Handling Rude People and Bullies

handling rude people
Hello everyone!

Today I’ll be talking about rude people and the bullies you find in both your work like and your school life. Especially because now that school is starting and summer is over, school and work is now more of focus. Because of this we may have to deal with rude people more often unfortunately.

When we deal with rude people, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves and want to attack the person whose being rude and attacking you, it’s hard not to at times.

It’s sometimes best to just learn to walk away and not take it personally. If you are much younger and still in school it may be easier to just get an adult that you trust to help handle the situations with the bully. You should never have to deal with bullies alone.

basic tips on handling rude peopleSome Basic Tips-
Don’t take it personally

People who tend to be mean to other often are typically unhappy with themselves, they are sometimes immature and often dealing with their own personal issues in their life. There are some people who don’t have control in their lives, so they tend to look for things that they can control.

Don’t contribute to it

If someone’s being unkind and straight up rude to you, it may be easy to add fuel to the fire, but doing so might make the problem bigger. Remember that two wrongs don’t make a right.

It’s sometimes best to just be kind

If you regularly work with this person who is rude, try to be nice to them throughout the time you are with them. There was a woman at my work who was rude at times to many people throughout her shift. She could be controlling as well. But when she came to work with a pretty dress or something else I like. I would let her know that I like them. Sometimes if I wanted to start-up a friendly conversation, I would even ask her where the got the article of clothing that I like. It would often brighten her mood and start the shift on a good note.

Walking away

It might be hard but sometimes it’s easier on everyone else in situation to just walk away. It might even let the person whose upset and being unkind calm down and think about why they’re upset.

 If you can help, try

They might be being rude because of something frustrating them, if you know how to help, you can try. But know if it’s not worth it, sometimes because are just rude just to be rude and attempting to help them won’t change anything.

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Always remember these tips and that every person you deal with is different and some people are rude because maybe it’s a habit, or maybe their insecure, or because their having a bad day. Sometimes it’s not worth bothering with them and it’s best to not try to change their behavior and just change on how you can handle it to make yourself feel better. Remember to never take it personally and handle it the best way you can.

For students in school-

If there is a bully at your school, it might be hard to handle, especially if it’s constant. You don’t have to handle it alone. Try to talk to your parents, or parents of the bully, or a teacher you trust or a school counselor.

You can also use some of the tips I mentioned before for some occasional bullies, but for constant bullying you might be better off finding an adult to help you out.
You can also find tips for handling bullies on www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/ and www.stopbullying.gov

Final Notes-

Remember to never let anyone else bring you down and to stay strong no matter what anyone says to you. You are your own person and no one should be allowed to hurt you or bring you down.

Also never become the bully simply because you are being bullied. You should never go down to someone else’s level. Stay above them and stay strong!

“If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them.”

I hope you all are doing well, and enjoyed this post, sending all my love!,

Rosie x

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Learning how to practice Self Love

This can be a tricky topic to go over. Everyone has there own Ideas of self love and how to practice it. And everyone struggles with finding self love at some point in their lives.

Self love, by definition, is

“Regard for one’s well-being and happiness.”

Which is accurate. But you add your own definitions to self-love as well. I would all define it as having both patience and comfort in yourself as a human being. Having comfort in myself is important to me because I believe that we aren’t always going to be 100% happy with ourselves, but we can be content with ourselves.

 

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Self love is something I’ve had issues with in the past, and I still work out practicing it today. I’ve talked about my experience with not loving  my body and with body dysmorphic disorder.  Read about My Experience with Body Dysmorphia.  But I’m here to tell you about how I’m working with struggles and give helpful advice.

Since I’ve already talked about issues with my body. I’m going to focus a little bit more on the insecurities I’ve had with coming to love my personality, and myself when it comes down to how I am academically, socially, Etc.

I’ve always been a shy kid, at school, at work, events, everywhere! I literally got demoted from a job to a position where I didn’t have to interact with costumers as much because I’m just too quiet. I’m also kind of “monotone”. Not super monotone, not like I don’t show any emotions (I actually think I show too much emotion!) I just have a somewhat bland voice, which didn’t work very well for in the costumer service industry.

I hated how I couldn’t talk to people though, I knew what I wanted to say, but the words wouldn’t come out. Blaming my childhood for it to didn’t help, I was just doing so because I wasn’t able to understand myself. It made it worse that I just couldn’t find anyone with a similar issue to mine either.

Learning to love the parts about myself that seemed like they were my weaknesses was hard. I had to learn to understand myself first.

What I began to do-

  • I began to give up on judging myself, comparing myself to others and being afraid of what others think. This took a lot of practice, and it probably with for you as well, but its worth it.
  • I started to actually try to figure out why I was a “quiet” person. I realized that there is nothing wrong with being shy. It doesn’t make you “antisocial” either. I’m a quiet person but I’m a good listener. I love having long conversation with people, and learning about them and just listening to their stories. I also think that me being quieter has made me think and analyze situations and people a lot more instead of just jumping right into it. I’ve realized how being quiet can be a strength instead of a weakness.
  • I’ve realized that every situation that I have been in that my shyness has gotten in the way or has made me embarrassed, that  so many other people have been in similar situations. And they made it through just fine. I’m not alone with any issue or insecurity that I may have. The same goes for all of you reading this. Whatever your issue you may think you have,
    self love you matterYou are not alone!

    I’ve found comfort in myself and in who I am. Valuing myself as a human being has been a huge milestone for me. And with all this, I’ve started to do more for myself and take for my myself to practice self love and self-care.
    For Example

  • Taking a hot bubble bath, and dressing in nice warm clothes afterwards
  • Doing one of my favorite hobbies for at least thirty minutes a day, such as reading.
  • Planning a relaxation day every once and a while.
  • Counting my blessing.

I’ve began to do these things more because I value myself and my time more. These are all things that you can do to practice self love and self-care. You can also add some of your own things to do that you make you feel good!

 “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball 

If you guys what to check out my blog post on self love with your body, I’ll link it again Here!

You can also contact me here!

Love,
Rosie <3

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101 Reasons to be Happy

Hi everyone!

happy on dockWe all love to be happy, it’s always great to keep track of everything that makes you happy. So I created a list for everyone to brighten your day! You can always look back on this list in the future if you are feeling down!

101 Reasons to be happy
  1.  Someone loves you!
  2. You have the ability to smile!
  3. You are alive and breathing.
  4. The stars in the sky.
  5. If you are happy, you set the example for others to be happy.
  6. Pets! All kinds of pets, cats, dogs, rats, spiders, fish, All of them!

  7. You have a bed to sleep in and food to eat.
  8. You made it through school, and for those who are still in school, you will make it through!
  9. Walking on a sandy beach.
  10. Giving and receiving gifts on Christmas!
  11. You have the power to be mindful, and live in the moment.
  12. Nice, hot bubble baths!
  13. You have the internet!
  14. There’s a lot of people who spread love in this world!
  15. Everyday is a day to start anew.
  16. Cuddling exists.
  17. Walking through some soft grass without shoes.
  18. Great desserts! (Especially cakes and ice cream!)
  19. You have family members in this world.
  20. You have the ability to love.
  21. Nice warm weather.
  22. Watching the clouds and making shapes out of them.
  23. You get to wear comfy clothes whenever possible.
  24. Listening to your favorite music to cheer yourself up.
  25. Seeing a baby giggle.
  26. Cuddling a purring kitten.
  27. Petting a happy dog.be happy be bright
  28. Seeing old couples who still have a spark.
  29. Books and bookstores exist.
  30. Changing into dry warm clothes after shoveling snow outside.
  31. Getting good news!
  32. Drinking cold water after a dehydrating run.
  33. Having great friends.
  34. Going out for a long drive.
  35. Being in good health
  36. Remembering you have leftovers to eat from a great meal the night before.
  37. Wrapping gifts for a friend on a special occasion
  38. Waking up and having a great breakfast.
  39. People who care about you are out there.
  40. Freshly shaved legs/face.
  41. Being able to do volunteer work.
  42. Getting a winning lottery ticket. (Even if it’s for only 5 dollars!)
  43. Giving and receiving hugs and kisses.
  44. Binge watching a great show.
  45. Having a good cry and letting it all out.
  46. Pulling a warm blanket out of the dryer.
  47. You made a difference in this world by being here.
  48. You are so much smarter than you believe
  49. Falling in love.
  50. You are safe.happy in grass
  51. If you are unhappy, you are wasting your time and energy doing so.
  52. Dressing up in costumes and getting candy on Halloween.
  53. Looking back on great memories.
  54. Having the ability to go back to school.
  55. Being able to develop a new hobby!
  56. If you happy, you’re more likely to be kind.
  57. Having the ability to read.
  58. Having all five senses.
  59. Watching good movies with good people.
  60. Watching the stars at night.
  61. There are people who want you to be happy.
  62. Having a roof over your head.
  63. Taking a refreshing nap.
  64. Going out for walks in the woods.
  65. That new car smell. (And that old car smell too!)
  66. You impacted someones life in some way.
  67. You have goals to complete!
  68. Trust me, You look so much better smiling!
  69. You learned from your past mistakes.
  70. Everyday has the chance to be the best day of your life.
  71. Seeing a shooting star.
  72. Someone smiles at you everyday.
  73. You have someone in your life who supports you.
  74. You are a good person.
  75. Putting your foot down and saying no.
  76. Stretching out your back after sitting for a long time.
  77. Hearing different accents.
  78. Being able to learn a new language.
  79. Paying all your bills on time.
  80. You deserve to be happy.
  81. Lazy rivers at water parks.
  82. You will never to be alone.
  83. Counting your blessings!
  84. Humans have walked on the moon!
  85. Opening fortune cookies!
  86. You’ve made it through your struggles.
  87. Everything you’re going through now will pass.
  88. Cooking a recipe perfectly.
  89. You are doing the right thing.
  90. Being able to laugh!may you always be happy
  91. Clean sheets.
  92. Watching thunder and lightening storms.
  93. Giving forgiveness.
  94. and being forgiveness.
  95. Helping others.
  96. Finding your passion.
  97. Finding your soul mate.
  98. Feeling confident when looking in the mirror.
  99. Watching the sun set/Sun rise.
  100. Filling up a whole journal.
  101. You are you! <3

Feel free to continue to add to his list in the comments with what makes you happy! Its always important to remind yourself of what makes you happy, and to never let go of it!

Never give up on trying to be happy. You all are amazing people who deserve to be happy!

Sending out all my love to you all,

Rosie xo

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Healthy Eating for Happiness

Healthy eating can be hard but it’s crazy how much it can affect your mood. Foods like chocolate, cake, and chips, tend to give you temporary happiness but since they contain no real nutrients and simple are not good for you, they make you feel crappy in the long run.

Studies have actually shown that unhealthy diets contribute to depression.

Sugar can actually cause you stress. Since when you are stressed out, your body looks for sugary food. A lot of people who start addictive binge eating begin eating when stressed out and depressed.

Emotional eating is definitely not the way to go when feeling down. You are not eating because you are hungry, but because you are looking for a temporary way to relieve your stress.

It’s important to eat enough as well. It is not just eating junk foods and sugars that can cause issues with mental health. If you are eating enough as you should be or not eating at the right times, this can cause some issues.

If you are feeling tired, light headed and your stomach is feeling empty then it’s important to eat. Never starve yourself for any reason, always remember you are beautiful and both you and your body deserve the best treatment.

The most important meal of day- Breakfast!! You all have probably heard this many times before. But it’s true! Starting your day off with a nice big meal full of nutrients will leave you feeling happy and satisfied!

For me personally, I feel so much better when I eat healthy with an occasional treat every once and a while. My favorite treat is a giant bowl ice cream!! 😉 Since I started regularly eating healthy, I have also felt so much more confident with my body. I think this is because I’m taking good care of  my body so I feel so much happy with my body.

The most important thing out of all this is to do what makes you feel happy, confident, and satisfied. Everyone deserves to love themselves and be happy and the best way to get started us by eating healthy and taking care of your body!

Much love,

Rosie

The Lowest Point in my Life

The lowest point in my life: A journal prompt

I’m doing a bit of a heavy prompt today. I’m going to be talking about one the lowest points in my life yet.

It all started when I first began high school. I never had many friends before this point and I was confused and trying to find myself. While doing so I ended up mixing up within the wrong crowd.

I met my first best friend there within the first few days. At first I was excited, I never thought I could have so much in common with someone. This made me so happy. And because I never had many friends, I got ahead of myself very quickly.

Soon after meeting her, I found out a lot. She was living in a rough situation, emotionally abusive parents, she also self harmed and did quite a bit of drugs.

At this time, I did whatever I could to fit in with her. She continued to introduce me to people who were a lot like her. I fell right into all of their bad habits.

They convinced me to not care about myself or simply anything because “fuck the world”. (Sorry for cursing.) I became irritable all the time and treated my parents horribly. I stopped doing most of my school work and ditched school often.

At this time, I also started regular self harm around this time as well. I was very depressed and I was treating myself through drugs, influences, and self harm. I didn’t know any other way of coping.

At this time I was getting help as well, hospitalization was also considered at times. But I had a lot of trouble accepting this help.

Towards the end of the school year thing slowly began to improve in my life.

I started to realize what was happening to me. I also made some good friends, who are still my friends today. These friends told me that I was hanging out with the wrong crowd and that I deserved to be happy. They actually made me feel loved and cared about.Randomly, my friend who was the bad influence stopped talking to me. This was after she started dating a girl who didn’t like me very much. I remember being depressed and feeling betrayed over this. For a while I thought she was a true friend. I tried to talk to her several times, only to be ignored.

My friends started showing me screenshots of her talking behind my back. That was the deal breaker for me. I realized how awful my friends were to me at times. Then I realized I deserved better.

I dumped all my bad friends and bad habits and started working on myself to get better. 

From there my growth was slow but now my life is so much better than what it was. I’m grateful for the friends and the family that have helped me grow and change.

I just want to say I’m in much better place now. And the friend who I originally met in my freshman year is also in a much better place. I’m so grateful to be where I am right now. I also want to thank everyone reading for the support you all have given.

Contact me here if you having any feedback or questions. You can also leave a comment if you’d like 🙂

Much love,

Rosie

 

Dealing with Everday Loneliness

Loneliness has been one of my biggest struggles with depression.

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Sometimes I feel like it is very hard to be able to explain your loneliness to someone, Especially because you could be lonely in a crowd of people. Overall this can be an overwhelming and hard to explain experience.

When you feel lonely, you feel empty. You feel as if there is no one around you who could help relieve this feeling. Admitting to being lonely might make you feel weak, and helpless. But being able to recognize this familiar and debilitating feeling is one step of the way to finding out how to help fix it.

Growing up, I never had many friends, so both imaginary and the feeling of loneliness became very familiar to me. Even though I was at such a young and tender age.

A feeling that I really still have trouble beginning to understand is being lonely when in a crowded room. Personally, this is the worst kind of loneliness. I believe that this happens typically when the people around you are not giving you the support that you need. Even though these people may care about you and may have good intentions, they might not understand.

It’s important being able to understand why you are lonely. Did you recently loose a friend or loved one? going through a break up? struggling with depression? These are all major factors to consider when identifying this feeling.

I’ve learned many different coping skills that have given me the ability to combat my loneliness. Some being, reading, calling a good friend, and simply finding different way to keep my mind busy.

In most cases, people who feel a sense of chronic loneliness, struggle with depression. Especially since isolating yourself is a symptom of depression.

If you are someone who feels lonely on a regular basis, it’s important to have a plan on how you are going to handle this feeling.

lonelinessWriting down exactly what you are feeling, then expressing it to someone

This always helps me. I’ve always been a bit of a writing, but the second part of this can be a bit hard but its the most important. When you are feeling alone, letting it sit there can make it worse. So finding someone supportive to express these feeling is crucial.

PETS!

Everyone knows this to be true. One of the best ways to combat loneliness to sit down with or even talk to a pet. Their my favorite best friends!

Call a good friend or family member

This one goes without saying, and may be the most helpful one on this list.

Using your own personal coping skills

We all have our own personal (healthy) methods of coping and making ourselves happy. Such as reading or coloring. These ones are always available to you as well!

Something to remember: The state of loneliness is something that can be changed, if you want it too. The more you let it sit the worse you are letting it get.

Get involved with your mental health and personal well being. It may be hard to begin, but it’s something that you can’t regret. Go out there and be active when comes down to keeping yourself in a healthy state of mind!

Feel free to Contact me here. If you need anything! Thank you more reading!

Much love,
Rosie

How do I Take Care of Myself: Journal Prompt

I’m right on time today for this journal prompt! I love this one too-

How am I taking care of myself?self care

If you asked me this question a while back, I would have probably answered with something like “I dunno….Feeding myself everyday”. Now I feel like I can definitely answer this question with way more detail than that.

At one point I really did not know what self care actually was. Honestly I thought it was just simply eating, sleeping, breathing, etc. all the basics that keep you alive.

I never thought of all the thing like exercise, treating yourself, having coping skills, and all of the other ways to care for yourself. I bet I couldn’t have even told you what a “coping skill” was.

Now I have several ways of “self-care” that I use every day such as, writing, drawing, going out for a walk or drawing.

(A lot of creative stuff:) But the options are limitless. As long as you are doing that that make you happy and won’t harm you! Something as simple as eating breakfast every day can be considered self-care.

Everyday I try to wake up at a decent time, and go out and exercise, even if it’s only something that’s small. Doing this has a honestly boosted my confidence quite a bit. Especially when it comes down to how I feel about my body. I try to eat both nutritious and delicious food everyday as well.

self-careBut I try to do something every day that is both fun and relaxing, like sitting down with a book or cuddling a kitten. These two things are definitely my favorite.

The hardest time to care for yourself is usually as school or work but it’s important to remember to give yourself a break from time to time. Don’t neglect your stress or how you are feeling. If you need a minute, then take a minute. Remember that you should always be your first priority

There have been times at work or school where I needed to step outside. I have also brought in a little fidget toy or a coloring books sometimes as well. Doing these little things have made it a lot easier to deal with stress. As well as help the work day go by a little smoother.

I’m still learning a lot about self-care, and through that I’m also learning about myself. I can’t wait to share more tips on this topic and if there is anything in specific that you’d like to know, don’t be afraid to ask!

I have loved writing this journal prompt and I hope you all have enjoyed it as well!

Feel free to leave feedback or contact me!

Much love,

Rosie

 

Successes and Fails and Dealing with them

Talking about both successes and fails can be kind of a vague topic, but I’m going to try to dive deep and see what’s behind both my successes and my fails. Is it motivation? my mood? Or just pure luck?

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Honestly I’m not sure, but I’d like to share to try to motivate everyone out there

I think my biggest success was actually getting out there and starting this blog. I never thought I’d become a writer for a blog, or of any kind for that matter. But here I am writing this post. My 2 biggest fears with starting a blog were, simply failing, or getting judged. I think in my short time blogging, I’ve experienced both, but only on the side of motivation, happiness, and support. Of course I’ve tried writing a post and completely couldn’t do it, or someone has said to me “You have a blog?….why..?”

I’m hesitant to share my posts sometimes, I’m afraid that I’ll be judged. Overtime I’ve learned that most people, if they are true friends of yours, will support you and cheer you on through your journey as a blogger, whether that be big or small.

Another success of mine is learning to be myself. I’ve always have some trouble with this throughout my life. I was bullied as a child, at school and at home. This basically taught me to contain myself in a bottle without causing a bother to anyone around me.

I didn’t learn to express myself until recently. At the time I was fed up and finally moving into a new environment with new people, so I let loose. I went a little crazy at first but soon I got myself together and I found out who I really was inside and what I wanted to make of myself.

If I put all my successes to the side, then I have my fails.

Which honestly are all very little things that somehow manage to bother me throughout the day. Such as saying something embarrassing, or writing a not so great blog post. They aren’t super serious issues but I feel like they add up.

Dealing with the little things can be hard. I’ve learned how to overcome little embarrassments.

The best advice I’ve given myself, which I’ve mentioned in past posts, was that what happens today won’t matter in 10 years. Or possibly even in 2 weeks. I pretty much live by this advice. I seem to embarrass myself quite a lot at times or mess up in tiny ways at work and such. Once I began to realize how after some time these things didn’t matter, I saw an improvement.

I’m proud of myself, how I’ve grown and where I’m going. The biggest thing I’ve realized through my fails and successes was that everything is a learning experience.

I know that we only live once and everything I’ve done, I have learned something. I wouldn’t trad that for anything

Hope you guys enjoyed this post! Feel free to Contact me or leave a comment!

Much love,

Rosie

Top 5 best Articles on Overcoming Mental Illness

download.jpgDo you need a motivation or pick me up? I’ve been searching around the internet for article about overcoming mental illness. I usually like to read these type of stories when I’m feeling a bit down. So I’ve put together my 5 personal favorites and I’m excited to share them. These stories are both motivating and powerful and I hope that you guys enjoy reading them.

  1. Right here is an older story about how a man dealt with his schizophrenia, even though its older it still has the same inpact reading it. Maurizio Baldini’s story

  2. This is a great success story. This person talks about how reaching out to PHS gave them much support. Success story

  3. I love this story. It’s about a family member who should have reached for help. It’s kind of a sad one, but holds a very valuable and strong meaning. Dans story

  4. This short story is on the same website as the last, but very different. They use an accurate metaphor to describe their depression and anxiety. Steph’s story

  5. This blog post is about celebrities who have overcame their mental illness. I think it’s especially important to read celebrity stories because they try to portray their lives as being so perfect, but in reality, just like everyone else, they are people too. Celebrity Stories

 

I hope that you all enjoyed these short stories. I’m sorry for this article being a bit short, I’m dealing with some computer issues so I had to be a bit quick! But be sure to stay tuned for my journal prompt on Tuesday!

Feel free to contact me Here! And leave any comments or feedback that you wish!

Sending much love to you all,

Love,
Rosie

What would you ask for if a genie granted you 3 wishes?: A journal prompt

Here’s a delayed Journal prompt I’ve owed you guys!7486431222_640d5c139f_b

So, what would I do if a Genie granted me three wishes?

Now I’m not talking about wishing for another three wishes, or getting the genie who rips you off, I’m talking about three genuine things that I would wish for. So what would I want?

  1. A world with no abuse towards animals- This is wicked cheesy but means a lot. I’ve always been an animal person and I can’t stand seeing and animal getting hurt. I would say both animals and people but I feel as if this either would be 2 separate wishes or would just count as this same thing since technically humans are animals.
  2. Better writing skills- This is something that would really benefit my blog. As a blogger, I write a lot, so of course I’m getting my practice. But I wish that becoming an amazing writing would just be something that happens over night.
  3. That I could do things more quickly, but still good- There never seems to be enough time in the day to do everything I’d like to do. I would want time to go by slower, but I would like to be able to do things like chores quicker, so I have more time during the day.

 

Idownload‘m honestly really interested to see what you all would wish for if you had the chance too. I chose this prompt mainly for the feedback on it, but I thought you guys could also see what I personally believe in, and what I would want for myself. I would honestly love for a genie to come around and grant me my wishes. (but we all would, right?)

Big thanks to everyone reading!! I’d love to hear back with some feedback and what you guys would wish for from a genie!

Love,

Rosie