only have one body, show yourself the love everyone deserves.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Hotlines:

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Eating Disorders
630-577-1330

National Mental Health Association Hotline
800-273-TALK (8255)

Crisis Call Center
800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863

 

The Toxic Internet: How the internet turned me into something I’m not

toxic internet

How the internet made me into something I’m not and How I got out of it.

This is a weird topic to talk about, isn’t it? Since here I am, on the internet, talking about the internet being toxic. The internet has everything from funny cat videos, to cool stuff, all the way to being able to make new friends. But where do things start heading south?

I started using the internet on regular basis at a young age. I was around middle school age and social media and the internet where still somewhat new to everyone. Online I learned a lot, but with all the freedom I had, and no supervision, I made a lot of mistakes.

 

Now you must be asking: How can you really make that much mistakes on the internet?

 

It all started with “Cat-fishing”, Cat-fishing is when you go onto a social media account and pretend to be someone you aren’t by using fake names, pictures and information.

I was young, and my best friend told me to just make a Facebook/Myspace account with a fake name and photos because we where too young to have our own information on our accounts. Looking back on this, I wondered why I even made an account at all. At the end of the day, I was too young and this was an awful idea.

With the fake name and the pictures of a pretty girl on my profile, my friends list started growing rapidly. This made me feel wanted and all the extra attention made me happy at the time. Writing about this honestly makes feel so embarrassed cause I wonder why I did any of this.

 

Talking to these people online started to create problems. People thought I was older, and lived a completely different life than I actually did.

People would want to meet up, or video chat and for some reason they would get so angry if I said no. Some people were honestly a bit insane and over the top. Someone even called the police on me! But being around 11-12 and a total immature, naive catfish, I had no idea how to handle these situations.

internet

 

This would continue to get worse as I began to dislike myself even more. Everyone only like the fake me, fake pictures and fake life, but no one cared for the real me. I started to feel awful about myself and every time I looked in the mirror, I hoped I would see someone different than me.

Every morning I’d hope to open my eyes to some great life that was just anything but what I was actually living. I wanted to be perfect.

The internet gave me this ability to become someone I’m not. There was so many influences across the web that told it was okay to continue what I was doing.

 

So whats the lesson in all this?

I learned how easy the internet makes  it to play a role, and a lot of people do it. Not everyone uses fake pictures and catfish accounts either. Some celebrities edit their photos and make it out to seem like their life is picture perfect. We all want to show the world how interesting and amazing our life is, so we try our hardest. It’s bout amazing and terrifying to see how far we have come with both technology and the internet.

Now that I am much older,

I know how to use the internet in a more positive manner such as my blog and trying to spread positivity with writing. Through my blog I want to continue spreading this positivity. Teaching others how to use the internet as more of a happy place for them has made me happy.

I finally deleted my catfish accounts around age of 13-14,when I started high school and started making real friends. I also realized if anyone actually found these catfish accounts it wouldn’t make me look that good. Doing this made me feel better over time, because I started to feel more like myself and work more on myself.

I realized how something as little has photo shopping your photos can change how you look at yourself. And that Pretending to be someone else can begin to turn you into someone else.

The most important thing to take from this is that not everything online is as perfect as it seems. All the celebrities you know are human just like you and me and their lives are not perfect. Don’t use the internet for attention either, you might just end up even more lonely than you where to begin with.

Be yourself and love yourself. Do things for you not for others. Use the Internet to look for positive role models and happiness.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Healthy Eating for Happiness

Healthy eating can be hard but it’s crazy how much it can affect your mood. Foods like chocolate, cake, and chips, tend to give you temporary happiness but since they contain no real nutrients and simple are not good for you, they make you feel crappy in the long run.

Studies have actually shown that unhealthy diets contribute to depression.

Sugar can actually cause you stress. Since when you are stressed out, your body looks for sugary food. A lot of people who start addictive binge eating begin eating when stressed out and depressed.

Emotional eating is definitely not the way to go when feeling down. You are not eating because you are hungry, but because you are looking for a temporary way to relieve your stress.

It’s important to eat enough as well. It is not just eating junk foods and sugars that can cause issues with mental health. If you are eating enough as you should be or not eating at the right times, this can cause some issues.

If you are feeling tired, light headed and your stomach is feeling empty then it’s important to eat. Never starve yourself for any reason, always remember you are beautiful and both you and your body deserve the best treatment.

The most important meal of day- Breakfast!! You all have probably heard this many times before. But it’s true! Starting your day off with a nice big meal full of nutrients will leave you feeling happy and satisfied!

For me personally, I feel so much better when I eat healthy with an occasional treat every once and a while. My favorite treat is a giant bowl ice cream!! 😉 Since I started regularly eating healthy, I have also felt so much more confident with my body. I think this is because I’m taking good care of  my body so I feel so much happy with my body.

The most important thing out of all this is to do what makes you feel happy, confident, and satisfied. Everyone deserves to love themselves and be happy and the best way to get started us by eating healthy and taking care of your body!

Much love,

Rosie

Dealing with Everday Loneliness

Loneliness has been one of my biggest struggles with depression.

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Sometimes I feel like it is very hard to be able to explain your loneliness to someone, Especially because you could be lonely in a crowd of people. Overall this can be an overwhelming and hard to explain experience.

When you feel lonely, you feel empty. You feel as if there is no one around you who could help relieve this feeling. Admitting to being lonely might make you feel weak, and helpless. But being able to recognize this familiar and debilitating feeling is one step of the way to finding out how to help fix it.

Growing up, I never had many friends, so both imaginary and the feeling of loneliness became very familiar to me. Even though I was at such a young and tender age.

A feeling that I really still have trouble beginning to understand is being lonely when in a crowded room. Personally, this is the worst kind of loneliness. I believe that this happens typically when the people around you are not giving you the support that you need. Even though these people may care about you and may have good intentions, they might not understand.

It’s important being able to understand why you are lonely. Did you recently loose a friend or loved one? going through a break up? struggling with depression? These are all major factors to consider when identifying this feeling.

I’ve learned many different coping skills that have given me the ability to combat my loneliness. Some being, reading, calling a good friend, and simply finding different way to keep my mind busy.

In most cases, people who feel a sense of chronic loneliness, struggle with depression. Especially since isolating yourself is a symptom of depression.

If you are someone who feels lonely on a regular basis, it’s important to have a plan on how you are going to handle this feeling.

lonelinessWriting down exactly what you are feeling, then expressing it to someone

This always helps me. I’ve always been a bit of a writing, but the second part of this can be a bit hard but its the most important. When you are feeling alone, letting it sit there can make it worse. So finding someone supportive to express these feeling is crucial.

PETS!

Everyone knows this to be true. One of the best ways to combat loneliness to sit down with or even talk to a pet. Their my favorite best friends!

Call a good friend or family member

This one goes without saying, and may be the most helpful one on this list.

Using your own personal coping skills

We all have our own personal (healthy) methods of coping and making ourselves happy. Such as reading or coloring. These ones are always available to you as well!

Something to remember: The state of loneliness is something that can be changed, if you want it too. The more you let it sit the worse you are letting it get.

Get involved with your mental health and personal well being. It may be hard to begin, but it’s something that you can’t regret. Go out there and be active when comes down to keeping yourself in a healthy state of mind!

Feel free to Contact me here. If you need anything! Thank you more reading!

Much love,
Rosie