Top 10 Best Tips for Goal Setting

goal settingHello everyone! I mentioned on twitter a few days ago that i was planning on writing a post on goal setting, and here it is!

Many people set goals and for some reason never get around to completing them. I have experienced this as well, and I know how bad it feels when I can’t get a goal done. It might make you feel lazy or unsuccessful. I’m pretty sure most of you know the feeling.

There are many reasons why you may not be able to complete your goals. This is why its crucial to know how to set your goals to make them as achievable as possible.

Why is goal setting important?goal is important
  • Completing goals makes you feel good and its a boost of self esteem.
  • Getting what you want in life.
  • Completing smaller goals can lead to completing a larger goal.

There are ways to complete your goals and settings them, and its faster than you thought was possible! Here are those tips-

1. Making sure there achievable-
Many of us have issues with accidentally setting achievable goals. A goal that may be too hard or may not fit into your schedule might not be achievable at this time. But don’t let this discourage you, it’s always important to start with baby steps.
2. Start small-
Lets say you want to redesign your whole bedroom, you should start with the smaller stuff first such as, “Pick out color scheme”, “Figure out budget”, “Pick out furniture design” and as you complete those goals, you can slowly work your way up to completing the official goal.
3. Be specific-
Using our previous example, you wouldn’t simply say “redesign bedroom”, you have to be specific and go into the details about how to redesign your bedroom.
4. Clearing your head before hand-
It may be hard to figure out what goals you want to complete if your mind is all over the place. A quick five to ten minute meditation might help you clear your head so you can get your priorities straight to set your goals.
5. Stop doubting yourself-
Don’t doubt yourself when setting your goals, that only sets you up for failure! Do not let yourself down!
6. Learn and do your research-
Go online and look up how other people have completed goals that are similar to yours!  Do your research on goal setting and how others have completed their goals.
7. Always have a deadline-
Have a deadline that will motivate you to complete the goal on time. This deadline can help hold you accountable for getting the goal completed!
8. Plan of action-
Along with making your goals, you should come up with a plan on how you are going to complete them people sometimes miss this step when goal setting. I believe this is crucial for actual being able to get goals done.
9. Remember the “SMART” theory- 
What is the smart theory? Making sure your goals have these key points:
S- Specific 
M- Measurable 
A- Attainable 
R- Realistic 
T- Time bounded 
Always follow these points!
10. Stick to them!-
This is important! (Of course!) sticking to goals is hard but it feels great to complete them! Be persistent and do not give up when things are hard! Don’t let yourself down!

Goal qoutesI hope you all are able to use these tips in your life with goal setting! Let me know how you guys liked these tips, and how you used them in life.

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Love,

Rosie

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Handling Rude People and Bullies

handling rude people
Hello everyone!

Today I’ll be talking about rude people and the bullies you find in both your work like and your school life. Especially because now that school is starting and summer is over, school and work is now more of focus. Because of this we may have to deal with rude people more often unfortunately.

When we deal with rude people, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves and want to attack the person whose being rude and attacking you, it’s hard not to at times.

It’s sometimes best to just learn to walk away and not take it personally. If you are much younger and still in school it may be easier to just get an adult that you trust to help handle the situations with the bully. You should never have to deal with bullies alone.

basic tips on handling rude peopleSome Basic Tips-
Don’t take it personally

People who tend to be mean to other often are typically unhappy with themselves, they are sometimes immature and often dealing with their own personal issues in their life. There are some people who don’t have control in their lives, so they tend to look for things that they can control.

Don’t contribute to it

If someone’s being unkind and straight up rude to you, it may be easy to add fuel to the fire, but doing so might make the problem bigger. Remember that two wrongs don’t make a right.

It’s sometimes best to just be kind

If you regularly work with this person who is rude, try to be nice to them throughout the time you are with them. There was a woman at my work who was rude at times to many people throughout her shift. She could be controlling as well. But when she came to work with a pretty dress or something else I like. I would let her know that I like them. Sometimes if I wanted to start-up a friendly conversation, I would even ask her where the got the article of clothing that I like. It would often brighten her mood and start the shift on a good note.

Walking away

It might be hard but sometimes it’s easier on everyone else in situation to just walk away. It might even let the person whose upset and being unkind calm down and think about why they’re upset.

 If you can help, try

They might be being rude because of something frustrating them, if you know how to help, you can try. But know if it’s not worth it, sometimes because are just rude just to be rude and attempting to help them won’t change anything.

be kind handle rude people

 

Always remember these tips and that every person you deal with is different and some people are rude because maybe it’s a habit, or maybe their insecure, or because their having a bad day. Sometimes it’s not worth bothering with them and it’s best to not try to change their behavior and just change on how you can handle it to make yourself feel better. Remember to never take it personally and handle it the best way you can.

For students in school-

If there is a bully at your school, it might be hard to handle, especially if it’s constant. You don’t have to handle it alone. Try to talk to your parents, or parents of the bully, or a teacher you trust or a school counselor.

You can also use some of the tips I mentioned before for some occasional bullies, but for constant bullying you might be better off finding an adult to help you out.
You can also find tips for handling bullies on www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/ and www.stopbullying.gov

Final Notes-

Remember to never let anyone else bring you down and to stay strong no matter what anyone says to you. You are your own person and no one should be allowed to hurt you or bring you down.

Also never become the bully simply because you are being bullied. You should never go down to someone else’s level. Stay above them and stay strong!

“If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them.”

I hope you all are doing well, and enjoyed this post, sending all my love!,

Rosie x

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60 Day Happiness Challenge

60 day happiness challengeHello everyone! I hope your week has been well, I’m starting a 60 day self care/ Happiness challenge! This comes with a FREE printable PDF to use and follow along with in this challenge!

60 days is a lot to some people so I have separated the challenge into two 30 day challenges. You can choose to do 10 days, 30 days or all 60! Whatever makes you feel more comfortable and helps you out best!

Basically, I will be give a challenge everyday for the next SIXTY days! There are no rules and you can follow along whatever way you’d like! You can also use any of these self-care tips to create your own happiness challenge/routine. You can do these happiness and self care tips with any one as well, friends, family and I always recommend doing this kind of stuff with your children to teach them coping skills to use as grow older!

Here it goes!:

Day 1- Make your bed when you wake up! (Seems simple but it makes your room look so much more put together!)
Day 2- Cook yourself your favorite meal! (This can be something fancy or just a TV dinner, whatever makes you happiest!)
Day 3- Start a new book!
Day 4- Watch one of your favorite childhood movies! (Here comes the nostalgia!)
Day 5- Visit a library! (Get some peace and quiet!)
Day 6- Bubble bath time! (Find a DIY bath bomb recipe or hit up Lush if you’d like!)
Day 7- Go on a nature walk!
Day 8- Complete a small goal! (Legit anything from vacuuming your house to simply getting out of the house!)
Day 9- Smile at everyone you see! (I’ve always done this, brightens everyone’s day!)
Day 10- Meditate for at least 15 minutes!
Day 11- Create a positive music playlist!
Day 12- Watch a feel good movie!
Day 13- Declutter something in your home! (I should probably declutter my desk after this!)
Day 14- Create a bucket list!
Day 15- One day without social media!
Day 16- Create a vision board!
Day 17- Create a list of everything your grateful for! (Count those blessings)
Day 18- Do some stretching and some yoga!
Day 19- Watch an inspiring ted talk!
Day 20- Spend time with a pet! (If you don’t have a pet, find a friend or families pet!)
Day 21- Journal your thoughts throughout the day!
Day 22- Plan your dream trip!
Day 23- Stay in your pajamas as much as possible today! (Or just wear comfortable clothes!)
Day 24- Wear your favorite outfit! (I know that both guys and girls have that favorite outfit that makes them feel confident!)
Day 25- Eat healthy all day!
Day 26- Take yourself out on a date!
Day 27- Do something creative! (Make a collage, poetry, drawing, painting, etc!)
Day 28- Rearrange your wardrobe!
Day 29- Buy yourself a new outfit! (I love this!
Day 30- Go on a picnic with yourself or with some one you love!
Day 31- Avoid checking your phone today! (Focus on whats in front of you and being mindful!)
Day 32- Bike ride! (If you don’t have bike, borrow a friends, or just go out for a walk or run on a bike trail!)
Day 33- Play a board game!
Day 34- Use a self care product! (Face mask, stress relieving lotions, etc!)
Day 35- Random act of kindness!
Day 36- Write a letter to future you!
Day 37- Write a letter to past you!
Day 38- Long and thoughtful shower!
Day 39- Take a nap today!
Day 40- Donate old and unused clothes/items to goodwill!
Day 41- Go to your favorite place! (Park, restaurant, anything you love!)
Day 42- Order takeout!
Day 43- Go out for ice cream!
Day 44- Dance to your favorite feel good song!
Day 45- Write a letter forgiving yourself for any past guilt or shame you may have.
Day 46- Sit in the sun!
Day 47- Find something to be thankful for about today!
Day 48- Start a small daily habit!
Day 49- Plan an evening of chill!
Day 50- Every time you look in the mirror give yourself a compliment!
Day 51- Get an early start to the day!
Day 52- Create a list of daily goals!
Day 53- Clean out your email inbox!
Day 54- Organize your desk!
Day 55- Write down 10 things you love about yourself!
Day 56- Write a letter to someone you love (best friends, family member, S.O) thanking them for being by your side!
Day 57- Get yourself a coloring book!
Day 58- Binge watch a favorite show or movie series!
Day 59- Drink enough water throughout the day!
Day 60- Pick out your favorites from this list to create your own self-care routine! (Most important!)

Here are the PDF’s that you can print and cross out as you go:

1st 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!
2nd 30 days of 60 day happiness challenge!

I hope you enjoy these free printable’s!  Please let me know how you do on this challenge, would love to hear some feedback. You can let me know in the comments or contact me Here!

(: BTW- You can rearrange the days on this list to match your own personal schedule as well!

Much love,

Rosie

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How to Handle Past Trauma

how to deal with past traumaSymptoms of Trauma:

  • Shock
  • Mood Swings
  • Depressions
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling Numb
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Withdrawal
  • Nightmares
So what is trauma anyway?

Trauma, by googles definition is a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Trauma can be cause by any emotional, stressful event. Such as abuse, bullying, an accident, a lose of a loved one, etc.

Any event can lead to trauma, especially when it happens in situation where you have no power to do anything about it, causing you to feel hopelessness.  For example, a car accident or childhood abuse, where you are too young or someone else is involved causing you to be unable to do anything about it.

Childhood trauma can increase the risk of future trauma. If you experience trauma in your childhood, it may cause you to be more of sensitive adult. Which can lead to being a lot more  vulnerable for trauma as an adult. Everyone’s trauma is different as well, we all experience and react to our environment differently. One person may experience a traumatic event and not be as affected as someone else who experienced something very similar. And that’s okay.

experience with traumaMy personal experience-

As a child I struggled with bullying and a terrible home life. At home my dad had serious anger issues, he was regularly emotionally and verbally abusive.  I never had a safe space. When going to school and was bullied, then I went home and was bullied. I was constantly in fear. I never knew if I was going to have a good day, decent day or an absolutely horrible day. Sometimes I was in fear for my life.

All these incidents have followed me into adulthood. I have had many moments and times where I was taken back to these moments through nightmares, similar situations and anxiety. Over time I have learned from my struggle. And I’m still learning everyday.

How and what I learned-
  • I realized I was more than the issues I’ve dealt with, I am more than my flaws. The trauma I experience does make the person I am.
  • Learning to find closure by letting go even though it’s hard, and I still struggle some times.
  • Connecting with others, this is important. Finding people with similar situations and experiences, such as group therapy programs, etc. You can find out new ways to cope with your trauma from other people and share your methods with them as well.
  • Psychical Activity- this can go with any kind of issue. I always recommend it. You can use any physical activity you enjoy as well. Weight lifting, running, walking, dancing, hiking, anything you enjoy that will get you moving!
  • Finding happiness in the little things, such as taking gratitude everyday for everything you have been in this life. Every week I try to write ten things I’m grateful for that happened throughout my week. Finding happiness in the little things has helped so much.

 

Developing this coping skills and adding them to your routine may be hard at first. It may take a lot of time as well. Sometimes I still have moments where the issues from my past get to me. I know it’s never going to be 100 percent perfect, and I know that’s okay. I still work hard on bettering myself as person and coping with my trauma.
I’m grateful to have gone this far in life, I’m still growing as well, we all are!

“We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
― Camille Paglia

Hope you all enjoyed this and benefited from reading! I apologize for my short absence. Unfortunately I was dealing with problems with my computer and I had to take it into the shop! I have it back now and I’m so happy to be back on my blog!

Thank you for reading! Please leave comments and feedback if you have any! It’s very much appreciated!

Much love,
Rosie