This can be a tricky topic to go over. Everyone has there own Ideas of self love and how to practice it. And everyone struggles with finding self love at some point in their lives.
Self love, by definition, is
“Regard for one’s well-being and happiness.”
Which is accurate. But you add your own definitions to self-love as well. I would all define it as having both patience and comfort in yourself as a human being. Having comfort in myself is important to me because I believe that we aren’t always going to be 100% happy with ourselves, but we can be content with ourselves.
Self love is something I’ve had issues with in the past, and I still work out practicing it today. I’ve talked about my experience with not loving my body and with body dysmorphic disorder. Read about My Experience with Body Dysmorphia. But I’m here to tell you about how I’m working with struggles and give helpful advice.
Since I’ve already talked about issues with my body. I’m going to focus a little bit more on the insecurities I’ve had with coming to love my personality, and myself when it comes down to how I am academically, socially, Etc.
I’ve always been a shy kid, at school, at work, events, everywhere! I literally got demoted from a job to a position where I didn’t have to interact with costumers as much because I’m just too quiet. I’m also kind of “monotone”. Not super monotone, not like I don’t show any emotions (I actually think I show too much emotion!) I just have a somewhat bland voice, which didn’t work very well for in the costumer service industry.
I hated how I couldn’t talk to people though, I knew what I wanted to say, but the words wouldn’t come out. Blaming my childhood for it to didn’t help, I was just doing so because I wasn’t able to understand myself. It made it worse that I just couldn’t find anyone with a similar issue to mine either.
Learning to love the parts about myself that seemed like they were my weaknesses was hard. I had to learn to understand myself first.
What I began to do-
- I began to give up on judging myself, comparing myself to others and being afraid of what others think. This took a lot of practice, and it probably with for you as well, but its worth it.
- I started to actually try to figure out why I was a “quiet” person. I realized that there is nothing wrong with being shy. It doesn’t make you “antisocial” either. I’m a quiet person but I’m a good listener. I love having long conversation with people, and learning about them and just listening to their stories. I also think that me being quieter has made me think and analyze situations and people a lot more instead of just jumping right into it. I’ve realized how being quiet can be a strength instead of a weakness.
- I’ve realized that every situation that I have been in that my shyness has gotten in the way or has made me embarrassed, that so many other people have been in similar situations. And they made it through just fine. I’m not alone with any issue or insecurity that I may have. The same goes for all of you reading this. Whatever your issue you may think you have,
You are not alone!
I’ve found comfort in myself and in who I am. Valuing myself as a human being has been a huge milestone for me. And with all this, I’ve started to do more for myself and take for my myself to practice self love and self-care.
- Taking a hot bubble bath, and dressing in nice warm clothes afterwards
- Doing one of my favorite hobbies for at least thirty minutes a day, such as reading.
- Planning a relaxation day every once and a while.
- Counting my blessing.
I’ve began to do these things more because I value myself and my time more. These are all things that you can do to practice self love and self-care. You can also add some of your own things to do that you make you feel good!
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball
If you guys what to check out my blog post on self love with your body, I’ll link it again Here!
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