Handling Rude People and Bullies

handling rude people
Hello everyone!

Today I’ll be talking about rude people and the bullies you find in both your work like and your school life. Especially because now that school is starting and summer is over, school and work is now more of focus. Because of this we may have to deal with rude people more often unfortunately.

When we deal with rude people, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves and want to attack the person whose being rude and attacking you, it’s hard not to at times.

It’s sometimes best to just learn to walk away and not take it personally. If you are much younger and still in school it may be easier to just get an adult that you trust to help handle the situations with the bully. You should never have to deal with bullies alone.

basic tips on handling rude peopleSome Basic Tips-
Don’t take it personally

People who tend to be mean to other often are typically unhappy with themselves, they are sometimes immature and often dealing with their own personal issues in their life. There are some people who don’t have control in their lives, so they tend to look for things that they can control.

Don’t contribute to it

If someone’s being unkind and straight up rude to you, it may be easy to add fuel to the fire, but doing so might make the problem bigger. Remember that two wrongs don’t make a right.

It’s sometimes best to just be kind

If you regularly work with this person who is rude, try to be nice to them throughout the time you are with them. There was a woman at my work who was rude at times to many people throughout her shift. She could be controlling as well. But when she came to work with a pretty dress or something else I like. I would let her know that I like them. Sometimes if I wanted to start-up a friendly conversation, I would even ask her where the got the article of clothing that I like. It would often brighten her mood and start the shift on a good note.

Walking away

It might be hard but sometimes it’s easier on everyone else in situation to just walk away. It might even let the person whose upset and being unkind calm down and think about why they’re upset.

 If you can help, try

They might be being rude because of something frustrating them, if you know how to help, you can try. But know if it’s not worth it, sometimes because are just rude just to be rude and attempting to help them won’t change anything.

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Always remember these tips and that every person you deal with is different and some people are rude because maybe it’s a habit, or maybe their insecure, or because their having a bad day. Sometimes it’s not worth bothering with them and it’s best to not try to change their behavior and just change on how you can handle it to make yourself feel better. Remember to never take it personally and handle it the best way you can.

For students in school-

If there is a bully at your school, it might be hard to handle, especially if it’s constant. You don’t have to handle it alone. Try to talk to your parents, or parents of the bully, or a teacher you trust or a school counselor.

You can also use some of the tips I mentioned before for some occasional bullies, but for constant bullying you might be better off finding an adult to help you out.
You can also find tips for handling bullies on www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/ and www.stopbullying.gov

Final Notes-

Remember to never let anyone else bring you down and to stay strong no matter what anyone says to you. You are your own person and no one should be allowed to hurt you or bring you down.

Also never become the bully simply because you are being bullied. You should never go down to someone else’s level. Stay above them and stay strong!

“If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them.”

I hope you all are doing well, and enjoyed this post, sending all my love!,

Rosie x

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60 Day Happiness Challenge

60 day happiness challengeHello everyone! I hope your week has been well, I’m starting a 60 day self care/ Happiness challenge! This comes with a FREE printable PDF to use and follow along with in this challenge!

60 days is a lot to some people so I have separated the challenge into two 30 day challenges. You can choose to do 10 days, 30 days or all 60! Whatever makes you feel more comfortable and helps you out best!

Basically, I will be give a challenge everyday for the next SIXTY days! There are no rules and you can follow along whatever way you’d like! You can also use any of these self-care tips to create your own happiness challenge/routine. You can do these happiness and self care tips with any one as well, friends, family and I always recommend doing this kind of stuff with your children to teach them coping skills to use as grow older!

Here it goes!:

Day 1- Make your bed when you wake up! (Seems simple but it makes your room look so much more put together!)
Day 2- Cook yourself your favorite meal! (This can be something fancy or just a TV dinner, whatever makes you happiest!)
Day 3- Start a new book!
Day 4- Watch one of your favorite childhood movies! (Here comes the nostalgia!)
Day 5- Visit a library! (Get some peace and quiet!)
Day 6- Bubble bath time! (Find a DIY bath bomb recipe or hit up Lush if you’d like!)
Day 7- Go on a nature walk!
Day 8- Complete a small goal! (Legit anything from vacuuming your house to simply getting out of the house!)
Day 9- Smile at everyone you see! (I’ve always done this, brightens everyone’s day!)
Day 10- Meditate for at least 15 minutes!
Day 11- Create a positive music playlist!
Day 12- Watch a feel good movie!
Day 13- Declutter something in your home! (I should probably declutter my desk after this!)
Day 14- Create a bucket list!
Day 15- One day without social media!
Day 16- Create a vision board!
Day 17- Create a list of everything your grateful for! (Count those blessings)
Day 18- Do some stretching and some yoga!
Day 19- Watch an inspiring ted talk!
Day 20- Spend time with a pet! (If you don’t have a pet, find a friend or families pet!)
Day 21- Journal your thoughts throughout the day!
Day 22- Plan your dream trip!
Day 23- Stay in your pajamas as much as possible today! (Or just wear comfortable clothes!)
Day 24- Wear your favorite outfit! (I know that both guys and girls have that favorite outfit that makes them feel confident!)
Day 25- Eat healthy all day!
Day 26- Take yourself out on a date!
Day 27- Do something creative! (Make a collage, poetry, drawing, painting, etc!)
Day 28- Rearrange your wardrobe!
Day 29- Buy yourself a new outfit! (I love this!
Day 30- Go on a picnic with yourself or with some one you love!
Day 31- Avoid checking your phone today! (Focus on whats in front of you and being mindful!)
Day 32- Bike ride! (If you don’t have bike, borrow a friends, or just go out for a walk or run on a bike trail!)
Day 33- Play a board game!
Day 34- Use a self care product! (Face mask, stress relieving lotions, etc!)
Day 35- Random act of kindness!
Day 36- Write a letter to future you!
Day 37- Write a letter to past you!
Day 38- Long and thoughtful shower!
Day 39- Take a nap today!
Day 40- Donate old and unused clothes/items to goodwill!
Day 41- Go to your favorite place! (Park, restaurant, anything you love!)
Day 42- Order takeout!
Day 43- Go out for ice cream!
Day 44- Dance to your favorite feel good song!
Day 45- Write a letter forgiving yourself for any past guilt or shame you may have.
Day 46- Sit in the sun!
Day 47- Find something to be thankful for about today!
Day 48- Start a small daily habit!
Day 49- Plan an evening of chill!
Day 50- Every time you look in the mirror give yourself a compliment!
Day 51- Get an early start to the day!
Day 52- Create a list of daily goals!
Day 53- Clean out your email inbox!
Day 54- Organize your desk!
Day 55- Write down 10 things you love about yourself!
Day 56- Write a letter to someone you love (best friends, family member, S.O) thanking them for being by your side!
Day 57- Get yourself a coloring book!
Day 58- Binge watch a favorite show or movie series!
Day 59- Drink enough water throughout the day!
Day 60- Pick out your favorites from this list to create your own self-care routine! (Most important!)

Here are the PDF’s that you can print and cross out as you go:

1st 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!
2nd 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!

I hope you enjoy these free printable’s!  Please let me know how you do on this challenge, would love to hear some feedback. You can let me know in the comments or contact me Here!

(: BTW- You can rearrange the days on this list to match your own personal schedule as well!

Much love,

Rosie

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How to Handle Past Trauma

how to deal with past traumaSymptoms of Trauma:

  • Shock
  • Mood Swings
  • Depressions
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling Numb
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Withdrawal
  • Nightmares
So what is trauma anyway?

Trauma, by googles definition is a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Trauma can be cause by any emotional, stressful event. Such as abuse, bullying, an accident, a lose of a loved one, etc.

Any event can lead to trauma, especially when it happens in situation where you have no power to do anything about it, causing you to feel hopelessness.  For example, a car accident or childhood abuse, where you are too young or someone else is involved causing you to be unable to do anything about it.

Childhood trauma can increase the risk of future trauma. If you experience trauma in your childhood, it may cause you to be more of sensitive adult. Which can lead to being a lot more  vulnerable for trauma as an adult. Everyone’s trauma is different as well, we all experience and react to our environment differently. One person may experience a traumatic event and not be as affected as someone else who experienced something very similar. And that’s okay.

experience with traumaMy personal experience-

As a child I struggled with bullying and a terrible home life. At home my dad had serious anger issues, he was regularly emotionally and verbally abusive.  I never had a safe space. When going to school and was bullied, then I went home and was bullied. I was constantly in fear. I never knew if I was going to have a good day, decent day or an absolutely horrible day. Sometimes I was in fear for my life.

All these incidents have followed me into adulthood. I have had many moments and times where I was taken back to these moments through nightmares, similar situations and anxiety. Over time I have learned from my struggle. And I’m still learning everyday.

How and what I learned-
  • I realized I was more than the issues I’ve dealt with, I am more than my flaws. The trauma I experience does make the person I am.
  • Learning to find closure by letting go even though it’s hard, and I still struggle some times.
  • Connecting with others, this is important. Finding people with similar situations and experiences, such as group therapy programs, etc. You can find out new ways to cope with your trauma from other people and share your methods with them as well.
  • Psychical Activity- this can go with any kind of issue. I always recommend it. You can use any physical activity you enjoy as well. Weight lifting, running, walking, dancing, hiking, anything you enjoy that will get you moving!
  • Finding happiness in the little things, such as taking gratitude everyday for everything you have been in this life. Every week I try to write ten things I’m grateful for that happened throughout my week. Finding happiness in the little things has helped so much.

 

Developing this coping skills and adding them to your routine may be hard at first. It may take a lot of time as well. Sometimes I still have moments where the issues from my past get to me. I know it’s never going to be 100 percent perfect, and I know that’s okay. I still work hard on bettering myself as person and coping with my trauma.
I’m grateful to have gone this far in life, I’m still growing as well, we all are!

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
― Camille Paglia

Hope you all enjoyed this and benefited from reading! I apologize for my short absence. Unfortunately I was dealing with problems with my computer and I had to take it into the shop! I have it back now and I’m so happy to be back on my blog!

Thank you for reading! Please leave comments and feedback if you have any! It’s very much appreciated!

Much love,
Rosie

Thinking Outside of the Box!

thinking outside of the box 1“You can’t force creatives into a box. If you try, they’ll no longer be creative. And no one will want your box.”

― Ryan Lilly

Every has heard the phrase “Think outside of the box!” before. It seems somewhat simple when you just hear of the idea. It’s just trying to think of ways that are new and different to your usual thinking patterns.

Of course it isn’t as easy as it sounds though.

We’re always told from our childhood to now that if we start thinking outside of the box, we can do anything we think of. Where do you begin though?

When you are feeling stuck in some place in your mind, that’s when it becomes time to start thinking outside of the box. It does not have to be challenging either.

It’s time to play a new role,

– Take a step back first.

Are stuck some where? In an argument, or having some sort of brain lapse? That’s when it’s time to take a step back and review the situation with a new perspective before continuing to push forward.

Well, where do I find this new perceptive?

This is whats amazing about the internet. You don’t need to look at through tons of bookstores to find out how others have handled situations similar to yours. A personal favorite place of mine find a new outlook is TED talks. They have all sorts of stories that are shared on there, some are quite humbling and some can give you that extra perspective you need.

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I am currently writing a book that has a character who is struggling with psychological issues.

When you are writing a book and creating a whole new person to be a character in it you really have to think outside of the box. You have to put yourself in the role of a new person that in reality, you’ve never even met before.

I have been told that I have to put myself in my characters shoes. And that’s what I’ve began doing.

With everything I do, I will sometimes ask myself in my head “What would my character be doing in this situation?” This has helped me learn more about my characters, and has helped me greatly with writing.

But I never thought I could of this as being something I could use in other situations in life, such as when I’m having a conflict with another person, or when having to make a tough decision. When I began to use these ideas in my life to tackle other issues I realized how thinking outside of the box could help me and everyone around me.

For Example-

When I am arguing with someone, I have started to instantly put myself in their shoes and figure out their side of the story. This has always helped my resolve issues and also realize when I could possibly be wrong.

Other examples and ways to start thinking outside the box-

thinking outside of the box
Asking questions and not accepting everything-

There are so many layers to literally everything. Not everything is as basic as it seems. There details to everything. We all think in simple routines. We get so stuck in thinking patterns that we stop thinking outside of the box. When you begin to break those thinking habits, you unlock a creative part of your mind and that can help with anything.

I have also felt that doing a lot of reading has changed my thinking for the better. A lot of books have changed me and shaped me into who I am.  Reading is a huge motivator for the mind!

I want you all to challenge yourselves everyday to think outside of the box, and hopefully you all will receive the same benefits that I receive from it! Never doubt yourself, or the fact that you have the ability to do anything you put your mind too!

Thank you all so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this article. Please feel free to leave feedback or Contact me here!

Much love,

Rosie

Short announcement: Unfortunately, I am no longer doing Journal prompts on Tuesdays due to their lack of popularity. If you do want me to cover a certain journal prompt or topic, please let me know! Sorry for any inconvenience.

Learning how to practice Self Love

This can be a tricky topic to go over. Everyone has there own Ideas of self love and how to practice it. And everyone struggles with finding self love at some point in their lives.

Self love, by definition, is

“Regard for one’s well-being and happiness.”

Which is accurate. But you add your own definitions to self-love as well. I would all define it as having both patience and comfort in yourself as a human being. Having comfort in myself is important to me because I believe that we aren’t always going to be 100% happy with ourselves, but we can be content with ourselves.

 

self love body dysmorhpia
http://theoptimistsdigest.com/2017/07/25/experience-body-dysmorphia/

Self love is something I’ve had issues with in the past, and I still work out practicing it today. I’ve talked about my experience with not loving  my body and with body dysmorphic disorder.  Read about My Experience with Body Dysmorphia.  But I’m here to tell you about how I’m working with struggles and give helpful advice.

Since I’ve already talked about issues with my body. I’m going to focus a little bit more on the insecurities I’ve had with coming to love my personality, and myself when it comes down to how I am academically, socially, Etc.

I’ve always been a shy kid, at school, at work, events, everywhere! I literally got demoted from a job to a position where I didn’t have to interact with costumers as much because I’m just too quiet. I’m also kind of “monotone”. Not super monotone, not like I don’t show any emotions (I actually think I show too much emotion!) I just have a somewhat bland voice, which didn’t work very well for in the costumer service industry.

I hated how I couldn’t talk to people though, I knew what I wanted to say, but the words wouldn’t come out. Blaming my childhood for it to didn’t help, I was just doing so because I wasn’t able to understand myself. It made it worse that I just couldn’t find anyone with a similar issue to mine either.

Learning to love the parts about myself that seemed like they were my weaknesses was hard. I had to learn to understand myself first.

What I began to do-

  • I began to give up on judging myself, comparing myself to others and being afraid of what others think. This took a lot of practice, and it probably with for you as well, but its worth it.
  • I started to actually try to figure out why I was a “quiet” person. I realized that there is nothing wrong with being shy. It doesn’t make you “antisocial” either. I’m a quiet person but I’m a good listener. I love having long conversation with people, and learning about them and just listening to their stories. I also think that me being quieter has made me think and analyze situations and people a lot more instead of just jumping right into it. I’ve realized how being quiet can be a strength instead of a weakness.
  • I’ve realized that every situation that I have been in that my shyness has gotten in the way or has made me embarrassed, that  so many other people have been in similar situations. And they made it through just fine. I’m not alone with any issue or insecurity that I may have. The same goes for all of you reading this. Whatever your issue you may think you have,
    self love you matterYou are not alone!

    I’ve found comfort in myself and in who I am. Valuing myself as a human being has been a huge milestone for me. And with all this, I’ve started to do more for myself and take for my myself to practice self love and self-care.
    For Example

  • Taking a hot bubble bath, and dressing in nice warm clothes afterwards
  • Doing one of my favorite hobbies for at least thirty minutes a day, such as reading.
  • Planning a relaxation day every once and a while.
  • Counting my blessing.

I’ve began to do these things more because I value myself and my time more. These are all things that you can do to practice self love and self-care. You can also add some of your own things to do that you make you feel good!

 “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball 

If you guys what to check out my blog post on self love with your body, I’ll link it again Here!

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Love,
Rosie <3

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Daily Habits you should Develop and Why

I’m excited for today’s journal prompt. I’m going to be talking about daily habits that I’m looking for develop! You guys might want to develop these habits into your daily life as well!

There are few daily habits I would like to develop,

but why are keeping habits so important?

Keep good habits starts with a change in your life style, for example: Most articles talking about the importance of a healthy diet, mention that to have a healthy diet, you need to change your life style into a healthy life style.

Your everyday habits and your life style is a huge part of who you are. People who have healthy habits tend to be healthier and happier people all around. And people who have bad habits tend to not be very happy. Your habits are what shape you as a person.

Habits will lead to goals as well. Such as if you have a goal to lose weight, you need to make a habit to eat healthier.

Habits that I am looking to develop are:

  1. Making my bed everyday.
  2. Eating healthy and work out regularly.
  3. Writing everyday.

Making my bed everyday may sound silly. But it can really brighten things up in your morning routine.

If I make my bed in the morning, I am less likely to end up climbing back into bed. Especially if I am feeling depressed, and I wish to stay in bed all day even though it won’t help me in the long run. When I make my bed, I am more likely to stay out of it, get ready, and start my day fresh. This goal is definitely a keeper.

Healthy eating and exercise This one is kind of no brainer. Everyone wants to look and feel their best! And these are definite ways to get there!

Writing everyday is for my blog and a book I’m working out. At the moment, I write to the best of my abilities but I know I could always get better. I’m working hard on my content and also simply writing about my daily life in  my own personal diaries. I love to look back on writings that I’ve made years ago so I’ve owned private journals for some time now. Writing will always be a habit to work on and grow into something more!

All of these habits I’ve listed have end goals that I wish to reach someday. The plus side of developing these is that if they become so ingrained in your life then the goals become much easier to meet.

Don’t give up! 

Don’t give up on your habits, even if you fall off the wagon for one day, it doesn’t mean that you should give up. You can always start any day. Start today and everyday you will feel a difference and soon enough you will see the difference. You won’t regret it either! Take care of yourself, love yourself and create a life style around self-love and happiness.

Love,
Rosie

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How Family Therapy Can Help – My Experience

family therapy

Family therapy can help any family. Even with small problems. One of the biggest conceptions on family therapy is that only the most dysfunctional will benefit from therapy, but any family can.

My family was dysfunctional in quite a few ways. The communication was awful at home. When I was at one of the lowest points in my life, my therapist told my mom and I that I needed to seek a family therapist because my home life being so crazy was strongly contributing to my problems in a negative way.

Many people can seek family therapy for other things such as if a child is dealing with issues and needs support from their family.

I originally started family therapy with my mom. This was basically us venting about out time at home and with my dad. Progress wasn’t being made until my dad joined us in therapy. Since communication was the worst between my parents.

Progress wasn’t made immediately, but overtime things got better. Family therapy gave us a safe space and time to talk about problems at home. We each had a chance to voice our own side of each story and talk out a solution.

Everyone in a family unit is different and has their own side to every thing. When one person is a family is dealing with a mental illness or some sort of problem, the whole family will be affected by this.

It’s hard to remember this sometimes. It’s easier to only focus on the stress of yourself or the one person without realize how everyone else is affected. Even if they aren’t saying so.

I needed to be given the opportunity to voice how I felt to my dad is a safe space.

Growing up my dad had severe anger issues. He would lash out at everything and anything. Big and small. Things at home became harder and harder. My dad would scream, call names, and even punch holes in walls. I actually ended up scared for the safety of me and my family.

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My dad never laid a hand on any of us, but I still would walk away with the emotional scars and damage from this time in my life.

My dads issues started getting better when I became severely depressed and had to go to the hospital for my first suicide attempt. He realized what he was doing was actually causing me damage. Things calmed down a bit, but there still was no communication and I need got any closure I needed from my childhood.

My parents continued to regularly argue even though my dad wasn’t as angry. They never got along and they still have some trouble to this day. An argument would  be started about literally everything. From dinner to what grocery shopping to how I was doing at school. It was a never-ending circle of events.

This made this hard for me. I was never able to focus and there always was negative energy around the house. My dad and I didn’t get along very well either. We lived together almost like college room mates, he never said anything to me. He wouldn’t even say I love you, so I stopped saying it as well.

I wanted this issues to get better, I was sick of feeling trapped in my own home. I had so much weight on my shoulders, and not a single bit of closure on why my dad treated everyone the way he did when I was a child.

family 1Obviously things aren’t perfect now, but they are definitely better. I have been able to close doors to some parts of my life and stop carrying the burdens of the past on my shoulders.

I’m still working on bringing closure to my past, this is something I struggle with since I am unable to get all the answers I need. But despite this, the progress that my family and I have made has been something to be grateful for. My dad and I’s relationship has improved as well. This is something I can’t replace. I wouldn’t have come this far without family therapy.

“The only mistake you can made is not asking for help” – Sandeep Jauher

Never be afraid to reach out for help, whether the problem is big or small.

Love,
Rosie <3

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My Experience with Body Dysmorphia

self love bodyBody dysmorphic disorder is when you become obsess with a possible imperfection that you may have and flaws in your appearance. Sometimes these flaws are not even there, there in your head. This is something I struggled with for quite some time. I want to share how I’ve started to care more about my body and also share how important self love is.

The negative thoughts towards my body started at an extremely young age. I was in the first grade and I thought I was “fat”. Looking back on this, I obviously wasn’t fat. It’s confusing to look back and wonder why I was feeling this way at such a young age. My main focus on my body was my legs. I hated them and for some reason I just thought that they where too big. I was also bullied a lot and didn’t have a good home life. These where definitely huge contributions to my low self esteem.

When looking back at pictures from when I was a child, I was not fat. I looked like an average child,

but when looking at these pictures I sometimes can’t help but analyze every aspect of my body, especially the way my legs look in the photo.

 

The worst part about of all this was that I was to young explain or understand what I was feeling. You can’t start working on an issue until you know what the issue actually is. Being so young I wasn’t able to understand this.

Middle school was especially rough. Everyone in middle school feels a bit insecure. It’s hard, your body and mind start to change and this becomes very emotional. I experimented a lot with dieting, diet pills and lots of exercises, specifically leg exercises. My good friend was in a very similar situation to me and would support me, but wouldn’t always support me in the right ways. We where negative influences to each other.

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Something huge I noticed in many people with body dysmorphic disorder is how much you begin to compare little things about others to yourself. You might notice things about others that you wish you had on yourself.

This is something I did often. I would stare at others, comparing little things about them to little things about myself.

What started this comparing is girls that are displayed in the media. I wanted my body to be like theirs, as most young girls do. It can be scary to see how there are so many brands such as ‘Victoria’s secret’ that only display ‘picture perfect’ bodies. This was a huge influence on me and many other girls I knew in middle school. We all would look at a Victoria’s secret catalog and strongly admire these girls.

I realized I had to stop looking to other people/ models and stop comparing myself to others to begin to love myself.

“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes to every one else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick

Another huge insecurity I had growing up besides my legs, was my hair. Everyone would bully me for hair being to messy and too greasy. Something I did to cope with my insecurity on my hair is scalp is I began to pick and peel at the skin on my scalp. Ew, right?

I didn’t get this habit under control until about a year and a half ago. It became a serious addictive habit at the time.

I never talked about any of my body insecurities or skin picking to anyone….

Until I started a program at a hospital. I was in CBT in the past but never an actual hospital program, so I took advantage of this opportunity to get better.

happy self love body

They put me on new medications that I’ve never tried in the past and these actually helped more than I thought they could. The medication was only half of the battle though, I still had to work on and develop the coping skills to help me with my issues.

I made it a point to stop comparing myself to others and whenever I felt myself doing so, I would tell my self that I don’t know what goes behind the scenes for them and that they may have there own insecurities as well.

This was a long battle I had with myself. I’ve made it so far by practicing self love and taking good care of my body by regularly staying active. I’m not giving up.

I want you all to know that help is out there. If you can’t find your way now, you’ll find it someday, never let your insecurities win. Do what makes you feel happy and love yourself.

There is only one you, you only have one body, show yourself the love everyone deserves.

Much love,

Rosie xo

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Hotlines:

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Eating Disorders
630-577-1330

National Mental Health Association Hotline
800-273-TALK (8255)

Crisis Call Center
800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863

 

Healthy Eating for Happiness

Healthy eating can be hard but it’s crazy how much it can affect your mood. Foods like chocolate, cake, and chips, tend to give you temporary happiness but since they contain no real nutrients and simple are not good for you, they make you feel crappy in the long run.

Studies have actually shown that unhealthy diets contribute to depression.

Sugar can actually cause you stress. Since when you are stressed out, your body looks for sugary food. A lot of people who start addictive binge eating begin eating when stressed out and depressed.

Emotional eating is definitely not the way to go when feeling down. You are not eating because you are hungry, but because you are looking for a temporary way to relieve your stress.

It’s important to eat enough as well. It is not just eating junk foods and sugars that can cause issues with mental health. If you are eating enough as you should be or not eating at the right times, this can cause some issues.

If you are feeling tired, light headed and your stomach is feeling empty then it’s important to eat. Never starve yourself for any reason, always remember you are beautiful and both you and your body deserve the best treatment.

The most important meal of day- Breakfast!! You all have probably heard this many times before. But it’s true! Starting your day off with a nice big meal full of nutrients will leave you feeling happy and satisfied!

For me personally, I feel so much better when I eat healthy with an occasional treat every once and a while. My favorite treat is a giant bowl ice cream!! 😉 Since I started regularly eating healthy, I have also felt so much more confident with my body. I think this is because I’m taking good care of  my body so I feel so much happy with my body.

The most important thing out of all this is to do what makes you feel happy, confident, and satisfied. Everyone deserves to love themselves and be happy and the best way to get started us by eating healthy and taking care of your body!

Much love,

Rosie

The Lowest Point in my Life

The lowest point in my life: A journal prompt

I’m doing a bit of a heavy prompt today. I’m going to be talking about one the lowest points in my life yet.

It all started when I first began high school. I never had many friends before this point and I was confused and trying to find myself. While doing so I ended up mixing up within the wrong crowd.

I met my first best friend there within the first few days. At first I was excited, I never thought I could have so much in common with someone. This made me so happy. And because I never had many friends, I got ahead of myself very quickly.

Soon after meeting her, I found out a lot. She was living in a rough situation, emotionally abusive parents, she also self harmed and did quite a bit of drugs.

At this time, I did whatever I could to fit in with her. She continued to introduce me to people who were a lot like her. I fell right into all of their bad habits.

They convinced me to not care about myself or simply anything because “fuck the world”. (Sorry for cursing.) I became irritable all the time and treated my parents horribly. I stopped doing most of my school work and ditched school often.

At this time, I also started regular self harm around this time as well. I was very depressed and I was treating myself through drugs, influences, and self harm. I didn’t know any other way of coping.

At this time I was getting help as well, hospitalization was also considered at times. But I had a lot of trouble accepting this help.

Towards the end of the school year thing slowly began to improve in my life.

I started to realize what was happening to me. I also made some good friends, who are still my friends today. These friends told me that I was hanging out with the wrong crowd and that I deserved to be happy. They actually made me feel loved and cared about.Randomly, my friend who was the bad influence stopped talking to me. This was after she started dating a girl who didn’t like me very much. I remember being depressed and feeling betrayed over this. For a while I thought she was a true friend. I tried to talk to her several times, only to be ignored.

My friends started showing me screenshots of her talking behind my back. That was the deal breaker for me. I realized how awful my friends were to me at times. Then I realized I deserved better.

I dumped all my bad friends and bad habits and started working on myself to get better. 

From there my growth was slow but now my life is so much better than what it was. I’m grateful for the friends and the family that have helped me grow and change.

I just want to say I’m in much better place now. And the friend who I originally met in my freshman year is also in a much better place. I’m so grateful to be where I am right now. I also want to thank everyone reading for the support you all have given.

Contact me here if you having any feedback or questions. You can also leave a comment if you’d like 🙂

Much love,

Rosie