The Lowest Point in my Life

The lowest point in my life: A journal prompt

I’m doing a bit of a heavy prompt today. I’m going to be talking about one the lowest points in my life yet.

It all started when I first began high school. I never had many friends before this point and I was confused and trying to find myself. While doing so I ended up mixing up within the wrong crowd.

I met my first best friend there within the first few days. At first I was excited, I never thought I could have so much in common with someone. This made me so happy. And because I never had many friends, I got ahead of myself very quickly.

Soon after meeting her, I found out a lot. She was living in a rough situation, emotionally abusive parents, she also self harmed and did quite a bit of drugs.

At this time, I did whatever I could to fit in with her. She continued to introduce me to people who were a lot like her. I fell right into all of their bad habits.

They convinced me to not care about myself or simply anything because “fuck the world”. (Sorry for cursing.) I became irritable all the time and treated my parents horribly. I stopped doing most of my school work and ditched school often.

At this time, I also started regular self harm around this time as well. I was very depressed and I was treating myself through drugs, influences, and self harm. I didn’t know any other way of coping.

At this time I was getting help as well, hospitalization was also considered at times. But I had a lot of trouble accepting this help.

Towards the end of the school year thing slowly began to improve in my life.

I started to realize what was happening to me. I also made some good friends, who are still my friends today. These friends told me that I was hanging out with the wrong crowd and that I deserved to be happy. They actually made me feel loved and cared about.Randomly, my friend who was the bad influence stopped talking to me. This was after she started dating a girl who didn’t like me very much. I remember being depressed and feeling betrayed over this. For a while I thought she was a true friend. I tried to talk to her several times, only to be ignored.

My friends started showing me screenshots of her talking behind my back. That was the deal breaker for me. I realized how awful my friends were to me at times. Then I realized I deserved better.

I dumped all my bad friends and bad habits and started working on myself to get better. 

From there my growth was slow but now my life is so much better than what it was. I’m grateful for the friends and the family that have helped me grow and change.

I just want to say I’m in much better place now. And the friend who I originally met in my freshman year is also in a much better place. I’m so grateful to be where I am right now. I also want to thank everyone reading for the support you all have given.

Contact me here if you having any feedback or questions. You can also leave a comment if you’d like 🙂

Much love,

Rosie

 

Successes and Fails and Dealing with them

Talking about both successes and fails can be kind of a vague topic, but I’m going to try to dive deep and see what’s behind both my successes and my fails. Is it motivation? my mood? Or just pure luck?

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Honestly I’m not sure, but I’d like to share to try to motivate everyone out there

I think my biggest success was actually getting out there and starting this blog. I never thought I’d become a writer for a blog, or of any kind for that matter. But here I am writing this post. My 2 biggest fears with starting a blog were, simply failing, or getting judged. I think in my short time blogging, I’ve experienced both, but only on the side of motivation, happiness, and support. Of course I’ve tried writing a post and completely couldn’t do it, or someone has said to me “You have a blog?….why..?”

I’m hesitant to share my posts sometimes, I’m afraid that I’ll be judged. Overtime I’ve learned that most people, if they are true friends of yours, will support you and cheer you on through your journey as a blogger, whether that be big or small.

Another success of mine is learning to be myself. I’ve always have some trouble with this throughout my life. I was bullied as a child, at school and at home. This basically taught me to contain myself in a bottle without causing a bother to anyone around me.

I didn’t learn to express myself until recently. At the time I was fed up and finally moving into a new environment with new people, so I let loose. I went a little crazy at first but soon I got myself together and I found out who I really was inside and what I wanted to make of myself.

If I put all my successes to the side, then I have my fails.

Which honestly are all very little things that somehow manage to bother me throughout the day. Such as saying something embarrassing, or writing a not so great blog post. They aren’t super serious issues but I feel like they add up.

Dealing with the little things can be hard. I’ve learned how to overcome little embarrassments.

The best advice I’ve given myself, which I’ve mentioned in past posts, was that what happens today won’t matter in 10 years. Or possibly even in 2 weeks. I pretty much live by this advice. I seem to embarrass myself quite a lot at times or mess up in tiny ways at work and such. Once I began to realize how after some time these things didn’t matter, I saw an improvement.

I’m proud of myself, how I’ve grown and where I’m going. The biggest thing I’ve realized through my fails and successes was that everything is a learning experience.

I know that we only live once and everything I’ve done, I have learned something. I wouldn’t trad that for anything

Hope you guys enjoyed this post! Feel free to Contact me or leave a comment!

Much love,

Rosie

Top 5 best Articles on Overcoming Mental Illness

download.jpgDo you need a motivation or pick me up? I’ve been searching around the internet for article about overcoming mental illness. I usually like to read these type of stories when I’m feeling a bit down. So I’ve put together my 5 personal favorites and I’m excited to share them. These stories are both motivating and powerful and I hope that you guys enjoy reading them.

  1. Right here is an older story about how a man dealt with his schizophrenia, even though its older it still has the same inpact reading it. Maurizio Baldini’s story

  2. This is a great success story. This person talks about how reaching out to PHS gave them much support. Success story

  3. I love this story. It’s about a family member who should have reached for help. It’s kind of a sad one, but holds a very valuable and strong meaning. Dans story

  4. This short story is on the same website as the last, but very different. They use an accurate metaphor to describe their depression and anxiety. Steph’s story

  5. This blog post is about celebrities who have overcame their mental illness. I think it’s especially important to read celebrity stories because they try to portray their lives as being so perfect, but in reality, just like everyone else, they are people too. Celebrity Stories

 

I hope that you all enjoyed these short stories. I’m sorry for this article being a bit short, I’m dealing with some computer issues so I had to be a bit quick! But be sure to stay tuned for my journal prompt on Tuesday!

Feel free to contact me Here! And leave any comments or feedback that you wish!

Sending much love to you all,

Love,
Rosie

20 Free Self Care Tips to use Right Now!

2960305500_055085cd28_zSelf Care is very important. I learned about self care and ways to positively release stress about a year ago. (I know, took me long enough). Since then I’ve been making huge efforts to take care of myself for my mental well-being.

Taking a few minutes out of your day to take care of yourself will help you focus more on you, feel better and more connected to yourself. Always try to put yourself on the top of your priority list. (This is also something I’m working on).

Here are my 20 free tips for self care so you can be the healthiest you! You can take off or add whatever you’d like to this list to make it your own!

1. Get up. Great ready- Getting out of bed may be hard but getting up and getting ready for the day will feel great.

2. Go out for a walk- Get some fresh air. Go to a nice neighborhood and take a stroll!

3. Read a book- I love reading! It’s one of my favorite hobbies!

4. Color- I actually have like five-ish coloring books!

5. Netflix and chill- Not in the dirty way! Like literal Netflix and chilling!

6. Write-  I write down legit everything. Filling up notebooks like crazy!

7. Watch some childhood favorite movies- Remember all those Disney movies you used to love? Look some up!

8. Cook something “fancy” with only what you have in your kitchen right now.

9. Sit in the grass outside- Be mindful and pay attention to whats around you and get some fresh air.

10. Organize something in your house!– My close is my current project!

11. Count your blessings- Make a list of everything you are grateful for!

12. Set some goals- Try to complete some of the goals that you can today!

13. Make some art- It doesn’t even have to be good art!

14. If you have pets, spend some time with them- I’m writing this with a foster kitten on my lap right now!

15. Make a healthy diet plan- Thinking of doing a blog post on this too, what do you guys think?

16. Watch the clouds! 

17. Invite a friend over- Find some good company to chill out with.

18. Read motivational stories about how other overcame mental illness!

19. Write a list of everything you love about yourself!

20. Take some time off social media- Social media can be toxic at times with all the drama and scary, controversial news. So sometimes it’s best to take a break from all that.

I hope you guys find these helpful. Make your own list of self care tips at home if you can! Feel free to use any of these.

If you are feeling as if you are in a crisis and need immediate help, please call the suicide hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255 or consult your therapist. I promise you things will get better.

Thank you for reading this! Feel free to leave feedback or contact me!

Love,

Rosie

 

Don’t let anyone ruin your day!

7695374602_85bfeeb7f4Something that may be hard
to see is the fact that you have the choice to not let others ruin your day. It’s different to ignore the negative minds of others, especially when they are someone who you are close too.

We all know people who are like this. They simply are just negative and they put all of their bad thoughts onto other people. Sometimes on purpose, and other times they don’t even realize what they are doing. They could just be having a bad day, so they are acting out on their emotions.

But you could be having a great day. And all those little negative comments could slowly ruin your day, to the point where you are miserable. Why does this happen? How can we prevent situations like this?

When you are feeling like someone is bringing you down,

  • You can just tell them kindly something along the lines of: “I’m sorry you feel this way, But I disagree.”
  • you can just walk away.
  • If they are a friend of yours, or someone who you really care about, you could ask them whats wrong and see if you could help. That would be a win-win for both of you!!

But if they do not deserve your time, then don’t give it to them.

Remember if you feel someone negatively affecting you, stop and think about it. Think about whether or not its even worth getting upset over. And remember how you felt before they made any comments. You should never let someone else ruin your mood. Always make yourself your number one priority. download

These people are having their own issues that they have to deal with. You do not deserve to carry their burdens. They arent going to become your problem if you don’t let them become your problem.

Life has it’s up’s and downs. There will be many days and many people like this that you will come across. Once you get into the habit of not letting others bring you down, and you take full control of all your emotions. You will feel so much greater. Your days will be fabulous!

Right now, you should make a promise to yourself to not let any negative people ruin your day. Start off your days with this mindset and things will get better. It can be hard at first, but the effort is always worth it.

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.”
Joel Osteen

If  you guys want to read an article on negative thoughts, which kind of goes hand in hand with this post, check it out HERE!!

Thank you so much for reading!! I Hope you guys enjoyed. You can leave any feedback that you have in the comments or you can contact me here:)

Thank you! Love,
Rosie

P.S. Have an amazing day!

 

8 Simple Poems to Brighten your Day

Poetry is beautiful, right? I think everyone could agree. Lately I’ve been looking up quitesimple poems.png a bit of poetry on pinterest and other sites and I have a few that I like more than others. These 8 simple poems will surely make your day better!

1. Love is better than hate – Poppy Coke

“Don’t judge a book by its cover,
love is better than hate.

Life’s too short to waste opportunities
you have the chance to take.

One day you could be alive and the next you could be dead,
so keep your head held high with a big smile on your face!” -Poppy coke

 2. Life is beautiful – Andy Cave

“A flower blossoms as a bird sings its song
life is beautiful but it doesn’t last long,
so enjoy it while it’s here, don’t wait till it’s gone
or you might miss the flowers and the birds lovely songs” -Andy cave

 3. The Butterfly – Rich Hunter

“The butterfly is a thing to behold,
with colors more beautiful than gold.Flying hour by hour,
going from flower to flower.Oh, how I enjoy your beauty butterfly,
as I sit and watch you flutter by.” -Rich Hunter

4. Never look Back – Christina Renee Donnal

“Never look back at your past,
The past is the past,
and nothing at last,

Look into the future,
for what you might see,
is you and me forever.” – Christina Renee Donnal

5. Happiness – Sri Chinmoy

“The mind chases happiness.
The heart creates happiness.

The soul is happiness
And it spreads happiness
All-where.” – Sri Chinmoy

6. A Word to Husbands – Ogden Nash

“To keep your marriage brimming
With love in the loving cup,

Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.” -Ogden Nash

7. Risk – Anais Nin

“And then the day came,
when the risk
to remain tight
in a bud
was more painful
than the risk
it took
to Blossom.” – Anais Nin

8. I love you – (Author Unknown)

 What is a flower without the sun?
What is the earth without the sky?
What is life without fun?
What am I without you?
This is why I tell you,
I love you.

I hope everyone has enjoyed reading these simpl poems, and I hope some of them offered a mood boost! Thank you so much for reading! Feel free to contact me with any questions or feedback you may have!- Rosie

 

Self Esteem: 10 Simple Ways to Improve the Tarnished Ego

Low self esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.

Issues with self esteem is something we all struggle with at some point in out lives. Boosting your self esteem can greatly improve you life all around and is essential to  be successful at finding peace and happiness. If you regularly use these tips, you will definently see a huge difference

1. Focus on the good people in your life-

Remember they love you. Try to cut out all the toxic relationships you may have, they only make things worse.

“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”

-John Mark Green

2. Don’t dwell on past mistakes/regrets-

Everyone does something that they shouldn’t have at some point in their lives. Don’t worry or beat yourself up over those mistakes. Learn to let go and grow from them.

“Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.”

– Oscar Wilde

3. Count all your blessings-

Remember to count all your blessings, both big and small.     

“Count your blessings to fill your life with bliss.”

– Debasish Mridha

4. Self Talk-

When you are thinking negatively, it’s important to shut your inner critic up. Remind yourself whats true and reasonable and whats not. I wrote and article on this here

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.”

– Hans Selye

5. Accomplish goals-

Set reasonable goals for yourself that you are able to accomplish. Getting stuff done will always make you feel good. 🙂

“Accomplish something every day of your life.”

– Walter Annenberg

6. Eating healthy and exercising-Self Esteem by letting go of the things that weigh us down

There are many studies showing how taking good care if your body can improve self esteem. And speaking from experience, I definitely agree. 

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”

– Jim Rohn

7. Be kind to yourself and others-

When being kind to others you will start to be kind to yourself. Seeing how happy people become when you are kind to them will definitely brighten your day. 

“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”

– Dalai Lama

8. Do not compare yourself to others-

This is super important and essential to finding peace and happiness in life. Everyone is struggling with their own problems. Focus on loving yourself. You are your number 1 priority. 

“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

– Theodore Roosevelt

9. Do what makes you happy-

Follow your passion. Don’t ever worry about what others what you to do, this is something I struggled with for a long time. Just do you. 

“You’ll be much more successful if you follow your dreams and follow your passions.”

– Jay Weatherill

10. Smile-

It’s super easy and simple. Almost too simple. But smiling makes us happy by sending off chemical reaction and releasing endorphin’s into your brain which will surely increase your mood.  

“Beauty is power; a smile is its sword.”

– John Ray

Remember, having amazing self esteem doesn’t happen overnight, so don’t get down on yourself for not improving quickly. Just try to use these in yourself daily life and stay optimistic. Be patient and show yourself love.

Much love,

Rosie <3

 

The Truth about Getting Help from Hospitals

getting helpWhen people talk about getting help by going into an in patient/out patient program at a hospital, they act like it’s some kind of prison. but really, and I’m speaking from experience, these programs are super helpful. Especially when something just isn’t right in your life.

Thinking back, I can remember a time when I was around 16 or so, and I was struggling with hardcore depression. I never wanted to enroll into a program because I was so scared. Many people said negative things I was told about these hospitals. A lot of these people have never even been in a program. But I was sick of how I was feeling. I had to get help, so I went to my schools counselors office. I finally opened up about everything I was feeling.

Honestly, at this point, I was scared shitless. Especially when my mom was called. I was scared she wouldn’t understand. And I didn’t want her to have to go through any trouble because of me. But the first thing she said to me is “I’m not mad, it’s okay”. I felt better but I was still scared. I knew I had to be evaluated and I was nervous of having to stay in a hospital overnight without my family.

But I didn’t end up having stay at the hospital overnight, I was put in a outpatient program that I had to attend everyday for about 6 hours. I was in this program for about two to three weeks, which was average for everyone else there.

Something I quickly realized while there, most of the people who did not like the program didn’t want to receive the help. The thing is, to get help and feel better you have to WANT to get help and feel better. they were in a negative mindset where they did not want to receive any help. The people who where thinking so negatively didn’t want help. Obviously not all programs are for everyone, but there are so many out there to choose from. I truly believe that there is one out there for you, and everyone else struggling. I was finally getting help. Keep your mind open. Keep searching.

During my time in the program, I improved greatly. While there, I had individual therapy sessions and group therapy sessions, we learned different skills to use in life once we are discharged. Some of those skills include different coping mechanisms, how to handle stressful situations and how to be mindful.

The best thing about the program I was in was that it did not interfere with being at school. My school still made some accommodations for me to be able to work stress free such as moving my deadlines back for my work. Many schools and workplaces will make these accommodations available with doctors notes, do not be embarrassed to speak up. Just remember that you are doing this to help and better yourself. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

Most people who I have met that have been in inpatient or outpatient programs always say that they definitely recommend it to others. Something to note is that you have to go to these programs with a positive mindset.

If you feel like there is too much weight on your shoulders to bear, and nothing seems to be working. You should definitely look into getting an evaluation and entering a program. Don’t listen to anything or anyone that’s telling you that getting this kind of help means your “weak”, “crazy” or “weird”. Do whats important to your mental health. If you need any help or advice feel free to contact me.

Thank you for reading.

Love,
Rosie

 

Immediate help/Suicide Hotline : 1 (800) 273-8255

 

Why you Should Read for Happiness

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“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”

– Dr. Suess

In middle school, I hated class, so I’d always keep a book under my desk to secretly read. I’d even be reading during lunch. No one would talk to me, when they did they weren’t always nice. Reading was an escape for me, a time to put my self in the narrators shoes and get lost in a book.

Reading has a strong positive effect on people. You can learn so much in such a short period of time. They are different from text books too, text books teach you stuff in the most boring ways possible. When you read a book for entertainment, you never expect to be so captivating in learning. But when you’re done reading, you feel accomplished and refreshed. I’ve been taught a lot of wisdom by many books. When reading you learn more about the world, you learn about others and improve your creativity and imagination.

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Fredrick Backman, My favorite author.

My favorite author is Fredik Backman. I’ve read 4 books of his, they are beautiful and they truly teach you a lot. His book “A man called Ove” is about a grumpy old man who on the inside has a big heart. The book slowly progresses as you learn more about Ove and why he is the way he is. You also get to follow along with his neighbors who force themselves on him and treat him with compassion even though he can be so grumpy. It was one of the best books I’ve ever read and it taught me so much about compassion.

There are so much different options for what to read about, you can read fiction or non-fiction, fantasy, romance, or realistic fiction. If you don’t enjoy reading, trust me I guarantee that somewhere there is at least one book you will enjoy. For anyone struggling with any kind of situation or mental illness, I always will suggest reading as an amazing coping strategy.

There is also books relating to mental health that give wonderful advice. Such as The Happiness Animal by Will Jelbert. Which I will link in this article!! You can also find great books relating to mental health through amazons best sellers. I highly recommend checking them out!

Next time you find yourself feeling down and unsure what to do, go to a public library. You can read for free there, and the quiet space there is a bonus. It’s a great place to escape reality for a little while and feel good again. A library card is free as well, you can rent books whenever you please, as long as you bring them back on time!

The overall perks of reading:
– Less stress
– It can be Free!
– Fun!
– Helps you sleep
– Learning new things.
– A fun escape to a whole new world!

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young. “

-Henry Ford

Start reading today, you will find some peace in doing so.

Love,

Rosie

Feel free to leave any feedback or contact me! Thank you so much for reading, I hope you enjoyed!

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Choosing Happiness

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Choosing Happiness. Of course choosing to simply ‘be happy’ isn’t easy, but it’s possible.

Choosing happiness involves making choices throughout your day that effect your mood. You obviously can’t just become happy overnight, but making the right choices will definitely make a difference.

So what choices can you make? I’ll give you some ideas:

Count your blessings:

Always remind yourself of what you have. It will surprise you that knowing what your grateful for, and keeping track of all your blessings, will make a huge impact on your life. So when you are feeling low, think of all the things that you appreciate. Never let the little things bring you down.

Cut out negative relationships, nurture positive ones:

There will always be people who bring you down, but giving yourself the power to ignore those people or cut them out of your life will make huge improvements. The people around us have a huge impact on our mood so also learning how to grow those positive relationships will be beneficial.

Smile:

Science has proven that giving a simple smile can improve your mood. Whenever you look in the mirror, smile at yourself. Tell yourself that you are going to have a good day.

Be patient with yourself:

This can hard, especially if you are so used to having a negative thought pattern. Don’t be hard yourself, give yourself time to relax and remember that things don’t happen overnight. Don’t ever give up on yourself.

Fight your negative thoughts:

I wrote an article here on challenging negative thoughts. Learning how to challenge my negative thoughts helped me complete my goals and improve my personal well being.

Do kind things for others:

Something that always helps me feel better is being selfless. Being kind to others have been proven to make you and others around you happy.

Grow and learn from mistakes:

Don’t dwell on the past and worry about your mistakes. Look at your mistakes as learning experiences instead of beating yourself up over them.

 

Start today and choose positivity. I hope this article was beneficial.

Feel free to comment any feedback or contact me

Much love,

Rosie