Successes and Fails and Dealing with them

Talking about both successes and fails can be kind of a vague topic, but I’m going to try to dive deep and see what’s behind both my successes and my fails. Is it motivation? my mood? Or just pure luck?

successes

Honestly I’m not sure, but I’d like to share to try to motivate everyone out there

I think my biggest success was actually getting out there and starting this blog. I never thought I’d become a writer for a blog, or of any kind for that matter. But here I am writing this post. My 2 biggest fears with starting a blog were, simply failing, or getting judged. I think in my short time blogging, I’ve experienced both, but only on the side of motivation, happiness, and support. Of course I’ve tried writing a post and completely couldn’t do it, or someone has said to me “You have a blog?….why..?”

I’m hesitant to share my posts sometimes, I’m afraid that I’ll be judged. Overtime I’ve learned that most people, if they are true friends of yours, will support you and cheer you on through your journey as a blogger, whether that be big or small.

Another success of mine is learning to be myself. I’ve always have some trouble with this throughout my life. I was bullied as a child, at school and at home. This basically taught me to contain myself in a bottle without causing a bother to anyone around me.

I didn’t learn to express myself until recently. At the time I was fed up and finally moving into a new environment with new people, so I let loose. I went a little crazy at first but soon I got myself together and I found out who I really was inside and what I wanted to make of myself.

If I put all my successes to the side, then I have my fails.

Which honestly are all very little things that somehow manage to bother me throughout the day. Such as saying something embarrassing, or writing a not so great blog post. They aren’t super serious issues but I feel like they add up.

Dealing with the little things can be hard. I’ve learned how to overcome little embarrassments.

The best advice I’ve given myself, which I’ve mentioned in past posts, was that what happens today won’t matter in 10 years. Or possibly even in 2 weeks. I pretty much live by this advice. I seem to embarrass myself quite a lot at times or mess up in tiny ways at work and such. Once I began to realize how after some time these things didn’t matter, I saw an improvement.

I’m proud of myself, how I’ve grown and where I’m going. The biggest thing I’ve realized through my fails and successes was that everything is a learning experience.

I know that we only live once and everything I’ve done, I have learned something. I wouldn’t trad that for anything

Hope you guys enjoyed this post! Feel free to Contact me or leave a comment!

Much love,

Rosie

Top 5 best Articles on Overcoming Mental Illness

download.jpgDo you need a motivation or pick me up? I’ve been searching around the internet for article about overcoming mental illness. I usually like to read these type of stories when I’m feeling a bit down. So I’ve put together my 5 personal favorites and I’m excited to share them. These stories are both motivating and powerful and I hope that you guys enjoy reading them.

  1. Right here is an older story about how a man dealt with his schizophrenia, even though its older it still has the same inpact reading it. Maurizio Baldini’s story

  2. This is a great success story. This person talks about how reaching out to PHS gave them much support. Success story

  3. I love this story. It’s about a family member who should have reached for help. It’s kind of a sad one, but holds a very valuable and strong meaning. Dans story

  4. This short story is on the same website as the last, but very different. They use an accurate metaphor to describe their depression and anxiety. Steph’s story

  5. This blog post is about celebrities who have overcame their mental illness. I think it’s especially important to read celebrity stories because they try to portray their lives as being so perfect, but in reality, just like everyone else, they are people too. Celebrity Stories

 

I hope that you all enjoyed these short stories. I’m sorry for this article being a bit short, I’m dealing with some computer issues so I had to be a bit quick! But be sure to stay tuned for my journal prompt on Tuesday!

Feel free to contact me Here! And leave any comments or feedback that you wish!

Sending much love to you all,

Love,
Rosie

Journal Prompt: When do you feel most connected to yourself?

SO, here is my third journal prompt! trying to get the hang of writing once every week 🙂journal

But I really like this prompt, it’s something that makes me happy to think and write about. I hope you guys feel the same way about it, and are able to use the prompt in your own writing/journal

when do you feel most connected to yourself?

I feel the most connected to myself when I’m working with and help animals. They are my life, my passion, my world.

I believe it’s very important to feel connected to yourself. But I didn’t really think much of it before I found my passion. I was 15 and planning to drop out of high school when I started volunteering at an animal shelter. That opportunity opened a new set of doors for me.

I don’t know where I would be right now if I never realized how much I love working with animals. Especially cats. Now I foster, and work with several organizations to rescue pets!

I’ve found that I have a deep connection with all of the cats I work with. (You can call me a crazy cat lady all you want!) But this has become my motivation to keep going in life, even when things are rough. I always have something to look forward too everyday.

This is when I feel most connected to myself, when I’m doing what I love.

I love what I do and I plan to keep doing this for the rest of my life.

I’m curious to know when you guys feel most connected to yourselves.I would love to hear some responses! If you are unsure, finding your passion might just be the answer.

Hope you all enjoyed this post! Feel free to leave feedback or contact me Here.

Love,

Rosie

8 Simple Poems to Brighten your Day

Poetry is beautiful, right? I think everyone could agree. Lately I’ve been looking up quitesimple poems.png a bit of poetry on pinterest and other sites and I have a few that I like more than others. These 8 simple poems will surely make your day better!

1. Love is better than hate – Poppy Coke

“Don’t judge a book by its cover,
love is better than hate.

Life’s too short to waste opportunities
you have the chance to take.

One day you could be alive and the next you could be dead,
so keep your head held high with a big smile on your face!” -Poppy coke

 2. Life is beautiful – Andy Cave

“A flower blossoms as a bird sings its song
life is beautiful but it doesn’t last long,
so enjoy it while it’s here, don’t wait till it’s gone
or you might miss the flowers and the birds lovely songs” -Andy cave

 3. The Butterfly – Rich Hunter

“The butterfly is a thing to behold,
with colors more beautiful than gold.Flying hour by hour,
going from flower to flower.Oh, how I enjoy your beauty butterfly,
as I sit and watch you flutter by.” -Rich Hunter

4. Never look Back – Christina Renee Donnal

“Never look back at your past,
The past is the past,
and nothing at last,

Look into the future,
for what you might see,
is you and me forever.” – Christina Renee Donnal

5. Happiness – Sri Chinmoy

“The mind chases happiness.
The heart creates happiness.

The soul is happiness
And it spreads happiness
All-where.” – Sri Chinmoy

6. A Word to Husbands – Ogden Nash

“To keep your marriage brimming
With love in the loving cup,

Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.” -Ogden Nash

7. Risk – Anais Nin

“And then the day came,
when the risk
to remain tight
in a bud
was more painful
than the risk
it took
to Blossom.” – Anais Nin

8. I love you – (Author Unknown)

 What is a flower without the sun?
What is the earth without the sky?
What is life without fun?
What am I without you?
This is why I tell you,
I love you.

I hope everyone has enjoyed reading these simpl poems, and I hope some of them offered a mood boost! Thank you so much for reading! Feel free to contact me with any questions or feedback you may have!- Rosie

 

Getting Help

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You might feel the same way as I did when I finally started getting help-

Scared, Confused, Unsure,

I was there but finding help was the best decision I have ever made. When you first walk into your therapists office, your heart is beating, you just want to turn around.

If your over 18, it’s easier to find a licensed therapist, theirs websites like goodtherapy.org and Psychology Today.

When you’re under 18, like I was when I was seeking help, it can be much scarier. You have to go through your parents first. Your parents should be understanding, it’s hard, the worst they can say is no, but you have to remain positive regardless. Just like with any goals in life, no matter how difficult it is, the best rule of thumb, is to try until you eventually succeed, and to stay strong.

It may seem generic to give the cliche “just try harder” advice, especially when you’re already seeking emotional support and assistance, but a piece of advice that is more important to be given when it comes to emotional support.

Something to always remember is that your therapist will never judge you. They probably have seen dozens of people in similar situations to you. You are not alone. They want to be there to help you, and if you don’t feel like you’re connecting to you’re connecting with your therapist, they wont be offended if you want to find somebody new. They might actually give you a to referral to someone they know.

Always remember to never loose motivation, keep going, trust me, once you find help, things will get better.

Never give up, love,

Rosie

How to Challenge Negative Thoughts

negative thoughts When I was dealing with depression, one of the hardest parts was all the negative thoughts I had. My thinking would get in the way of my daily life-

“I can’t do it” – “people will judge me” – “There’s no way I can do this, I should jut give up”-

Those were the thoughts I had. I knew something needed to change, but it was easier said than done. So I started with baby steps.

Recognizing your negative thoughts-

When you think a certain way for so long, it becomes almost natural. You start to not notice your thought pattern as often, since it’s just something you’re used to.

Half the battle is being able to start recognizing how you are thinking, so whenever you are feeling down or in a high anxiety/stressful situation, pay attention to the thoughts that come to mind.

Finding ways to replace those negative thoughts-

Once you are able to recognize those negative thoughts, the second half of the battle is learning to combat those thoughts. Whenever I was able to, I pulled out my journal when I was having negative thoughts, and I wrote down why they weren’t true. You don’t have to write these things down, but you still have to try thinking them.

Try to look at what you are thinking in a more rational way. When you tell yourself “I could never do this! I’m so stupid.” try to replace that thought with “I’m not stupid, everyone starts somewhere and I shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help. I can do anything I put my mind too” Once you get into the habit of replacing these thoughts you will notice a difference in how you are thinking.

The fact is- A lot of the thoughts you are having are not true. The only reason why these thoughts have power, is because you give them power. Once you stop letting them have power, you will feel more at peace with yourself.

Everyday, is a new beginning to change you’re life for the better, it’s all about taking the first step!

Love, Rosie

Feel free to comment any feedback or any questions you have for me!

How to deal with mean friends

Growing up, I didn’t have friends,

……and the friends I had weren’t very nice.

I remember in the sixth grade my mom bought me a cute pair of sneakers. Everyone in class was complimenting me on them. My only ‘friend’ then went up to me and told me she didn’t even like my shoes, that they looked ‘Ice cream’. I wanted to tell her that I didn’t like her shoes either, or just stand up for myself in some sort of way, but I said nothing.

I’ve dealt with that ‘friend’ for a long time, she would bully me, hang out with tons of people who would always insult me and tell her to not talk to me, I was only her friend because I had no one else.

I didn’t actually get out of this relationship until we parted our ways when we got to high school. She completely stopped talking to me. I was disappointed that she stopped talking to me. It took me a long time to realize that I never did anything wrong. Since then, I have had trouble making good friends. I never had any real friend throughout my life, I would settle for anything, even crappy friends. When I first started high school, I start smoking and drinking anything I could get my hands on, this was because I made a whole new group of friends who was part of ‘that’ crowd. Toward the end of my freshman year, in april, I made a decision to start taking care of myself, to make better friends, and to be happy. This was the best decision I ever made.

Now if a friend of mine is rude, I know what to do. I have to grown the confidence to stand up for myself. I also realized that being rude back won’t make anything better. The main thing that you can do is communicate how you feel. Ask them why they are treating you that way. Tell them you do not want to be mistreated. Something that is hard to realize is that if they aren’t willing to admit they are doing anything wrong. Or if they don’t try to put any effort to change their actions, that they aren’t real friends. If they truly cared about you they would want to make sure you’re happy, and that they don’t hurt you.

Something to always remember is that YOU come first. Make sure you are happy with the friends you have. You should never let anyone bring you down. It took me a long time to realize this, but it’s better to have no friends, than fake friends. Nobody deserves to be mistreated. Always remember to stand up for yourself. ❤

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Welcome to the Optimist Digest!

Hello to everyone reading!

I’ve created the blog to share positivity with the world through my life and experiences.

I plan to share my love for animals, random thoughts, my life in general, and how I overcame a rough childhood and depression. I’m hoping by sharing these thing with the world I could help or inspire other people.

Thank you so more for reading! Feel free to leave feedback and I hope you enjoy my blog!