Growing up, I didn’t have friends,
……and the friends I had weren’t very nice.
I remember in the sixth grade my mom bought me a cute pair of sneakers. Everyone in class was complimenting me on them. My only ‘friend’ then went up to me and told me she didn’t even like my shoes, that they looked ‘Ice cream’. I wanted to tell her that I didn’t like her shoes either, or just stand up for myself in some sort of way, but I said nothing.
I’ve dealt with that ‘friend’ for a long time, she would bully me, hang out with tons of people who would always insult me and tell her to not talk to me, I was only her friend because I had no one else.
I didn’t actually get out of this relationship until we parted our ways when we got to high school. She completely stopped talking to me. I was disappointed that she stopped talking to me. It took me a long time to realize that I never did anything wrong. Since then, I have had trouble making good friends. I never had any real friend throughout my life, I would settle for anything, even crappy friends. When I first started high school, I start smoking and drinking anything I could get my hands on, this was because I made a whole new group of friends who was part of ‘that’ crowd. Toward the end of my freshman year, in april, I made a decision to start taking care of myself, to make better friends, and to be happy. This was the best decision I ever made.
Now if a friend of mine is rude, I know what to do. I have to grown the confidence to stand up for myself. I also realized that being rude back won’t make anything better. The main thing that you can do is communicate how you feel. Ask them why they are treating you that way. Tell them you do not want to be mistreated. Something that is hard to realize is that if they aren’t willing to admit they are doing anything wrong. Or if they don’t try to put any effort to change their actions, that they aren’t real friends. If they truly cared about you they would want to make sure you’re happy, and that they don’t hurt you.
Something to always remember is that YOU come first. Make sure you are happy with the friends you have. You should never let anyone bring you down. It took me a long time to realize this, but it’s better to have no friends, than fake friends. Nobody deserves to be mistreated. Always remember to stand up for yourself. ❤
Thank you for reading!